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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 7/28/2009 7:24:17 PM

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Sorry fadedshadow, that was not meant to be in reply to you, but the OP. New to this board and still trying to figure it out.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 7/28/2009 10:22:49 PM

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i know you were replying to the op

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 7/30/2009 1:01:24 PM

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Ok I'm not crazy super sadistic, but I like to cane and spank and pinch and bite and you know- the usual *g* and I like a little yelping and yipping and jumping and squirming and such but.... I keep hearing from "sensual subs". Some of them say they would endure it if it pleases me but that's just not as much fun. Seems the guys are into a lot of other stuff but I'm not meeting that many who actually enjoy a good ole fashioned beating. Is it a guy thing?

Now, this has me laughing my ass off. Please excuse me, TN, i don't mean any disrespect to You. But, for nearly five years of heavy involvement with the local BDSM community, my continuing search could have had the reciprical title, "Where are the sadistic Women?" i did have several good playmates, but they were few and far between. For the most part, i found Sensual Doms who wanted to tickle, tease and flog with those soft leather floggers that couldn't hurt a fly.

i don't know about Your local community, but around here, You'd be inundated

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 7/30/2009 3:54:11 PM

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Where? Where?

The first time I took my (mostly) vanilla husband into the dungeon at Frolicon - our first 'public play' experience together - even he was grossing about people just limp wristedly flopping floggers on subs. Even HE said "Hand ME that thing! I'll show you how to HIT someone." I can't tell you how much this tickled me.

This past year was FAR different. Even I was cringing over some of the bloodied subs I saw in there... but they were all Female. There might have been things going on that I did not see, but I only saw ONE male sub getting some interesting CBT and ONE who at least turned pink from his flogging by a FemDom. I seem to be able to find male subs who are happy to play in private but who shy away from public play as they do not want to be viewed as "Weak". *eyeroll* I keep telling them that it takes a hell of a lot more inner strength to TAKE a beating than to administer one.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 7/30/2009 4:43:08 PM

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I agree with your comment MsStarlett about men not wanting to be percieved in public as weak, but how I do enjoy a good beating in private and a few friends.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 7/30/2009 5:05:36 PM

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I can take a good beating (enjoy it very much, in fact) and I don't think I'm worried about appearing weak, but I prefer privacy.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 7/30/2009 5:53:27 PM

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How about almost alone and taking turns with a potential new golfing buddy?

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 7/30/2009 9:54:53 PM

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I am beginning to appreciate, as I practice, how much room it takes to really swing a flogger properly. I often hit lighter because thanks to space considerations a full swing is impossible. It's at least partly why I'm interested in canes.

(sigh) It's always something.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 7/30/2009 11:05:02 PM

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i can take a good beating as well

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 7/31/2009 3:52:18 AM

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I am beginning to appreciate, as I practice, how much room it takes to really swing a flogger properly. I often hit lighter because thanks to space considerations a full swing is impossible. It's at least partly why I'm interested in canes.

(sigh) It's always something.

Ditto. I made myself a set of matching floggers. Two 'normal' one and one extra long one. The long one is basically just a wall decoration or a prop for photos. It's totally non-functional. There is no room inside to swing it. Actually, at least one of the more experienced leather people mentioned that very long tails on a flogger do not pack the punch of a shorter one because the length of falls "absorbs the energy". I can see that.

**Ooops! Sorry for the derail**

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 7/31/2009 2:54:07 PM

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MsScarlett if that makes you happy, then I have no problem with it all. What is a little pain shared among friends!

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 7/31/2009 3:37:37 PM

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Yo!

I fall in the same boat as other folks here. I do not want to say I am a heavy or light masochist because I do not want to disappoint.

What I will say is that I can endure a flogging for about thirty minutes... or many whacks to the back with a bamboo training sword.
I just can't do CBT very well.

It brings me to a nice level of headspace and I just want to cuddle my 'abuser'.

Begging for it is hawt too.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 8/3/2009 7:21:54 PM

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Where? Where?

The first time I took my (mostly) vanilla husband into the dungeon at Frolicon - our first 'public play' experience together - even he was grossing about people just limp wristedly flopping floggers on subs. Even HE said "Hand ME that thing! I'll show you how to HIT someone." I can't tell you how much this tickled me.

This past year was FAR different. Even I was cringing over some of the bloodied subs I saw in there... but they were all Female. There might have been things going on that I did not see, but I only saw ONE male sub getting some interesting CBT and ONE who at least turned pink from his flogging by a FemDom. I seem to be able to find male subs who are happy to play in private but who shy away from public play as they do not want to be viewed as "Weak". *eyeroll* I keep telling them that it takes a hell of a lot more inner strength to TAKE a beating than to administer one.

i have been beaten bloody in public many times. i have been sewn to a table top in public. Some of the scenes i've bottomed for are legendary within the Arizona BDSM community.

Many people have viewed me having such scenes. i don't think a one of them ever viewed me as "weak."

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 8/3/2009 7:26:46 PM

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Yo!

I fall in the same boat as other folks here. I do not want to say I am a heavy or light masochist because I do not want to disappoint.

What I will say is that I can endure a flogging for about thirty minutes... or many whacks to the back with a bamboo training sword.
I just can't do CBT very well.

It brings me to a nice level of headspace and I just want to cuddle my 'abuser'.

Begging for it is hawt too.

Thirty minutes?

Ummmm...... yeah.

Please don't ask others to think that's impressive.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 8/3/2009 7:51:42 PM

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I'm very masochistic but in a psychological sense, not so much physical

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 8/3/2009 8:59:17 PM

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Lady Pact I am not asking anyone to think that is impressive. I have no need to. I am new to this thing.

That was all I was given before the flogging stopped.

I can show you my face after it was worked over by a female kickboxer for fifteen minutes, if that is something you would like to see.
My face is still a tad bit asymmetrical. This was over a month ago.

So harsh are the words you say.

;_;

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 8/3/2009 9:01:09 PM

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As My boy will tell you, the beatings are harsher.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 8/3/2009 9:07:33 PM

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What an affectionate Lady you are then. I would rather take the physical than the mental. Cut/whip/rake/claw/bite/gnaw please but damn....
the words.

I would rather take the sticks and stones to break my bones.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 8/3/2009 10:31:36 PM

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Welcome to the jungle.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 8/3/2009 11:45:48 PM

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i agree with pyro

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