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DemonKia -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/23/2009 5:05:45 AM)

FR, after read thru

Hmmmmmm, most of a week later & his profile is the same, the same, & the last-on date shows he was on yesterday. So . .. .. . So much for the grateful slave making use of the asked-for sharing of knowledge offered up in this thread by a coterie of BDSMers, many of them dominant women . .. . . . *le sigh*

[8D] & [8|]

Sometimes I get the impression that these kinds of enquiries are really solicitations for the 'secret handshake of BDSM' that gets one into the porno temple where all the super-sexy, gorgeous, young, experienced dominatrices lurk . . . . . *snicker*



OttersSwim -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/23/2009 6:07:31 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DemonKia

FR, after read thru

Hmmmmmm, most of a week later & his profile is the same, the same, & the last-on date shows he was on yesterday. So . .. .. . So much for the grateful slave making use of the asked-for sharing of knowledge offered up in this thread by a coterie of BDSMers, many of them dominant women . .. . . . *le sigh*

[8D] & [8|]

Sometimes I get the impression that these kinds of enquiries are really solicitations for the 'secret handshake of BDSM' that gets one into the porno temple where all the super-sexy, gorgeous, young, experienced dominatrices lurk . . . . . *snicker*


I knew it existed...I knew it! 
 
[;)]



DemonKia -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/23/2009 6:41:15 AM)


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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

quote:

ORIGINAL: DemonKia

Sometimes I get the impression that these kinds of enquiries are really solicitations for the 'secret handshake of BDSM' that gets one into the porno temple where all the super-sexy, gorgeous, young, experienced dominatrices lurk . . . . . *snicker*


I knew it existed...I knew it! 
 
[;)]


*snicker*

Yeah, you & a bazillion others . . . . . . I see 'em show up at munches pretty regularly, looking all disappointed at the ordinary-looking, middle-aged people . . . . . . Clearly wondering where all the hard-bodied, plastic-tittied, 20-something kittens-with-whips are . .. . . .

& I imagine they spend the next few decades 'wandering in the desert', seeking after the big myth . . . . .



DarkSteven -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/23/2009 7:08:28 AM)

Kia, my people spent forty years wandering in the desert and till now, I never understood what for.

Do the 20something Dominas take golden calves as payment?



ownedslavebitch -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/23/2009 7:16:10 AM)

As a male slave that has been in this way of life although the outside of a Domme /Dom is pleasant to look at the true feeling and care come from the inside . For to get the physical of our way of life is fine but many miss out on the true beauty of BSDM of service ,mental and physical aspect love honor and obey, Just my thoughts is all from an ol domestic service slave



Vikingboy -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/23/2009 8:58:08 PM)

I would like, if I may, point out to you dear bygpymp69 that I have been a 24/7 slave for quite a long time and you sound like either you have had an expert Dominatrix to train you in every aspect of alternetive lifestyle, or you are publishing your wishlist of things you would like to experience.

I have had 2 extremely good Femdom Ladies to show me around as slave and I have yet to experience many of the great things BDSM has to offer a slave in 24/7 lifestyle.

I hope you will have a good tripe around the wonderful world of BDSM and alternetive lifestyle bygpymp69, and remember what a little advice a nice lady told me once: you can be a slave for a lifetime and still miss out on many experiences of the lifestyle.

With respect,
vikingboy.



DominaAmy925 -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/23/2009 9:00:10 PM)

First to ask right off to be someones 24/7 really dose sound like I need some one to take care of me and just use me as a play thing. If you really want to have a 24/7 relationship you need to work on it. Meeting that one that fits you. This is not something that happens over night. I know.
When I get a message asking me do you want a 24/7 slave...please I delete the message. It just shows that you have no idea of what you want to ask a stranger.



LadyConstanze -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/24/2009 4:48:37 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Kia, my people spent forty years wandering in the desert and till now, I never understood what for.

Do the 20something Dominas take golden calves as payment?




30something don't, especially not since they read the OT and know that the golden calves (though I thought it was just one) was ground to dust when Moses came down from the mountain, so you're trying to offer fictional payment? I guess it might work with a fictional Domme who wants to spend it in a fictional shoe and leather shop...



Sunnyfey -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/24/2009 4:51:57 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Kia, my people spent forty years wandering in the desert and till now, I never understood what for.

Do the 20something Dominas take golden calves as payment?




30something don't, especially not since they read the OT and know that the golden calves (though I thought it was just one) was ground to dust when Moses came down from the mountain, so you're trying to offer fictional payment? I guess it might work with a fictional Domme who wants to spend it in a fictional shoe and leather shop...


Dark, they have to be diamond studded also....God dont you know anything?



XYisInferior -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/24/2009 8:40:38 PM)


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ORIGINAL: NakedHouseboy99

Expect to spend 95% of your time scrubbing toilets, cleaning floors, and performing all of those menial tasks that no dominant woman should have to do - and expect to be ignored by her 95% of the time. The primary job of a 24/7 male slave is to make her life easier and more enjoyable. It really is all about her and not you - that is the reality of a true 24/7 male slave postion.


