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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/3/2009 1:10:20 PM

RedMagic1

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Not all Gorean slaves speak in the third person, even if they are owned. Not in the books, and not in real life.

You sounded sad that you had lost or chased away former partners or suitors because of your low sense of self-worth. I was trying to suggest a simple way you could demonstrate greater self-worth to others. It is of course your choice to feel lonely, and cling to a manner of speech you use with "everyone." I can tell you that I am (supposedly) dominant, but my own speech patterns change a lot, depending on who I am talking with. I don't see how it would hurt you to be more flexible in your communication with others.

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/3/2009 1:17:12 PM

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well said, Red

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/3/2009 1:44:43 PM

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Hon, you write on these forums in any way that you feel expresses yourself best, until commanded to do so by the one that owns you.

Don't give that power away to anyone who has neither claimed it or earned it.

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/3/2009 2:06:59 PM

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I have taken the advice on board. I have strong mental health. However I agree I am not inferior to anyone.. I am as good as anyone else and better than a lot
Kevin

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/3/2009 2:25:08 PM

daintydimples

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shadowowl

I've had dommes tell me they own me in the first message lol. maybe she was inexperianced scammer and it took her 3 hours to find out you don't have a credit card?

ROFL

Owned and dismissed in three emails. kevie does have talent !!!!!!!!

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/3/2009 2:32:15 PM

PeonForHer

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I totally ignore men who tell me I am superior to them. I am dominant, not superior. They are submissive and in my mind not less than I am, only different.

For me, being a sub is always a two-part thing In the context of a more fundamental equality between myself and a partner, some sense of her being 'superior' is certainly something that I'd want to access and even 'live in', as much as I could. I'm not sure it's possible to submit without a feeling of inferiority - of a particular sort, note - to go with it. (Or perhaps that's only true of me. Sometimes I think I understand how dominants tick better than I understand how other subs tick! )

For me, from a position of equality, a sub chooses to submit, or be inferior (whatever), to his partner. But he's not in a position to make that choice unless he's equal to start with. That's the paradox of being a sub: he'll need both bits - the equal and the unequal - for it to work.

Or to put it another way: I've heard from someone who'd looked at a sub's blog that what subs get off on is the unfairness of it. That made sense to me - the word 'unfairness' pretty much encapsulates it for me, too. I'd ask: what is the bit that's saying "this is unfair"? How can they even know that it's unfair without a part of them having a strong sense of what is fair?

I remember, when I was a kid, getting alternately turned on by, then feel resentful of, the feeling of being of less worth to the girls about whom I fantasised. There were periods when I'd think "Why don't you just accept it - you are inferior". But those periods came to an end because I realised that that belief didn't make any logical sense. 'She' - the adored girl - may seem like a goddess, and I'd yearn for her to use that power over me - but she still cries occasionally, has hang-ups, gets spots, fails her exams, ballses things up . . .

I think maturity, for many people, means accepting that you're either 'one thing or the other'. To my mind this is utterly wrong. To quote my favourite sig line, SthrnCmfrt's: 'The sign of a developed mind is one in which two opposing ideas can coexist' (Oscar Wilde).

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/3/2009 2:59:12 PM

DavanKael

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kevin,
I haven't read the thread in its entirety (Scanned the whole first page, though) and based on your typical posting style, I'm not sure whether to take you seriously or not on this.
Giving you the benefit of the doubt that you are being serious, why, oh, why, agree to collaring having not met this Lady?
Davan

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/3/2009 3:20:52 PM

Politesub53

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

i have been owned by a Domme for all of 3 hours. After my 3rd message , She blocked me. Is this a record.? Should i enter into the Guinness Book of Records Ladies for the shortest ever relationship with a Domme
kevin

Sighs......Kev Kev Kev, I assume you meant this is a record long slave Mistress relationship.

I was glad to see you had stopped this kind of post for a bit, but here we are again. Ask yourself this, how can someone you have just met online own you, even in three hours and three emails. You seriously need to look at your approach to this whole thing. If you come across as desperate, you will be seen as desperate, I doubt any of the ladies on here wish for a slave like that.

Take some advice, next time you make contact with someone chat about yourself and what your hobbies are, ask about hers, grab her interest. Above all dont rush into all the "yes Mistress" Scenario until you know each other a bit better. I would guess if she said she owned you straight away, she was clueless or a player. Please take your time and good luck in your search.

