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wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/17/2009 11:32:39 PM   
bygpymp69


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Status: offline 		i am trying to get help i wanna be a mistresses live in slave and havent been having any luck any advice on a more efficent way to do this would be appreciated
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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/17/2009 11:37:04 PM   
Lockit


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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 3:11:52 AM   
islandgyrl


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Status: offline 		According to his profile he's an expert in just about everything. Well, "tolerates" no strings housework, but an expert in many areas.

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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 3:27:19 AM   
LadySweetOrSour


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Status: offline 		Try not using words like "wanna".

Edited to add: You don't expect to be paid to be a live in slave, as long as you get to play a lot? Hmmm, I wonder why no one's interested?

Maybe you should indentify as a dominant, then you can order what you like.

< Message edited by LadySweetOrSour -- 7/18/2009 3:31:23 AM >

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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 3:28:33 AM   
CarrieO


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Status: offline 		You're 24yrs old and an expert at more things than some people I know who have been doing WIITWD for over 15 years.  An expert at serving as a maid or butler, needle play, shibari, whips, knife play, hypnosis and the list goes on.  Wow, I can't believe you don't have women beating down your door begging you to serve them!!

Humility is a very appealing thing.All you seem to offer is play...is this true?  Could that be why women aren't taking you serious?

ETA....I agree with LadySweetOrSour, words like "wanna" do little to prove your ability to articulate.

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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 4:40:13 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		The easiest way is to just move your stuff in and hope she doesn't kick you out.

Seriously, you're asking the wrong question, and about the wrong situation.  Your situation should be about getting a relationship with a Mistress, that COULD be come a live in situation.  And the question SHOULD be about what you need to do to make that happen.

From reading your profile and post, here are some observations.

1. Your profile name is bygpymp69.  What kind of Mistress would associate with someone who hinted that he is a pimp?  And the "69" suggests that this is all about sex... which it isn't. 

2. You're too lazy to use capitalization or grammar or spell words out.

3. Your picture shows a grumpy looking man with a covered head.  Is that your only picture?

4. Your profile states that you want a live in situation without paying anything.  Sounds like free room and board.  If you have a job, why would you not be expected to pay something to offset your living costs?  If you don't, then get one.  A Mistress who works will not appreciate a nonworker who wants play all the time.

5. You claim to be an expert in all kinds of things, including fisting, whips, and fire play.  You're obviously trying to blow smoke and fake it.  Do you realize how dangerous some of those activities are if done by someone who has no clue what he's doing?  Not only are you a liar, but you don't understand the responsibility to be safe.

I suggest you do a lot of vanilla dating first and learn what women like before you try to connect with a Mistress.


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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 4:45:02 AM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		Honestly, when I hear a sub asking to be a 24/7 live in slave right from the get go - It sounds like "Hi!  I'm a homeless bum and need a place to live."

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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 5:08:15 AM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		It wouldn't hurt if you worked on the spelling, capitalization, and grammar.  "Wanna" is not a word.  There is no such word as "havent".  Perhaps you should seek out Mistresses who are seeking a live in slave.  There are several on CM.

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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 5:20:12 AM   
LadySweetOrSour


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Status: offline 		OMG, I totally misread. I thought the name was byg gymp.

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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 5:23:54 AM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: LadySweetOrSour

OMG, I totally misread. I thought the name was byg gymp.


Yeah, your classiness filter kicked in.


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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 12:42:40 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		i would nt condemn him slavekal for his use of language. wanna actually is a word.  And proud as punch to be irish it  comes from dublinese  as in Your not goin out tonight wanna bet.  howya is also a word as is craic. And he could be here for the craic ever thought of that.  And creepers he only is lookin for an ould Mistress whats so wrong with that?  Maybe he wanna try a bit cuter and compliment the Woman in his profile. Suggestion maith an cailin- a fine looking Woman.  You see the good old Gaelic it will never lead you astray
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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 3:25:24 PM   
CatdeMedici


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Status: offline 		At 24 you are an expert in almost everything? Why does so much perfection need a Mistress to get an overly self indulgent ass in line? I'm sure you can beat yourself way better than I can.

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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 4:51:18 PM   
Arpig


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Status: offline 		An expert at being a butler....funny I have known of people who served for over 30 years and who didn't consider themselves qualified to be a butler. Its a lot more than answering the door and serving drinks. The butler runs the entire household from top to bottem and does so in a way so that it is invisible to the employer. With a good butler, things just happen the way they are supposed to. I know this because I grew up overseas and we had butlers, some good and some excellant. The best, Rufino in India, was so proficient that we kids went to him with our disputes and he dealt with them and our parents never had a clue there had been any issues...that is a butler!

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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 5:04:29 PM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		Another problem with having a live in situation as a goal is that it is forcing the issue.  Like when someone says that they want to be married by a certain age.  They are not marrying because they found their ideal mate.  They are just marrying whoever kind of fits the suit (The Johnny Bravo phenomenon).  If you find a great Mistress, and after some time, you both agree that live in is the right situation, go for it.  But you can't force something like that.

