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Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 12:41:22 AM

spittlelick

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And i identify as a slave but i was not comfortable with Him being HIV positive. Was i wrong, should i have served Him? i feeel like i violated a code of real slavery?

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 12:47:39 AM

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You are forty years old and ought to know the answer to that one. You have the talk down pat... so it's not like you are a lost, confused and unaware person.

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 3:10:29 AM

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Posts like this are so worrying.

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 3:11:37 AM

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He has HIV, you dont want HIV....

Put your big girl panties on and think about this for a minute.....

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 3:13:25 AM

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Posts like this are so worrying.

Thanks for your help.

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 3:23:28 AM

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Posts like this are so worrying.

Thanks for your help.

This is a silly question, poated by someone in a panic. If the Op would sit down for ten minutes and think it through, she would find out she has no reason to feel guilty because she said no to a man who has a life thretening communicable virus. She dogged a bullet on this one. And should remember that.

and KaityK has the right to her opinon that threads like this throw commen sence out the fucking window because the Op was to busy thinking about the fact she might not be a "true" slave, instead of worrying bout her own SAFETY. Because she pretty much saved her own life, by saying no. She dogged a bullet, luckily she found a guy who wasent a total asshole, in that he actually TOLD her he had the HIV virus.

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 3:25:35 AM

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I'm a dominant. Doesn't mean I expect every submissive or slave to fall at my feet. What code do you think you're violating exactly? The code of not wanting HIV???

"Real" slave bullshit is exactly that. Bullshit. YOU choose who you submit to, otherwise you'd be serving everyone in the world who identified as dominant, and you don't do that do you?

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 3:31:34 AM

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If the Op would sit down for ten minutes and think it through, she would find out she has no reason to feel guilty...

Maybe all the threads in these forums are unncessary. Or maybe they're all necessary. Or maybe something in between? In any case, who are we to decide which threads aren't necessary? If the OP felt the need to post, then in my opinion the thread has purpose. It doesn't appear to break the forum rules, or be trying to troll for reactions, as far as I can tell. Seems legit. I doubt you'd like people coming into your threads and saying "This should never have been said, tsk tsk. She should have just figured it out on her own."

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and KaityK has the right to her opinon

And so do I, and so do you. Sweet! :)

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luckily she found a guy who wasent a total asshole, in that he actually TOLD her he had the HIV virus.

Yeah, bigtime.

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 3:35:34 AM

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No, what I ment to say was, not that the post is irrelevent, or her feeling are not nessicary, its more the fact of, as a human being you shouldent feel guilty for not commiting what *could* be suicide.

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 6:10:44 AM

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And i identify as a slave but i was not comfortable with Him being HIV positive. Was i wrong, should i have served Him? i feeel like i violated a code of real slavery?

A very on point answer.

Short answer, no. No you haven't violated any codes, because they don't exist. Different groups have their traditions, but none can be supported better than any other. You make your rules, even as a slave.

Even if, as some people here could tell you, you engage in 100% TPE, no choices, 1800's style slavery... You still have one trump card. You can always walk away from a situation.

One last note: Someone who identifies as a slave is not a slave to anyone who calls themselves a master. A slave is property to a group or single person. All others are considered equals. My pet has orders to treat all others as equal to her, unless told otherwise.

I honestly do not expect spittle to write back regarding his personal growth because I don't expect him to read this. But these core basics to submission are crucial to anyone lacking them. I hope I was just feeding a troll, but had I not been...

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One last note, consider RACK: Risk Aware Consensual Kink. The basic tenants of the theory are "You do what you gotta do, but make sure everyone knows what they're getting into, and chooses to continue of their own volition any way."

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 6:26:27 AM

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Did anyone notice that his profile says he is a male straight slave, and that this post is about serving a "master" and not a mistress? doesnt this raise some questions?

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 6:38:43 AM

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You two weren't compatible and that is the biggest thing in these relationships (as in all) you have to be compatible. So no you were right to walk away so that you can find someone that you are compatible with on all levels.

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 7:09:02 AM

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And i identify as a slave but i was not comfortable with Him being HIV positive. Was i wrong, should i have served Him? i feeel like i violated a code of real slavery?

Real slavery?
code?

Dayum it all to hell...why the fuck am I the last person to know that real slavery has a code?

Ya'll have been holding out on me

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 7:49:18 AM

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And i identify as a slave but i was not comfortable with Him being HIV positive. Was i wrong, should i have served Him? i feeel like i violated a code of real slavery?

Real slavery?
code?

Dayum it all to hell...why the fuck am I the last person to know that real slavery has a code?

Ya'll have been holding out on me

Only because you messed up the code word and secret handshake.
*darts eyes left and right*
But if you really want a copy of the code, I could hook you up. I know a guy at the super-secret-European-school-of-all-things-slavery.
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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 7:52:22 AM

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Did anyone notice that his profile says he is a male straight slave, and that this post is about serving a "master" and not a mistress? doesnt this raise some questions?

And? Have you thought of the fact that you can catch HIV from non sexual contact?

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 7:52:25 AM

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Only because you messed up the code word and secret handshake.
*darts eyes left and right*
But if you really want a copy of the code, I could hook you up. I know a guy at the super-secret-European-school-of-all-things-slavery.
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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 7:52:25 AM

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Doesn't raise even one question for me. I assumed he was a male slave, and bias or not, I also assumed he was considering serving a male.
But would it matter?
Male, female, gay, straight, kinky, it all comes down to the same thing, we are responsible for the choices we make. To question the choice because they think it is not "true", should be more of a concern as I would wonder if all the sparkplugs were firing.
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Did anyone notice that his profile says he is a male straight slave, and that this post is about serving a "master" and not a mistress? doesnt this raise some questions?

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 8:00:48 AM

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Did anyone notice that his profile says he is a male straight slave, and that this post is about serving a "master" and not a mistress? doesnt this raise some questions?

Nope. Straight male slaves serving masters and straight female slaves serving mistresses is much more common than one might think. The act of having sex does not necessarily determine one's sexual preference.

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 8:34:25 AM

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There are many non-sexual ways of serving as well. Not everyone is a relationship has sex.

Just saying.

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RE: Turned a Master down - 7/18/2009 8:38:02 AM

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There are many non-sexual ways of serving as well. Not everyone is a relationship has sex.

Just saying.

You are very correct. zaphira has been in this relationship for three years now; she and Master do NOT have a sexual relationship of any kind. It is purely service orientated only.

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