Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: Does it get any easier ?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> RE: Does it get any easier ? Page: <<   < prev  1 2 [3]
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/25/2009 9:37:10 PM   
Firebirdseeking


Posts: 477
Joined: 9/3/2006
Status: offline 		I think I made my point, IM:  that the truly wise person has no need to make another feel foolish.  What part of that dont you understand?

(in reply to IrishMist)
Profile   Post #: 41
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/25/2009 11:49:32 PM   
MasterSlaveLA


Posts: 3991
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist
You are 42 years old; it's not like you have not been around the block a few times. Stop bitching and just move on with your life.


Nothing else besides this need be said.



_____________________________

It's only kinky the first time!!!

(in reply to IrishMist)
Profile   Post #: 42
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/26/2009 6:43:03 AM   
IrishMist


Posts: 7480
Joined: 11/17/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking

I think I made my point, IM:  that the truly wise person has no need to make another feel foolish.  What part of that dont you understand?

And once again, I will state that Yes, It was a mean comment. So what? If it made her feel foolish, then next time, maybe she will think twice before posting something so idiotic. For fucks sake...shes in her flippin 40's and crying...umm,, crying...about some twerp who instead might want kids one day. To top that off...she's bitching because not everyone agreed with her, and has even gone so far as to state ...on a public board...that she's suicidal.

Oh gosh please...so much drama...The so called girl who posted this thread needs to get her ass kicked so that her brain goes back where it belongs.

_____________________________

If I said something to offend you, please tell me what it was so that I can say it again later.


(in reply to Firebirdseeking)
Profile   Post #: 43
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/26/2009 6:49:49 AM   
KatyLied


Posts: 13029
Joined: 2/24/2005
From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline 		fr

Making people feel foolish?  How do we make people feel anything?  People are in control of how they react to things.  And anyone who plays the "suicidal" card would be better served at a mental health counseling facility than on-line.

< Message edited by KatyLied -- 7/26/2009 6:50:17 AM >

_____________________________

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”
- Albert Einstein

(in reply to IrishMist)
Profile   Post #: 44
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/26/2009 10:29:35 AM   
leadership527


Posts: 5026
Joined: 6/2/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking
I wonder if she would have gotten the same response if "she" was a He, and He was sad about his girl leaving. 

From me? Yes. This is a relationship breakup, nothing more, nothing less. The genders and ages don't really matter that much. Is any relationship with a 22 year old likely to be less stable than one with a 30+ year old? Yeah, in my opinion. That's just a life-stage thing.


_____________________________

~Jeff

I didn't so much "enslave" Carol as I did "enlove" her. - Me
I want a joyous, loving, respectful relationship where the male is in charge and deserves to be. - DavanKael

(in reply to Firebirdseeking)
Profile   Post #: 45
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/26/2009 10:33:03 AM   
LaTigresse


Posts: 26123
Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking

I think I made my point, IM:  that the truly wise person has no need to make another feel foolish.  What part of that dont you understand?


There is only ONE person responsible for a person's feelings, that one person. Certainly NOT a bunch of strangers on a BDSM message board.

Thinking anything else is the foolish part.

_____________________________

My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

(in reply to Firebirdseeking)
Profile   Post #: 46
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/26/2009 5:05:41 PM   
Firebirdseeking


Posts: 477
Joined: 9/3/2006
Status: offline 		To the last several posters:  I agree that this was a "doomed" connection, more than likely, with the difference in age and our cultural bias in favor of a man being older than a woman.( Heaven forbid the woman should be 22 years older than, what is in this case, a very young man.) 

But here's the thing:  people are not always made of steel.  Yes this is a breakup.  Yes perhaps she is old enough to know better. But - maybe she doesnt.  Does that mean we have no compassion for the hurt?  Words DO hurt; I dont believe that new age bs that if someone is unkind, and deliberately so, that the recipient is 100% responsible for his/her feelings.  We are interactive creatures.  We "make" people feel bad when we are deliberately unkind.