Sounds like you know my Mistress. [:D]



jasada89 -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/25/2009 2:01:18 PM)

i think you should just pay for a mistress to play with u for a day its rude if u dont wanna pay as a livein slave aint that kinda part of the deal you work for her and you will get off when she says not when u want to just saying



slavekal -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/26/2009 5:56:11 AM)

I am always amused by the comments of haters.  They make it sound like attractive women have no right to be dommes, or for that matter, to even exist.  Terms like "Barbie domme" and such reveal jealousy and bitterness.  It is not a crime for a young good looking guy to want to be with a young good looking chick.  The fact that they are into some kink does not change that.  Gorgeous women can be great dommes.  So can average ones or even ugly ones.  Mistress Dolly, or Sahara Eve, as she is now calling herself, appears to be about as genuine as they come.  And she is fitness model hot.  She's not the only one, either.  I serve a very attractive dominant woman.  And just because she is beautiful physically, it doesn't mean that she is stupid or of low character.  She is everything a woman should be, believe me.  I don't deserve her.
The way we got down that road is someone pointed out that the starter of this thread has taken none of the advice offered to heart.  I will never understand that behavior.  I personally know several submissive men who seem to refuse to want to make a real effort to meet a Mistress.  They put up half assed profiles, often with no pics.  They don't go to parties or events, at least not very often.  They make initial online contact with a lady, then they disappear.  Why? Is it fear?  Laziness?  I can't figure it out.  Being the slave of a dominant woman is very important to me, so I have always either been with a domme, or I was actively trying to find one to the best of my abilities.  



DarkSteven -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/26/2009 6:15:28 AM)

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ORIGINAL: slavekal

The way we got down that road is someone pointed out that the starter of this thread has taken none of the advice offered to heart.  I will never understand that behavior.  I personally know several submissive men who seem to refuse to want to make a real effort to meet a Mistress.  They put up half assed profiles, often with no pics.  They don't go to parties or events, at least not very often.  They make initial online contact with a lady, then they disappear.  Why? Is it fear?  Laziness?  I can't figure it out.  Being the slave of a dominant woman is very important to me, so I have always either been with a domme, or I was actively trying to find one to the best of my abilities.  


Your post could be translated as "If something's important to me, I do what I can to make it happen."

OP came here with a question about how he could get his objective as quickly and easily as possible.  He got advice about his attitude, his picture, his writing style, getting a job, etc.  Nobody told him about a fabled place where all the women are Dommes and they're all looking for live-in play subbies.  (I know, Ireland meets the first criterion...)

OP's just been hit in the face that a goal of his will require EFFORT.  It's a huge thing and is a step in the maturing process.  He now has the choice between remaking himself to achieve a goal, or just complaining that Dommes are bitches who just don't know what they want.  I hope he chooses the former - good sub males are not easy to find.

And, kal, the fact that a display of simple immaturity confuses you, is a compliment to your own maturity level.



slavekal -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/26/2009 6:28:15 AM)

Thanks.  I have to admit to being pretty immature sometimes myself, though.  I guess I can't understand how it is that so many guys seem to fall into that category.  And what they don't realize is that it is actually fun to seek and find a great domme.  It's like a hunt or a game.  It's exciting.  It is a myth that there are no good dommes out there.  I have known so many in my life.  Many of them, I met pre internet.  It's just so doable.



stella41b -> RE: wanna be a live in slave.... (7/27/2009 3:55:17 AM)

FR

I think you're missing the point completely here.

You don't seem to have any answer to the two most pertinent questions concerning 24/7, and these are basically the same two questions most commonly asked in life:

What can you do?
What can you offer?

Offering the possibility of play 24/7 just doesn't cut it. It really doesn't. I think in the majority of cases play isn't even a daily occurrence let alone 24/7 as most of the time is taken up by life and its glorious reality - work, chores, responsibilities to other people (e.g. family), getting the shopping done, the washing done, dinner on the table, etc.

If you don't want to pay or cannot pay then what do you have to offer? What are you able to provide on a daily basis or are prepared to do on a daily basis which doesn't involve BDSM? Can you keep a house clean and run a household? Can you do other work for your domme?

Another thing is why are you looking for 24/7 from the get go? This is perhaps the biggest issue of the lot - not only why are you seeking to become a 24/7 slave but also what stops you from living independently on your own?

Is there something you're running away from or trying to avoid or escape in becoming 24/7?

Whatever it is 24/7 isn't a solution or a way out - at best whatever it is you're running from or trying to avoid will catch you just the same and at worst you will only be compounding your problems and making them much worse, not least by involving other people.

I see someone who is 'closed', not giving anything away which is the complete opposite to what you need to be if you still insist on being 24/7 and this arouses suspicion right from the get go and it's nigh impossible to allay the suspicions of a potential dominant in such a situation.

If you are thinking of 24/7 just to get away from something then you better start doing what you can to deal with it on your own and work towards resolving the issues, which is the bare minimum any potential dominant would expect to see and have evidence of.

Bear in mind I'm writing from experience here, I've served 24/7 and I've also jumped in with both feet right into a 24/7 situation which turned out to be a complete disaster. Fortunately I was able to get myself out of it but it's not an experience I would recommend anyone to try out first hand.

You've been given lots of good advice by others on this thread and if anything I would hope that my posting here would cause you to think again, and to think long and hard about what you really want and whether you still want to go for 24/7 service.

And you know, it's much better to be hit with the bucket of hard cold reality early on than when it's far too late to do anything about it.

Good luck.



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