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Spanked to Tears - 7/21/2009 3:57:14 PM   
SweetSubBoy1985


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Status: offline 		I was just curious about the concept of being really spanked to the point of sobbing cries. I have never experienced this but have always been curious about it. I have been "play" spanked before, but never really punished to the point of crying. I know that this would probably be a great emotional and mental release, and the more I have thought about it the more I have realized how important it is to me to be truly disciplined. Im sorry if this sounds like a stupid question, but do you Masters , Mistresses get this a lot? How common is it for someone to ask for this?

Thank you for your thoughts .

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/21/2009 4:23:02 PM   
tiedprincess


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Status: offline 		Hey :) Just thought I'd add my thoughts....
The first time I was spanked, it was part of a Daddy/Little Girl relationship, one of the first times we met. It was something i'd pre-approved beforehand. I don't think he knew it would be my first time, and I didn't want to look silly by telling him! (I realise now that I should have) Having never been spanked before, and only having read about it, in my head it wasn't a hard thing at all...I was imagining a really 'soft' spanking. My mistake! I cried and cried and cried, it hurt so bad. It wasn't just the pain that set me off though, I think it was a mixture of shock and panic, but also just letting go.  Afterwards, I was really quiet and subdued, but I really felt 'at peace' with myself. It was a great emotional release, probably more so because it hadn't been planned (at least on my part).

Anyway, hope you get the advice you're after!
 
xoxo

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/21/2009 4:24:11 PM   
Missykink


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Status: offline 		I've been asked several times and haven't met any of them who actually wanted to carry it out when the time came. I kinda like the idea but also think my hand would ache and I'd get bored lol

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/21/2009 4:32:03 PM   
Politesub53


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Status: offline 		Dont ask me why but this is something I also want to experience, maybe its to do with trust and the cathartic release. I`m guessing I wont enjoy it, which makes me wonder why the hell I want to try it.

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/21/2009 4:33:09 PM   
ShoreBound149


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Status: offline 		I've brought tears out of her.  Deep sobs too. Many times now.   It has never been done in a punishment mode.  Interestingly, the first time it happened coincided with my personal revelation that I was deeply in love with her.  With us, it happens when it happens.  No requests by her....No pre set specific agenda by me. 

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/21/2009 4:44:51 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		It is something I am asked often. I think there are a number of reasons for it and when one says it they could mean something different than someone else saying it.  Some are trying to heal something that no amount of spanking could heal. I wouldn't even consider their request. To other's... well... now... lol!

I think my sandpaper and rubbing alcohol spanking came damn close! lol God, I am still enjoying that one!  He even asked for more! Woohoo...

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/21/2009 4:53:12 PM   
CatdeMedici


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Status: offline 		This is not a "surface" experience, this is something that can only happen as a result of a deep seated release--deep sharing with the Dominant of issues one wants to purge are what's required and a D that can reach those depths.

< Message edited by CatdeMedici -- 7/21/2009 5:14:39 PM >

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/21/2009 4:57:34 PM   
Politesub53


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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

This is not a "surface" experience, this is something that can only happen as a result of a deep seated release--deep sharing with the Dominant of issues one wants to purge are what's required and a D that can reach those depths.


Hi Ma`am, this was my thinking, are the tears due to pain or emotion. With me it would likely be the latter, what bothers me is how many cans of worms that opens up. I feel the more involved I was with someone, the further i would be willing to explore.

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/21/2009 5:16:28 PM   
CatdeMedici


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

This is not a "surface" experience, this is something that can only happen as a result of a deep seated release--deep sharing with the Dominant of issues one wants to purge are what's required and a D that can reach those depths.


Hi Ma`am, this was my thinking, are the tears due to pain or emotion. With me it would likely be the latter, what bothers me is how many cans of worms that opens up. I feel the more involved I was with someone, the further i would be willing to explore.


I have accomplished this on 4 occasions, I do not see it as kink, but rather a psychological or spiritual cleansing, it takes complete devotion and attention to the needs of the sub--but wow does it make Me fly when they are set free!

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/21/2009 10:58:15 PM   
darchChylde


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Status: offline 		Never been spanked to tears, not sure if i've ever cried during a scene; but i certainly have while curled up on Her lap or wrapped in Her arms after.  Honestly, i'm not even sure if i am psychologically capable of crying during a pain scene.  For me, much of the enjoyment of pain is mastering myself (bad phrasing for a sub/maso, i know ) and more specifically, my reaction.  While i've never tried not to cry as it's just not my natural reaction to physical stimulus, i work to not cry out or at least not too loudly.  Moaning and whimpering are one thing; but screaming and begging for it to stop, not so much. 

Perhaps it's a sign of not truly letting go and fully accepting the experience, or it's just my psychological wiring; but my true release/enjoyment don't come during the scene (as much as i do generally enjoy them, some are simply intended to be not enjoyed) so much as after, during the tenderness of aftercare;  OOOH, and checking out the marks and agitating the bruises and abrasions after... that's the good stuff.

But, if i can be led to tears in a scene; i'm sure that after dealing with the initial shame, guilt and humiliation i'm thinking i'd subject myself to; i'm pretty sure i'd come to enjoy it or at least appreciate it as an experience.