As far as the suicidal card, well, I'm in the business, and talk of suicide is a call for help.    Maybe she belongs at a counseling center, but do you think nasty posts are going to help her get there?

And - has anyone here NOT made a foolish mistake??      

(in reply to IrishMist)
Profile   Post #: 47
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/26/2009 5:17:14 PM   
IrishMist


Posts: 7480
Joined: 11/17/2005
Status: offline
quote:

Does that mean we have no compassion for the hurt?

No, I don't. Because quite honestly, I don't believe for one minute that she 'is or was actually hurting'. You want to waste your sympathy on a drama queen...your perogative...don't expect me to.

quote:

Words DO hurt

and your point is?
I could care less if some person on a message board feels 'bad' after reading something that I wrote. Big fucking deal. Grow a thicker skin or don't post...either way works for me.

quote:

We "make" people feel bad when we are deliberately unkind.

You want to keep on believing that...you go right ahead. I refuse to 'baby ' some chick who is as old as I am...if she can't handle it, tough shit...if you don't like it...tough shit.

quote:

As far as the suicidal card, well, I'm in the business, and talk of suicide is a call for help.

I'll tell you what...since you are so all fired up with sympathy and compassion for the 'poor wittle girl who pasted her troubles on a message board', you go coddle her and pat her on the back for being so brave as to shout to the boards that she is unstable and unable to cope in the real world. Personally, you are wasting your time...buy hey, it's your time to waste...go for it sweetcheeks.

quote:

And - has anyone here NOT made a foolish mistake??

Of course. I am not so immature as to go to a bunch of strangers though; crying and whinning that my life sucks.


_____________________________

If I said something to offend you, please tell me what it was so that I can say it again later.


(in reply to Firebirdseeking)
Profile   Post #: 48
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/26/2009 6:46:45 PM   
DarkSteven


Posts: 28072
Joined: 5/2/2008
Status: offline 		An update... she has a new profile (http://www.collarme.com/personals/v/910923/details.htm) and evidently has found a new Dom.  She evidently works fast.

_____________________________

"You women....

The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

(in reply to IrishMist)
Profile   Post #: 49
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/26/2009 6:51:32 PM   
tazzygirl


Posts: 37833
Joined: 10/12/2007
Status: offline 		8 months with a man... a few days to find a new one.. sounds about right...

_____________________________

Telling me to take Midol wont help your butthurt.
RIP, my demon-child 5-16-11
Duchess of Dissent 1
Dont judge me because I sin differently than you.
If you want it sugar coated, dont ask me what i think! It would violate TOS.

(in reply to DarkSteven)
Profile   Post #: 50
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/26/2009 7:18:58 PM   
Firebirdseeking


Posts: 477
Joined: 9/3/2006
Status: offline 		I suggest  you take  a trip to see the wizard.  You need a heart.

(in reply to IrishMist)
Profile   Post #: 51
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/26/2009 7:53:52 PM   
tazzygirl


Posts: 37833
Joined: 10/12/2007
Status: offline 		Firebird, Mist pegged it. i used to think like you, then i stepped back and watched. These girls arent often wrong. you may not like what they say, but they have the right to say what they think just like you do. please try and respect that.

_____________________________

Telling me to take Midol wont help your butthurt.
RIP, my demon-child 5-16-11
Duchess of Dissent 1
Dont judge me because I sin differently than you.
If you want it sugar coated, dont ask me what i think! It would violate TOS.

(in reply to Firebirdseeking)
Profile   Post #: 52
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/26/2009 8:31:21 PM   
daintydimples


Posts: 967
Joined: 7/6/2009
Status: offline 		You know, there is how you think things should be, and then there is how things are.

I think I should be a foot taller, if would suit my personalty better to have that height. The reality is I am not.

