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LdyyR -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/19/2009 7:18:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsStarlett Honestly, when I hear a sub asking to be a 24/7 live in slave right from the get go - It sounds like "Hi! I'm a homeless bum and need a place to live." Exactly. So far every one of the peeps, (keeping it in the flavor), begging to be slaves from day one; wanting to move in asap, has usually turned to be either a parasite, homeless, mentally unbalanced or any of the mentioned combinations. They're generally looking for someone to support their desire to not go out into the world and be a responsible productive human being. These are cases that I've experienced. That being said, this isn't the case for every person wanting to serve 24/7, just many that solicit for such, without, first, trying to establish any kind of human connection based on something other than their fantasy ideas of giving up all responsibility to society. You know this 24/7 slave thing is starting to sound rather appealing. Where can I sign up? I want to be big pympin too. Sign up for a few months, a year, whatever it takes till I'm ready to move on to the next sucka.[8D] Yeah, that's the ticket. [8\|]

NakedHouseboy99 -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/19/2009 8:17:58 AM)
Expect to spend 95% of your time scrubbing toilets, cleaning floors, and performing all of those menial tasks that no dominant woman should have to do - and expect to be ignored by her 95% of the time. The primary job of a 24/7 male slave is to make her life easier and more enjoyable - and most of that will entail you doing the above while she pursues areas of greater interest to her which will likely include other males she finds much more attractive and intersting than you in both a D/s and vanilla sense. It really is all about her and not you - that is the reality of a true 24/7 male slave postion.

CatdeMedici -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/19/2009 8:39:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NakedHouseboy99 Expect to spend 95% of your time scrubbing toilets, cleaning floors, and performing all of those menial tasks that no dominant woman should have to do - and expect to be ignored by her 95% of the time. The primary job of a 24/7 male slave is to make her life easier and more enjoyable - and most of that will entail you doing the above while she pursues areas of greater interest to her which will likely include other males she finds much more attractive and intersting than you in both a D/s and vanilla sense. It really is all about her and not you - that is the reality of a true 24/7 male slave postion. Please do not speak in generalizations, it is like that in SOME Fem Dom Households but far from ALL.

PrincessDonna -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/19/2009 9:23:52 AM)
I'm lost on why there are some trying to let him know how to make it happen!So he changes his profile,pic, and what he wants and POOF, another troll! Really and no one has mentioned that maybe he could state that as a long term goal and start meeting some Dommes and see where it goes from there,stay on the site awhile and find out how things really work,it sounds to me like he's living in his parents basement!This is not in reply to anyone just clicked the wrong button while sorting nipple clamps!LOL

PeonForHer -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/19/2009 9:34:46 AM)
I'm beginning to think that fantasies are like that of the Conservation of Energy in physics - energy can't be destroyed, it can only be transformed. If someone has an impulse towards D/s, it's either going to get shaped the right way or the wrong way, but it's not going to disappear. [;)]

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/19/2009 11:48:22 AM)
You don't need to have a Domme to do activities or have years of experience. He could of been a demo subby or he could play with someone quite regularly over a number of sessions* enough to know an expert level of thiswho while not his domme was his play partner. Doubtful, but I still personally wouldn't call bullshit on someone's level of experience or not unless I knew them personally, and knew for a fact what they have or have not done. Or until I have talked to them and they have proved or dis proved their knowledge or lack of. I did ask however and you did answer so thank you:) quote:* ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Put the pieces together. His post essentially states he has had no luck finding a Domme. His question here indicates that he's only interested in hitting his live-in goal as soon as possible. He's not yet at the point where he's thinking of a relationship instead of a playtime situation. All this indicates that he's had little if any RL experience. He may have scened a few times. But no way could he have gotten the years of experience for an Expert rating. He's blowing smoke. quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom And how do you know he's not an expert in fire play, and before you say age, alone rules it out age isn't indicative on anything one way or another. Give me a more valid reason than age. quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven 5. You claim to be an expert in all kinds of things, including fisting, whips, and fire play. You're obviously trying to blow smoke and fake it. Do you realize how dangerous some of those activities are if done by someone who has no clue what he's doing? Not only are you a liar, but you don't understand the responsibility to be safe.

thishereboi -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/19/2009 12:22:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NakedHouseboy99 Expect to spend 95% of your time scrubbing toilets, cleaning floors, and performing all of those menial tasks that no dominant woman should have to do - and expect to be ignored by her 95% of the time. The primary job of a 24/7 male slave is to make her life easier and more enjoyable - and most of that will entail you doing the above while she pursues areas of greater interest to her which will likely include other males she finds much more attractive and intersting than you in both a D/s and vanilla sense. It really is all about her and not you - that is the reality of a true 24/7 male slave postion. Wow, I know a lot of people in 24/7 situations and none of them act like this. Where are you going to meet these people?

