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RE: do you diskike these behaviours? - 7/30/2009 7:16:15 PM

Roselaure

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ORIGINAL: Drakontos

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Let's say for the sake of discussion that your slave in unclear about what you have asked her to do. Are you saying that you would prefer her to attempt to obey and be wrong and then have you correct her, rather than ask a question to clarify what you meant?

No. Let's not; for the sake of satisfying YOUR own inability to understand; pretend that the scenario is anything other than what was asked. It's not my place, nor my caring, to force others to understand what happens between my property and I; nor do I care to play the 'what if ' game that so many seem to enjoy here.

Both my answers stand

I understand just fine. This is however a discussion forum and you posted on it. It seem logical that someone might actually want to have a discussion, but if you don't, hey there are plenty of other people to talk to.

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RE: do you diskike these behaviours? - 7/30/2009 7:16:24 PM

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Dominants tend not to like

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RE: do you diskike these behaviours? - 7/30/2009 8:04:33 PM

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When a slave asks questions to enable her to follow orders more precisely...making an effort to obey in the best manner they could: why would you fault them? Perhaps the orders are clear to you, but has the slave unsure. The will to serve and do it best to her ability is there, otherwise would she risk a delay by asking a question? I have found that sometimes when in direction, the order has to be either clear, or clarified to make it clear. That would fall under MY responsibility as a Dominant to make sure that happens.

To share with the original post thread, I haven't found much that don't like in the way of behaviors that I would find unacceptable in a public situation, but I do want her to behave properly in public or within smaller groups. I don't go for sassy behavior that I see some submissives show, which to me can be deemed "bratty". When she is with me, I want her to reflect on our relationship. I like polite and good behavior, and not representing that with others doesn't set well with me. My sub knows this, respects this and will act accordingly without a doubt. One of the things that I hold dear about her.

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RE: do you diskike these behaviours? - 8/2/2009 4:38:10 AM

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For example,do you object to any invitation from a sub... prefering meetings and any arrangements made to be intiated by you?. Are you put off by a sub asking 'would you like to visit tonight?'. Or... 'would you like to come with me on the weekend away i have organised?'

Not at all. That's fine with me. Having to arrange everything is far too time consuming for my liking. Plus I'm more than open to going to places that she finds interesting.

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is there any other little more minor things like this that Dominants tend not to like?

Thanks

Yes. There are certain personality traits that aren't to my liking.

I'm not one for the attention seeking self-absorbed types - I like my time and space to read and go out with mates so she has to have a certain amount of independence and her own interests. I'm not too keen on the drama and gossip types - it's basically small minded and boring.

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RE: do you diskike these behaviours? - 8/7/2009 2:12:14 PM

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I would please like to ask Masters/Dominants or subs who have had experience of this if there any behaviours that a Dominant does not like from a submissive that would be deemed acceptable in the Vanilla world...For example,do you object to any invitation from a sub... prefering meetings and any arrangements made to be intiated by you?. Are you put off by a sub asking 'would you like to visit tonight?'. Or... 'would you like to come with me on the weekend away i have organised?'

is there any other little more minor things like this that Dominants tend not to like?

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As long as repect is used I have no problem with any request

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RE: do you diskike these behaviours? - 8/16/2009 4:06:35 AM

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i think it boils down to does the dom want a doormat or not
I am an agressive dom but by no means do i want a doormat i want spunk and fight and life, so my opinion is that the answer to your question will never be the same and will vary from dom to dom

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RE: do you diskike these behaviours? - 8/16/2009 4:15:17 AM

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with my master its simple he has one rule as far as this goes. its not what i ask for its how i ask. then he says yes or no.

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RE: do you diskike these behaviours? - 8/16/2009 7:34:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: serisa

I would please like to ask Masters/Dominants or subs who have had experience of this if there any behaviours that a Dominant does not like from a submissive that would be deemed acceptable in the Vanilla world...For example,do you object to any invitation from a sub... prefering meetings and any arrangements made to be intiated by you?. Are you put off by a sub asking 'would you like to visit tonight?'. Or... 'would you like to come with me on the weekend away i have organised?'

is there any other little more minor things like this that Dominants tend not to like?

Thanks

god I hate cookie cutter mentality......... I suggest you treat each person as an individual with their own perferences and dislikes.

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