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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 5:21:36 PM   
DrkJourney


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quote:

ORIGINAL: bygpymp69

i am trying to get help i wanna be a mistresses live in slave and havent been having any luck any advice on a more efficent way to do this would be appreciated


Only advice I have is to decide what you want.  You state that you are a "slave", yet you will "take" anything; Dominant, submissive,switch.  You say you want 24/7 live in slave, yet you will settle for roommate or poly, these two things are totally different dynamics.  A roommate is  one who shares the rent, poly, are you ready to be in a house where you are not going to be number one?  and trust me, I have friends who are in that lifestyle and they all have to work, and do chores, no one just sits around like a toy waiting to be played with....what is it exactly are you looking for? 

Your profile is short and says nothing. Along with the above, you say you don't want to pay money, just play, and the willing to relocate doesn't seem like you are looking for a true fit, just the first thing that comes along.   If I were still looking, and I read your profile, it just seems you are looking for a free ride, not saying you are, but through the years on here I've run into a lot that definitely are.   Times are tough, not saying that you should pay all bills while they sit around eating bon bons, but, everyone has to pull his weight, "play" doesn't pay the rent or put food on the table.  I don't know a lot of people that is looking for someone to raise.   If rent/work free is what you seek you might try working in an applicable environment, like a country club or some place where there are wealthy people that you can endear your self to and get in that way.

I think the "expert" angle has been covered, but I do have to say it doesn't seem very realistic or sincere, do you even know what half of those things are?  And as a Domme, why would I want someone that describes himself as a pimp?  I am in charge in this house, why would I want someone that implies that they are in charge....that is what a pimp is, he is definitely not the submissive in the relationship.  I better pic would help as well.

Bottom line, if you are serious, stop trying to be such a "playa" and take this seriously.  Leave all that for the teenagers, time to be an adult now, especially if you want to get into an adult lifestyle, anything less and you might find the wrong thing and end up getting hurt, and I"m not talking about your heart here.

It took me years, but I finally found the one compatible with me and I had to go through a lot of "frog" profiles and persons to get where I am today.

If you're serious...let people know what you really want and how you really feel and you will get a lot further...just be patient it will happen.  You've only been here less than a month...give it time,  you'll be just fine.  And good luck out there  :>

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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 7:17:24 PM   
PeonForHer


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Status: offline 		Oh gawd.  Baptism of fire here, bygpymp.  It's very often that way.

Just to say - this is all good advice.  Carving the fantasy into real life takes work. 

But don't lose the fantasy. 

And good luck!

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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 7:39:38 PM   
AcademyForSlaves


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Status: offline 		Hi.

I agree with lots of pointers DarkSteven gave you. Here's a few more tidbits of advice.

-Be willing to start at the bottom and work your way up. This might include training and not just in person. A Mistress might want to filter and weed out the fakes by making you jump thru some hoops and tests 1st. If your not into doing that then your not too serious and she'll be happy to see you leave.

-Don't expect a Mistress who your a stranger to to welcome you into her home with open arms. She'll want to get to know you 1st.

-Don't be using the 24-7 thing for a free session. If you act like a client with a long list of things you want to do and a scripted fantasy she might treat you like a client and expect a fee. If you don't want to pay a fee then don't treat her like a prodom. It's that simple.

Hope this helps.

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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 9:02:25 PM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		And how do you know he's not an expert in fire play, and before you say age, alone rules it out age isn't indicative on anything one way or another. Give me a more valid reason than age.
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven



5. You claim to be an expert in all kinds of things, including fisting, whips, and fire play.  You're obviously trying to blow smoke and fake it.  Do you realize how dangerous some of those activities are if done by someone who has no clue what he's doing?  Not only are you a liar, but you don't understand the responsibility to be safe.


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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 10:36:31 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Put the pieces together.  His post essentially states he has had no luck finding a Domme.  His question here indicates that he's only interested in hitting his live-in goal as soon as possible.  He's not yet at the point where he's thinking of a relationship instead of a playtime situation.

All this indicates that he's had little if any RL experience.

He may have scened a few times.  But no way could he have gotten the years of experience for an Expert rating.  He's blowing smoke.

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ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom

And how do you know he's not an expert in fire play, and before you say age, alone rules it out age isn't indicative on anything one way or another. Give me a more valid reason than age.
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven



5. You claim to be an expert in all kinds of things, including fisting, whips, and fire play.  You're obviously trying to blow smoke and fake it.  Do you realize how dangerous some of those activities are if done by someone who has no clue what he's doing?  Not only are you a liar, but you don't understand the responsibility to be safe.




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RE: wanna be a live in slave.... - 7/18/2009 10:57:13 PM   
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i am trying to get help i wanna be a mistresses live in slave and havent been having any luck any advice on a more efficent way to do this would be appreciated


You want to be a live-in slave? Yet by your nickname, all I can see is that you are a wannabe. A word to the wish, don't appear needy, change the pic to something more formal, not a gangsta wannabe and for Lords sakes, get rid of the cap. All I am picking up is a playa wannabe from your picture here. Don't get me started on the grammar! (I know I am not exactly a prime sample of grammar myself, I blame the old learning disability).

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