Sorry if i jumped onto and off of the subject there a little. 


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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/21/2009 11:03:40 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		darch, you bring up some very interesting things. Thank you!

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/21/2009 11:19:25 PM   
Racquelle


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Status: offline 		There is almost nothing more beautiful than opening a sub up to a deeply emotional cry.  It works best when we have a significant connection, and the sub has something there, just below the surface.

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/21/2009 11:21:01 PM   
GYPZYQUEEN


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Status: offline 		OP:
TO those who query about...want to talk about..ask for it and to those I have done this with it is an INTIMATE act..it is deep and the feelings come from deep within the solar plexus or life centre..your will..
You also present your ass....a most vulnerable( hidden) body part.


I believe that when a sub asks for this or it has been negotiated..then they are essentially giving up their will to you in that moment..
they are willing to travel on and OUT and I get to  go along.. and for this I am indeed happy.

These moments I have to say are my most precious memories and those of the boys it occured for..
It is hard to put in words and different for each

*For the 6'3" massive alpha nurse caring for his aged mother...it was a time of absolute letting go and the hours after in my arms...the petting and holding were a balance in his life..he said it changed him inside..brought peace..
The fact that the spanking weakened him to the point of being overpowered physically by me as well added to his journey to freedom and release.(  he was stunned and overwhlemed..it was unexpected)...and for the first time in his life...he was powerless..
someone ELSE was in control.

*For the young 23 year old stressed out hockey player unsure of his sexuality..it was the safe..established environment of a mother...bringing him to the soft deep core of inner self..where he answered to no one but one..and again the mothering after is what he sought as well..to stay in my arms all night.

*For the gay DOM who sought me out specifically for this it was to re-live babyhood times within a safe scene of CHOICE where he was in control and could CHOOSE a different outcome..of a loving mothering after.


THE spanking to tears in all cases FOR me has been with the mothering after care as much needed..this may be because I make it clear I am a mommy dom..therefore attract this..

It could also be that I understand there is so MUCH more going on here..as many do

As POLITESUB says...
you must be with someone YOU TRUST ..who knows what to do if and when
the unexpected happens or can of worms is opened..

to me it is a PROFOUND act and I am honored to have shared it with many..
so much so I thought of having this as a mommy therapy of some kind...

GQ

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/22/2009 12:09:03 AM   
allthatjaz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

This is not a "surface" experience, this is something that can only happen as a result of a deep seated release--deep sharing with the Dominant of issues one wants to purge are what's required and a D that can reach those depths.


Totally agree with this.
I have sobbed uncontrollably with S but that sobbing, like Cat says, comes from a deep seated release. When he gives me real pain and makes me concentrate on that pain then I never cry.
I would also say that I have broken my pelvis, displaced my kneecap and dislocated my collarbone in horse riding accidents and the pain (and believe me it hurt) never made me cry.

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/22/2009 7:00:06 AM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		Never got one to cry with just a spanking.   Of course, more than one has asked for it then jumped away whimpering in the corner for it to stop.  Apparently, this is a favorit fantasy that doesn't live up to the expectations when a sub male figures out 'That HURTS.'

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/22/2009 10:55:20 AM   
sweetsub1957


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Status: offline 		Oh wow.  I used to be w/ a Daddy Dom briefly and I remember one time he had me OTK and he was wailing on my ass with his bare hand because I missed a freeway exit.  He must've had a lotta callouses on that hand, cause it hurt like hell & I was crying buckets.  I didn't appreciate the spanking at all, but the cuddles afterward "made it all better."

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/22/2009 11:16:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have cried shed loads many times, some it is the intense emotion (especially during punishment) sometimes it is simply the pain

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/22/2009 12:41:10 PM   
Wheldrake


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Status: offline 		It's quite normal for me to get tears in my eyes during pain play. I've actually broken down and sobbed on one occasion, although it wasn't from spanking. It was certainly an intense experience, but I wouldn't say there was any kind of emotional catharsis involved - it just hurt like hell, and the pain and the sense of helplessness were sufficient to break down my inhibitions. To my relief, the lady in question (not my current Mistress) stopped right away and provided a bit of judicious aftercare, so I didn't have to sob for too long. Looking back on the episode, though, I find myself wondering what it would have been like if she'd ignored my tears and continued, at least for a while.  

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/22/2009 2:02:31 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I do get asked this a lot.  What happens often is that the bottoms who want to achieve this kind of release don't understand that it can't be brought about by a Top's skill alone.  There has to be that mental spark within the bottom that can bring about the emotional reaction they want to experience.  Sure, in many cases, you can make a person cry from pain alone.  That's not especially what people are looking for.  I can stick a freshly cut onion under your nose and produce tears.  You have to ask yourself what you want from the tears to mean to you.

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RE: Spanked to Tears - 7/22/2009 3:10:56 PM   
SweetSubBoy1985


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Status: offline 		I am certain that this is what I want. Just wonder if it is possible. I have smacked my thumb with a hammer, and done other very painful things and never had tears come to my eyes. I can assume that it is more then a physical pain but that I will have to allow myself to let go of all control. Somehow I think that this is going to be a very hard thing for me to achieve....but I also feel that it is something I have to do. I really do want to completely give up all self control...just for a while if that is all I can have...



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