littlesarbonn
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From: Stockton, California
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(Responding to the OP)
Having read through a number of the criticisms of your search and that it may not "exist", I just want to give you a glimmer of hope because like usual I get the impression that people read a first post and then take it to an extreme, then after reinterpreting it, state, "that's not something I would want".
I was in one of those relationships when I first started out. In your original post, you never actually stated you had to have corporal punishment for doing anything wrong, just that it was incorporated into the relationship. That's what I wanted to respond to, because that was the dynamic under which I first served. I was first owned by two dominants who were somewhat famous in our circles and also happened to work major strip joints across the country when they traveled. Yes, this was back when houses for domination were still a rarity, and a lot of the infamous ones actually did a lot of traveling (they still do, but not to the extent they used to do as professionals). Anyway, I had started up a conversation with them by mail, having read about some of their exploits, and when they were coming to San Francisco, they asked me to meet them for dinner. For the next few years, whenever they visited San Francisco (which was every month or so), they would stay with me, or have me stay with them. Our dynamic was pretty simple. It was strict domination, and it was filled with lots and lots of corporal punishments. It wasn't because I was doing anything wrong, but just because they felt it should be a part of my learning and training (back then, I knew pretty much nothing about bdsm other than it excited me).
This worked for a number of years, and I evolved into a submissive who would never actively seek to displease his mistress. As such, every mistress I hooked up with after that understood that and when incorporating corporal punishment, it was rarely done as "punishment" for something I did wrong, but as an active part of the relationship and training. When I did screw up, however, quite often the "punishment" was definitely something I would have abhorred and hated.
I think that's where people kind of wander from the idea of what corporal punishment is or could be. It doesn't always have to be for crimes committed, but can often be as a training tool as well, without having a reward/punishment specific to it. Another woman I knew loved the idea of corporal punishment and spanking for things done wrong, and she would invent stuff out of the blue (I think I once paid the price for the price of Orange Juice she had to pay at the store once...somehow, it was my fault).
Anyway, was originally just going to ignore this thread, but then decided I'd comment considering so few people read what some of us write anymore (as they turn into conversations between other people; I guess I miss the days when I actually used to be PART of those conversations).
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