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RE: vanilla to bondage... - 7/23/2009 9:23:20 PM

jessiedeppth

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i do not know if he will be sub or not, and i dont really agree that either you are or you are not. there are a lot of 'doms' out there that think they are, but really are not. but, even if he doesnt like it after we experiment a few times, it doesnt matter. i was just wondering in the begining of ways to help him along, to see if he was perhaps into it.

some people need this to be a big thing, others do not. and i do not need it to be happy. he a;ready takes care of my happiness in ways the Doms i have met have not. guess in the end its a kink for me. reguardless if he shares that kink, ill be with him.

thanks so much for the advice, some more then others.

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RE: vanilla to bondage... - 7/24/2009 4:48:51 AM

Samm24

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quote:

ORIGINAL: vixenmoon

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ORIGINAL: Samm24

I think, like vixenmoon, and some others have already suggested, that he may be unsure of himself and it may be unclear to him what exactly you are looking for and that it actually excites you.

I actually wasn't suggesting that it was the case, or even my opinion on it. I have had very bad experiences in trying to do that, but I don't know the people in question and as such have no basis to even guess at the actuality. Rather, I was simply pointing out that it is a possibility. One of a number of possibilities. Just for clarification.

Indeed, one of a number of possibilities, thus the usage of the word 'may' in that "he may be... or not". So I wasn't suggesting anything about what you might be suggesting. But I'll stop here before it gets even more complicated :)

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RE: vanilla to bondage... - 7/24/2009 5:01:27 AM

rideemwet

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If he's actually interested, pointing him to the forums here might be a good way to give him some ideas and confidence. It might also help him realize its not for him if that's the case.

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RE: vanilla to bondage... - 7/24/2009 4:14:39 PM

longslide

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well i am new here, and this is my 2nd post, but, I am interested in the whole scene to be sure. I am not sure if I am a sub or dom, I adore women, and want to please, on the otherhand, I want to be incharge sometimes. So here i begin my journey of self discovery i guess.

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