thishereboi -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/19/2009 12:28:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom You don't need to have a Domme to do activities or have years of experience. He could of been a demo subby or he could play with someone quite regularly over a number of sessions* enough to know an expert level of this*who while not his domme was his play partner. Doubtful, but I still personally wouldn't call bullshit on someone's level of experience or not unless I knew them personally, and knew for a fact what they have or have not done. Or until I have talked to them and they have proved or dis proved their knowledge or lack of. I did ask however and you did answer so thank you:) While you make some great points, I have to admit I have trouble with the "expert" in some of the things listed. I have been fisted many times and I find it really hard to come up with anything about it. that would rate an expert label. Now when I am on the top side of it, then I can see it being important to know a great deal about the subject. But when I am on the bottom? Sorry, but basically all you have to do is lay down and relax.

LadyNTrainer -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/19/2009 12:36:57 PM)
There is so much wrong here I can't even begin to articulate it all. A 24/7 live-in D/s situation is a serious relationship and a serious commitment. It's not quite the same, but can be very much like the D/s equivalent to marriage. You're going to be awfully close and intimate in this situation, closer in some ways than a vanilla married couple whether or not you're having sex or sleeping in the same bed. Relationship parameters can differ in D/s, but it's still an intensely intimate situation. Now, would you go around randomly proposing marriage to women and complaining because nobody will marry you - using a totally classless screen name no less - and expect anyone to be even vaguely interested? Mostly the reaction is going to be, "OMG, this guy has NO clue what ANY kind of relationship is about, let alone a 24/7 D/s relationship." And you get kicked to the curb, in most cases about thirty seconds after they read your screen name and decide they really don't need a big pimp in the house who wants to do "69". So, yeah. WTF were you thinking? Dommes are people too, so how about working on being a decent enough human being that one of them may actually want to get to know you, form a relationship with you, and be interested in spending her life with you. Otherwise, you're shit out of luck. It doesn't work in real life the way it does in porno movies, where leather-clad dominatrixes are happy to grab some random dude off the street and force him into 24/7 slavery. You need social skills and relationship skills to get another human being interested in you, and currently you are advertising loud and clear that you have neither. That would be why you're not having any luck.

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/19/2009 8:56:48 PM)
I assume he's the one fisting others, but if he's not maybe he's an expert at laying there and taking it lol. quote: ORIGINAL: thishereboi While you make some great points, I have to admit I have trouble with the "expert" in some of the things listed. I have been fisted many times and I find it really hard to come up with anything about it. that would rate an expert label. Now when I am on the top side of it, then I can see it being important to know a great deal about the subject. But when I am on the bottom? Sorry, but basically all you have to do is lay down and relax.

DVsFox -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/19/2009 9:03:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NakedHouseboy99 Expect to spend 95% of your time scrubbing toilets, cleaning floors, and performing all of those menial tasks that no dominant woman should have to do - and expect to be ignored by her 95% of the time. The primary job of a 24/7 male slave is to make her life easier and more enjoyable - and most of that will entail you doing the above while she pursues areas of greater interest to her which will likely include other males she finds much more attractive and intersting than you in both a D/s and vanilla sense. It really is all about her and not you - that is the reality of a true 24/7 male slave postion. Hmmm, as a 24/7 male slave, this sounds absolutely NOTHING like the life I live. It sounds a lot more like fantasy than reality. DV's Fox

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/19/2009 9:27:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici quote: ORIGINAL: NakedHouseboy99 Expect to spend 95% of your time scrubbing toilets, cleaning floors, and performing all of those menial tasks that no dominant woman should have to do - and expect to be ignored by her 95% of the time. The primary job of a 24/7 male slave is to make her life easier and more enjoyable - and most of that will entail you doing the above while she pursues areas of greater interest to her which will likely include other males she finds much more attractive and intersting than you in both a D/s and vanilla sense. It really is all about her and not you - that is the reality of a true 24/7 male slave postion. Please do not speak in generalizations, it is like that in SOME Fem Dom Households but far from ALL. Shhhhh...don't spoil it. Too many of them already think we should be Bondage Barbies ready to cater to their every fantasy at a moment's notice. Give this guy's attitude time to rub off on the Do-Me Brigade. Please?