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/4/2009 1:57:53 AM

lobodomslavery

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Iv e taken yours and Peon's advice on board . I have changed my profile on Fetlife. It is not needy. It merely says Im a Dublin guy who wishes to make friends. If you wish to contact me do so. Its direct and non lifestyle. I think this is better
Kevin

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/4/2009 1:59:36 AM

lobodomslavery

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I a m learning and I do listen. It just takes me to experience things for the penny or cent to drop with issues. Unfortunate but true. My latest rejection has made me rethink my profile composition
Kevin

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/4/2009 7:19:22 AM

passub

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felt compelled to reply to this..well its a slow day.....you may have come across as a door mat or your personality
did not come through..or there was a misunderstanding..and it happens, thus she cut you off..live and learn and
move on to someone who is more enticed by what you offer.
Or it coulda been that mood thange.
whatever live and learn cause ye never know who be watching.

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/4/2009 7:40:42 AM

passub

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Ehhhh..kevin just seen ye be from dublin..i thought musta be dublin in the states but it be ireland..listen, trying
to locate a dominant on the message boards here is aking to searching for a needle in the atlantic ocean..where to
start and what to do.
i be here in dublin, and trying to find an oasis in this desert(hope did not spell that as desert in food terms) anyway
ye may have more luck in the personal section for ireland.
one might add, some charm, sense of humour is always good and to speake to any prospective lady and treat her as a lady and not a domme, or dommie but as a person and keep the fawning and bowing to a minimum as plenty of time for that when or if ye meet.
ohh and hope ye have few years to spare cause it does take time..ohh and by the by, when folks access yer profile, they also tend to check what ye post or have posted..soo be careful.
if one has something to say, the journal is also a good place to start or even impress.
though ye are possibly aware of the main yahoo group here, bdsmireland..munches and the nimneach party..well
it is a place to meet folks..some of whom are also here.
also be aware there be many different kinda dommes not just pro and non-pro so it be a good idea, to know thyself and what ye want and be careful..unless ye seek mental scars as well as physical.
also be aware of a ladies boredom threshold, which may be lower than yer pain one.

though do remember one guy on this board, way back who emailed moi...and complenting moi on my english and style of language and then asking if one would do him up a type of script that he could use, when contacting dommes.
now i can spell, put more than 2 words to-gether and can use the big words and flowery language, but was not quite sure, how to reply to that request...or what possible misery my actions may inflict on some poor dominant or him, when the penny drops that the script or words he would have been using is not his own.
so ye be better of using yer own style and approach.
information is not knowledge and wisdom usually comes if ever from experience.
good luck in yer search.

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/4/2009 8:15:16 AM

passub

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one last insight...would never have thought of this..but if the lady ye contacted is outside ireland, then she may just be cybering..playing or toying with ye..lean to pick up the signs..if she is located within this isle then, may need to update yer profile, or else ye contacted a messer....a messer can aslo be female and dominant as well as male and sub...just to say.

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/4/2009 8:24:20 AM

lobodomslavery

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Yeah She was from the States. It was never really on anyway
Kevin

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/4/2009 10:11:53 AM

darchChylde

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Damn, wish I had found this thread earlier; but now all the best one-liners have been taken. Wait, wait... I'll try this out:

You thought you were owned, but turned out to have been PWN3D!!!

But seriously, a D/s or M/s relationship having already having developed, lost its' shine and ended in 3 messages? Apparently, I have unwittingly been in hundreds of such relationships (please note that I've never been available in all my time here) since joining Collarme, Ma'am will not be happy to learn of my inadvertent disloyalty.

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/4/2009 10:14:38 AM

GreedyTop

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

Yeah She was from the States. It was never really on anyway
Kevin

then how the fuck were you OWNED????

CHRIST JESUS!! your psychologist is obviously FAILING you in many ways.. find another...

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/4/2009 10:15:54 AM

GreedyTop

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

Damn, wish I had found this thread earlier; but now all the best one-liners have been taken. Wait, wait... I'll try this out:

You thought you were owned, but turned out to have been PWN3D!!!

But seriously, a D/s or M/s relationship having already having developed, lost its' shine and ended in 3 messages? Apparently, I have unwittingly been in hundreds of such relationships (please note that I've never been available in all my time here) since joining Collarme, Ma'am will not be happy to learn of my inadvertent disloyalty.

yeah, but you're gorgeous, in touch with reality, and smart.. YOU can get away with it :)

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/4/2009 11:01:04 AM

lobodomslavery

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if one can be owned online, I was owned that way
Kevin

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/4/2009 6:34:45 PM

dominalisa

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It doesn't sound like you were "owned" at all or had a relationship.

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RE: Is this a record short slave Mistress relationship? - 8/5/2009 8:09:12 AM

passub

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Hello, Kevin....unless ye like cyber play....which is an acquired taste..maybe better off looking closer to home, the yahoo groups here..munch and the main party and hysteria one..where can actually meet kinksters.

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