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ORIGINAL: rednicky

Once I enter a relationship, I want to deprive a Dominant male of having sex with me, for this is my delight. Sexual deprivation gives me a sense of power, especially when depriving someone of something who feels he is entitled to it. And a loooot of Doms, once in a relationship, feel they are entitled to have sex with their subs whenever they want. And there is nothing wrong with that. IMO, that's how it should work. I mean they 'are' the Doms. But in the case I'm presenting to you, I am one who chooses to deny him this 'right', stripping him of his power.

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ORIGINAL: Leonidas

There is a name for that kind of woman.  They're generally referred to as "wives".

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ORIGINAL: rednicky


I think you missed it. It's not necessarily the act of animalistic behavior I see (though it's a big part of it). It's stripping a man 'with' power 'of' his power, thus bringing out that demanding side of him. That's why it has to be a Dom. This is something that can't be faked in role play and I've already decided not to manipulate it out of him. So how do I get it?

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ORIGINAL: rednicky

I think you missed it. It's not necessarily the act of animalistic behavior I see (though it's a big part of it). It's stripping a man 'with' power 'of' his power, thus bringing out that demanding side of him. That's why it has to be a Dom. This is something that can't be faked in role play and I've already decided not to manipulate it out of him. So how do I get it?

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ORIGINAL: rednicky
when I said "figure it out" I mean how they seem to know how a healthy, enjoyable relationship works. That's what 'I' am trying to figure out and that's what all these other subs seem to have already figured out.

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ORIGINAL: rednicky

Once I enter a relationship, I want to deprive a Dominant male of having sex with me, for this is my delight. Sexual deprivation gives me a sense of power, especially when depriving someone of something who feels he is entitled to it. And a loooot of Doms, once in a relationship, feel they are entitled to have sex with their subs whenever they want. And there is nothing wrong with that. IMO, that's how it should work. I mean they 'are' the Doms. But in the case I'm presenting to you, I am one who chooses to deny him this 'right', stripping him of his power.

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ORIGINAL: ranja

Rednicky just wank girl, wank and read and watch porn you'll get some more ideas... and if you do have sex with a bloke just tell him that it is unlikely that you will reach orgasm but that it is not a problem... and then the very most important bit is that you are honest and have fun... without fun is is all a big waste of time.

As long as you are in an unequal love situation i e you love him but he does not love you back or the otherway around it is most likely not going to be the bestest sex... you have to keep that in mind...  it might still be nice and exciting but it is not going to be the best.

you are only young... you have to be patient... some people twice your age have not been fortunate enough to be loved and loved back just the same... if you open yourself up and be honest and happy you have most chance to attract your lover

goodluck

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.. who has lost one of a Dom's most valuable qualities - self-control.

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ORIGINAL: rednicky
Imagine a girl who is the greatest thing to be around but simply said she wants to hold off on the intimacy and sex talk until she's more comfortable.

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ORIGINAL: rednicky

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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

Rednicky,

You can have a D/s relationship where you don't have to manipulate somebody into taking you by force. You are not the only submissive that is into being taken and ravished with a passion. There are Doms out there that are into this, and it's all not some scene play either.

Two things have been ruled out on this thread so far.

1. Manipulating A Dom into it
2. Scene rape play ain't cutting it for you.

So you need to find something in the middle, somebody that is reasonably sane and likes to take girls by force and have his way with 'em without trying to act it out as a scene. Somebody you don't have to manipulate into doing it either.

Manipulation is damning to all relationships, especially D/s ones. The Scene play attempts you've made have been Lamo for you. Think this sums it up.

Find somebody reasonably sane that's a Dom who is into this as well. A Dom that wants to Take a submissive by force, where it's sort of rape but not really rape because you consent to this as part of the relationship. Where you don't have to stage a special Lamo rape scene that just does not cut it for you. Sound like you are wanting is "Animalistic Sex" if you ask me.

This is just something to explore in your thoughts. Does not damage D/s, both parties are into it and it's not a staged scene. So yeah, this is what I would consider healthy at least within the parameters of things so far.

I think you missed it. It's not necessarily the act of animalistic behavior I see (though it's a big part of it). It's stripping a man 'with' power 'of' his power, thus bringing out that demanding side of him. That's why it has to be a Dom. This is something that can't be faked in role play and I've already decided not to manipulate it out of him. So how do I get it?