MsStarlett -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/20/2009 7:22:42 AM)
NakedHouseboy... If you know anyone who likes to live that way - PLEASE send him my way. I really need one. (I still think those guys all rode off on the Unicorns)

daintydimples -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/20/2009 7:41:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom I assume he's the one fisting others, but if he's not maybe he's an expert at laying there and taking it lol. This really did make me laugh out loud!!

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/20/2009 9:22:26 AM)
yay:) Unless that was an oh god you're so stupid I have to laugh, laugh., quote: ORIGINAL: daintydimples quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom I assume he's the one fisting others, but if he's not maybe he's an expert at laying there and taking it lol. This really did make me laugh out loud!!

thetammyjo -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/20/2009 11:01:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer There is so much wrong here I can't even begin to articulate it all. A 24/7 live-in D/s situation is a serious relationship and a serious commitment. It's not quite the same, but can be very much like the D/s equivalent to marriage. You're going to be awfully close and intimate in this situation, closer in some ways than a vanilla married couple whether or not you're having sex or sleeping in the same bed. Relationship parameters can differ in D/s, but it's still an intensely intimate situation. Now, would you go around randomly proposing marriage to women and complaining because nobody will marry you - using a totally classless screen name no less - and expect anyone to be even vaguely interested? Mostly the reaction is going to be, "OMG, this guy has NO clue what ANY kind of relationship is about, let alone a 24/7 D/s relationship." And you get kicked to the curb, in most cases about thirty seconds after they read your screen name and decide they really don't need a big pimp in the house who wants to do "69". So, yeah. WTF were you thinking? Dommes are people too, so how about working on being a decent enough human being that one of them may actually want to get to know you, form a relationship with you, and be interested in spending her life with you. Otherwise, you're shit out of luck. It doesn't work in real life the way it does in porno movies, where leather-clad dominatrixes are happy to grab some random dude off the street and force him into 24/7 slavery. You need social skills and relationship skills to get another human being interested in you, and currently you are advertising loud and clear that you have neither. That would be why you're not having any luck. I read through all the posts and this is the one I have to agree most with. 24/7 or M/s or whatever you want to call it, is unlikely to be what anyone of us reads about in erotica or porn or views in movies and film clips. It really is about creating a life together where your authority dynamic is the central foundation, the starting point for all that you do together and to some degree even apart from each other. The OP needs to start by meeting folks who live 24/7 and learning how different from an similar to each other all those relationships are. Once he's done that he can have a clearer image of what he wants. Only then can he then determine a good way to go about finding it.

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/20/2009 11:49:30 AM)
I also forgot to mention, even as the receiver of being fisted wouldn't you want to know everything about it, and being well versed on a topic, going so far as to know everything there is to know even when all you're doing is lying there being fisted, then wouldn't you still be an expert on being fisted, because A you've had it done to you so much, and B because you took the time to learn everything there was to know about it? quote: ORIGINAL: thishereboi While you make some great points, I have to admit I have trouble with the "expert" in some of the things listed. I have been fisted many times and I find it really hard to come up with anything about it. that would rate an expert label. Now when I am on the top side of it, then I can see it being important to know a great deal about the subject. But when I am on the bottom? Sorry, but basically all you have to do is lay down and relax.

NYLass -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/20/2009 12:02:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadySweetOrSour OMG, I totally misread. I thought the name was byg gymp.[:D] I need a new prescription for my glasses. I thought it had pygmy in it.

LadyConstanze -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/21/2009 4:12:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsStarlett Honestly, when I hear a sub asking to be a 24/7 live in slave right from the get go - It sounds like "Hi! I'm a homeless bum and need a place to live." Pretty much so, and the idea of working my butt off to keep some slave in food somehow is not very appealing. I picture the situation as such: Coming back from quite a stressful day, expected to change into my fetish gear and perform some intricate bondage, needle play, etc. in exchange for having the dishes done - somehow my dishwasher sounds like the better deal and a cleaner isn't too expensive, I don't need to give up a room for her or feed her, she will not be underfoot all the time and doesn't expect more than her wages (which seem to be cheaper than paying the upkeep of a live in slave) - additionally I get enough time to play at my leisure and how I want.

Mistressbinature -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/23/2009 1:56:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bygpymp69 i am trying to get help i wanna be a mistresses live in slave and havent been having any luck any advice on a more efficent way to do this would be appreciated Put something in your profile that would make someone want you. Do not assume that we will come looking for you, it is you who will need to come to use. You picture makes you look like a lost puppy, not someone who is confident in his ability to meet a Mistress's needs, even if you are kind of cute ;)

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