Should the OP be a heck of a lot wiser at 42? That I certainly agree with. The reality is, she is not. She's already jumped into another relationship; in two weeks or two months we'll get to hear about that one, too.

But I attempt to deal with where I think people are at, not where I think they should be.


_____________________________

Some soften by the forced reflection that comes from loss; others harden. Which are you?




(in reply to tazzygirl)
Profile   Post #: 53
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/26/2009 8:37:26 PM   
Firebirdseeking


Posts: 477
Joined: 9/3/2006
Status: offline 		I agree with what Tazzy says here.  And i also think there is value in examining  intent.  Is the intent to tell someone she is stupid, or to suggest that she think about her part in her pain?  How do you think she will best hear what you have to say?

I am making 2 simple points:   telling someone she is stupid is not very helpful;  and given the choice between being callous or having some compassion - which is NOT the same as feeling sorry for someone - well, I guess Ill choose compassion.

(in reply to tazzygirl)
Profile   Post #: 54
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/26/2009 8:47:40 PM   
tazzygirl


Posts: 37833
Joined: 10/12/2007
Status: offline 		ladies, that is your right to do so. have compassion, but also understand not everyone will share your level of compassion.

some people need to hit rock bottom before they wake up.. or.. in this case.. grow up. lets face it, 20 years is a HUGE difference... it wouldnt seem that big if the ages were 42 and 62 instead of 22 and 42.

some people just need to be told the harsh reality in order to realize their mistakes. tough love bites.

_____________________________

Telling me to take Midol wont help your butthurt.
RIP, my demon-child 5-16-11
Duchess of Dissent 1
Dont judge me because I sin differently than you.
If you want it sugar coated, dont ask me what i think! It would violate TOS.

(in reply to Firebirdseeking)
Profile   Post #: 55
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/26/2009 11:02:22 PM   
RumpusParable


Posts: 1923
Joined: 7/7/2005
From: NYC now!
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA

quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist
You are 42 years old; it's not like you have not been around the block a few times. Stop bitching and just move on with your life.


Nothing else besides this need be said.


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

An update... she has a new profile (http://www.collarme.com/personals/v/910923/details.htm) and evidently has found a new Dom.  She evidently works fast.


Ding Ding Ding!


< Message edited by RumpusParable -- 7/26/2009 11:05:32 PM >

_____________________________

Relationships come and go, but plastination is forever.

I generally use fast-reply. If directing my post at someone specific I will indicate so.

Minimal summary: Artist, Disabled Veteran, Vegan, Pornographer, and Agender dominant female.

(in reply to MasterSlaveLA)
Profile   Post #: 56
RE: Does it get any easier ? - 7/29/2009 10:11:34 PM   
MMagic


Posts: 183
Joined: 2/9/2009
Status: offline 		I'm so sorry this has happened to you and I gotta say when I first got here I had a 22 year old contact me.  I couldn't stand ME at 22 so being with one was out of the question, no matter HOW many times I told myself not to be an ageist.  I am very youthful in appearance and demeanor but I also have to go all mature in certain situations and just didn't feel confident that a young Dom of 22 would be able to handle that. I dated a really younger man on several occasions.  Got on my nerves to NO end.  No offense young 'uns here. I love hanging out with you all but when it comes to getting horizontal...I'll pass. Let's play Xbox instead. Same goes for anyone 20 years OLDER.  You gotta be Brad Pitt or Keanu Reeves or Denzel in all ways to get me if you're 20 years older.  Sorry, once again no offense to anyone older.  I like what I like.

I should also add that Sir is younger than me but only by 5 years.  Most days I can't even tell and other days I really should act my age. ;)


< Message edited by MMagic -- 7/29/2009 10:15:21 PM >

_____________________________

Between two evils, I always pick the one I never tried before. -Mae West



(in reply to OsideGirl)
Profile   Post #: 57
Page:   <<   < prev  1 2 [3]
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> RE: Does it get any easier ? Page: <<   < prev  1 2 [3]
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.074