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RE: not seeking pity - 7/20/2009 7:18:47 AM   
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RE: not seeking pity - 7/20/2009 7:25:26 AM   
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RE: not seeking pity - 7/20/2009 7:42:59 AM   
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RE: not seeking pity - 7/20/2009 8:14:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		New on here, came across your post randomly, and i want to help. i have been in similar situations. i feel so bad for you and i don't mean to be negative but rather prepare you for some things as you go looking for some assistance, a little help that you more than deserve. i hope you don't encounter the same difficulties i have when seeking help, but i too in the past looked for help, after admitting that my depression issues was a real problem in my ability to keep a job, support myself, after 25 years of it, i went through voc rehab, they ran me around for appointments and tests, heard nothing for months, then got a letter congratulating me on the job THEY found me. i was then at a low paying gas station job with a boss that liked to grab my boobs and talk dirty, a job voc rehab had nothing to do with me finding. applied for ssd/ssi december 2005, still waiting, had a hearing a few weeks ago. It may be my issues, i hate asking for help (you very much sound that way too), to do so was quite a leap, created much anxiety, contributed to depression, worthlessness, abandonment feelings. Random jobs, low pay, physically painful jobs have kept a roof over my head.
All that being said, try to steal yourself against the possibility that your seeking the little bit of help that you more than deserve, itself makes you feel bad.
There seems to be people on here that care, let them help/provide if they can, it will do them well.
I hope the condo takes months and months to sell. Taking legal action against a family member is not easy, but if you were allowed to live there, told you could count on that place, you do have some legal rights.
You sound like you are so used to not having anyone to depend on, me too, but the simple fact is, most people who are doing "ok" by the world's standards have had all kinds of support and encouragement.
If you are used to situations where someone says things will be ok, then they turn around and want to sell the place you are living, know that is wrong of THEM. This is not all about you failing.
Sorry to go on, you are being so strong, but i get the feeling you have had to be, hope things improve for you. Let me know if there is anything i can help you with on here.
From my understanding, if you are not officially "disabled" by SS, the housing options aren't open to you. If going into the hospitial will get you that designation, then go, but that condo might not sell for a year or two, i hope it doesn't.


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RE: not seeking pity - 7/20/2009 8:31:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		How about the idea of becoming a live-in caregiver of some kind.... either a nanny for a small child, or a companion for the elderly?   Many of these positions don't even require certification, a lot of people just want to hire someone caring and trustworthy.  That would give you both a paycheck and a free place to live.

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RE: not seeking pity - 7/20/2009 8:32:25 AM   
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I have a very good neighbor, who happens to be president on the board. He told me he will take his good old time to permit anyont buying it. In the mean time I going to see if i can buy it with gov. help and that will be the end of that. I setting up appointments this morning. My family forgot one thing about me, I am a warrior.


To everyone else wow you are are awesome

edited, please excuse my inability to type, formate and make my sentences pretty.

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RE: not seeking pity - 7/20/2009 9:08:56 AM   
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Sweetie, things will work out better than you expect, have hope and faith and know that you have friends here. You sound so admirable, filled with strength, determination and courage, something many people lack.

My thoughts and prayers are with you......




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RE: not seeking pity - 7/20/2009 9:31:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ocean, I really hope you can pull off the win of a decade there! I haven't heard much about help with buying a home except through like Habitat and they typically do rehab houses for the working poor. There used to be a program that helped through HUD, but I am not sure how much that is used now.

Having been in a similar situation, I know I found few resources and was unstable for a few years.  I had no idea... no one told me from any agency of the on site buildings for the elderly or disabled.  I was ever so happy when I found out, but pissed no one had told me! When you spend a winter... a cold harsh winter in a garage that looks like it will fall down... but was dry walled, no plumbing or heater... it tends to piss you off that no one told you!  But I was independent and loved my lil garage and made it homey.  Of course I practically sat on a space heater when it was three below and everything froze... but I loved that I had it, it could have been worse! 

But do have as many backup plans as you can find.  Find out about housing in your area for the elderly and disabled.  Most bigger cities have them and in our town that was about 80,000 at the time, we had four on site apt complexes and three were for the elderly and disabled. It was funded in part through HUD and all you needed was one document from the doctor that said you could benefit from being there and you could get in as fast as they have an apt for you. In my case, one day. You don't have to be on ssd... I wasn't.  I have a small income from past due um support that wasn't paid for fourteen years.  Many these days have a waiting list, but get on it in case plan A doesn't work.

And of course that other option we spoke about will be there if you need it!

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RE: not seeking pity - 7/20/2009 10:29:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW



Here's to a productive week!

DC



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Thank you for cheering me on!!!

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RE: not seeking pity - 7/20/2009 1:13:44 PM   
oceanwinds


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Status: offline 		Just a catch up note:
I got the information, and was surprised to see there is more available for me then I thought. Got the papers filled out. I did manage that. Couldnt work cause if not focus on this i just sit and cry. Hopefull can work tomorrow. My clients problaby would then my tears are for them:)



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RE: not seeking pity - 7/21/2009 5:04:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ocean I am so pleased to hear about the steps forward you are taking. Sending you lots of hugs

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RE: not seeking pity - 7/21/2009 7:25:03 AM   
oceanwinds


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Status: offline 		Thank you wandersalone
By the way I love your outfit, it is something i would wear:)

I havent been able to work the past few days, and exhausted, but am focus on getting government assisitence done. I have good news, if I can fight to keep my condo, buy getting assistence to buy it with a group that helps low income families, my neighbors have offer me their other condo they own. I thank those who offered me a home to stay till I got on my feet. that touched my heart.
I thank all of you for your kind words. Now I just looking for the proper sword for this warrior:) Use tohave one .
blessings
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RE: not seeking pity - 7/21/2009 7:36:24 AM   
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OceanWinds...you have just shown me a true example of courage.


Coming from you that means the world to me. Thank you for honoring me.
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RE: not seeking pity - 7/21/2009 7:06:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ocean,

There is a wonderful program all over the country called NACA.com for buying a home. There are requirements, but they are workable. You do not need a down payment  or closing costs and credit scores are not an issue.
The interest rate at this time is 4%.   Please see if there is a group with a meeting soon in your area.

I am thinking of you daily and sending energy and peace. 

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RE: not seeking pity - 7/21/2009 7:51:42 PM   
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Just to catch everyone up, I found a place to live. I will being moving in in 6 wks. Now got to pack, work, pack..oh joys. I am very happy. Same condo unit, which is good these people are so good to me.

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RE: not seeking pity - 7/21/2009 11:04:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oh My I am so happy....
I was in here once and read then I had to go care for my grandsons..

O am sooo glad....... I was trying to think
now
"how can I get her here to Canada..???"
It seems to me you dipped deep in your well and the well of women and men who care and love..
Often it is this support which propells us forward..the folks on CM are for you.. ME included..

YOUR gentle SOUL with good intent is seen by GODDESS and may the blessings be dear one..

I too lost all after my husband died...and was in a shack burning a chair for firewood in an isolated snowed in acerage..
As you go FWD you will see all THESE things have positives buried within..
 
yes  warrior woman...badger woman...are oft needed...YOU GO GIRL!!
 
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RE: not seeking pity - 7/21/2009 11:11:23 PM   
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RE: not seeking pity - 7/21/2009 11:19:32 PM   
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RE: not seeking pity - 7/22/2009 12:55:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		Bless these people! I am so happy that you have found solution. Sending you my love and some strength.

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RE: not seeking pity - 7/22/2009 4:48:44 AM   
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You are all wonderful. Thank you so much and may blessings be explored by you today.
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