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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 7/31/2009 10:42:33 PM

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Snowcones get more respect from me nowadays. I found out last weekend that you can get them with marshmallow stuff on top and I thought that sounded disgusting but it was actually pretty good. I'm for the snowcone idea (with marshmallow).

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/1/2009 1:10:58 PM

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I think a lapdance or a striptease might be good. And to add in the snowcone motif, you could dance while sucking on a popcicle...hmmm, fun!

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/2/2009 4:32:47 AM

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Go for a toke to get your creative juices flowing and it will surely come to you ;-)

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/2/2009 6:20:40 AM

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be creative =D

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/2/2009 9:13:55 AM

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With such brief knowledge of what your Dom and you are about, I won't judge him and try telling you that he's just a hopeless newbie!! He may well be better than many of the Dominants here and he may even know exactly what he's doing

Look inwardly. You know what he likes (we don't) and so only you can offer him something that you know he will enjoy. There is nothing wrong with a submissive being creative now and again and adding some spice into this often complex recipe.

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/2/2009 9:15:11 AM

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be creative =D

Actually I don't agree. What is wrong with a submissive being creative now and again?

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/4/2009 10:09:05 AM

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tell him you are so confused and ask him if he could demonstrate being a Master to you ....

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/4/2009 10:22:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Man, snowcones get no respect these days....

dammit, now I want a snowcone

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/4/2009 11:31:41 AM

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Try standing in a hammock with roller skates

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/4/2009 4:07:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: vadams

I am new to the dom/sub world.

No kidding.

Your role is to please your Master. He should know how you should do that without sending you out to ask everyone.

How much experience does he have?

I must've missed where the OP said she was "sent" here to ask everyone? Seems to me that asking others is a perfectly logical and reasonable course of action for anyone lacking knowledge and experience, no?

To the OP, firstly, welcome.... :-)

The bad news is that what your master asks smells of red flag territory (geek alarm). Assigning such hopelessly vague and subjective tasks to newbies tends to betray their own lack of knowledge and experience. Which, btw, isn't necessarily a bad thing if they're honest about their own lack of expertise. Though probably not the case with your master, I suspect.... I say so because giving idiotic assignments to inexperienced subs is usually their way of getting educated themselves without having to admit they're as much in the D/s wilderness as you.

Doms and masters (practically by definition) need to lead by deed as much as by command.... Surely he has some idea of what defines a "submissive act" in order prove (sorry, "demonstrate") your "dedication to him"??? Because for every dom/me, it's likely something different. Doesn't he even know what it is that he really wants of his own slave? Yep, lotsa red flags around him....

I'm guessing his next instruction will be to ban you from these Boards - building barriers is how the threatened really command....

Focus.

Sir, I must agree. I know each D/s is unique, but if there isn't trust, both ways, it will be as you say. In my case Master knows that whether he is standing over me, or away elsewhere, I will always have him foremost in my mind, and always, always bring honor to him. That is my great freedom. All that I do, and the way I carry myself is to bring honor to him, as it honors me also. I do actually have "homework" that also allows me to grow as a person, which also brings him honor, as he abhors "brainless twits." He wants me to learn more of many things and subjects. To have him tell me how proud he is of me, and how I brought him honor when in an unexpected circumstance, is beyond words.

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/5/2009 10:22:45 AM

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Unique?....

Pay attention to his likes, dislikes, interests, hobbies, career...engage him in conversation, cook, clean for him, show him you love and care for him if that's the type of relationship you have.

Yeah - that would certainly be unique.

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/5/2009 10:49:24 AM

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Yes something uniquely submissive to me would be to surpass something I could not bring myself to do before. That to me defines it.

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/5/2009 10:34:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: vadams

I am new to the dom/sub world. My master has requested that i come up with a unique "submissive act" that will demonstrate my dedication to him. I am looking for new ideas. Any suggestions are welcome.

Vadams

I would suspect the idea is for you to come up with this idea yourself—not have others do your homework for you.

That said, having to come up with an "act" to demonstrate dedication is somewhat insufficient, I'd say. Time and trial is a better proof of dedication.

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/6/2009 9:33:48 AM

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Try standing in a hammock with roller skates

giggles.

The exercise strikes me as just another game people play under the guise of BDSM. Before people really 'get' that this is a lifetime gig for many of us, not something to play at, this kind of stuff goes on. Nothing terribly wrong with it, it just seems silly to me. Play along or not, depending on how serious you are about this guy, but know that it is more of a game than something that helps build a relationship.

So, here is my idea-- get one of those beautiful girls who are on your friends' list to come over, and both of you have a naked 'race'-- with a pen being held in each cunt, each woman races, on her knees, upright, down the hall, not dropping the pen. The one to go the farthest with the pen in her cunt wins.

Make sure and win. Your determination will show your devotion to him.

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/6/2009 10:01:09 AM

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Nobody ask if this is cyber or real time, let me take a long shot it's cyber"

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/6/2009 12:41:17 PM

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Go for a toke to get your creative juices flowing and it will surely come to you ;-)

That makes me think of Towely from South Park.

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/7/2009 9:34:43 PM

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Wow,

I think my Sir was right about a few of us around here. Some of you all have been here so long that the first advice you offer ANYONE is, he's not for you, he's new, She's stupid, dump him or her. Does anyone ever consider that because she's new she's not exactly sure how to word this or what is being asking of her? Has anyone here who HAS been in the scene for a while considered what would happen if you slave/sub was new and came here for advice and had to endure the "He's stupid, that task is stupid, he must be new" talk when perhaps his giving her the task is just your method or way of interacting with your sub? I find it disheartening that so many of you are so negative to the new girl, I was new once, so were all of you. Yes, by all means criticize constructively but also offer her some advice that may be helpful.

*I* think what her Dom means is pay attention to me. Notice what I like and dislike and come up with something that shows me that you're noticing what I like and what pleases me...then surprise me.

I read her post and immediately thought of a story my Sir told me this week about something that I did that was completely endearing to him, if only because I have trouble with saying this particular word to him. Sometimes I'm being rebellious other times I just plain out forget, but at that moment when I said it, just as he wanted me to, when he wanted me to, it was endearing. THIS is what I believe her Dom wants of her. Is that so horrible to ask of your sub? Please enlighten me if that's the case, I'm not far off from being new myself. Am I missing something, should I be as cynical as everyone else is being?

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/8/2009 3:52:48 AM

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I vote for a beer and a blowjob.

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/9/2009 9:57:51 AM

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I am a Dom and i have been in this lifestyle for 12 yrs. My subs prove that they are truely loyal to me and not just loyal to what i have to offer in many different ways. I may be able to offer better advice if i knew a little more about the situation you are in.. Feel free to message me for advice.

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RE: New Submissive slave seeks advice - 8/9/2009 12:43:47 PM

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S/He should be able to tell you what submissive act they want you to perform. I know as a Mistress I can certainly do that for my sub and he would do it with a creative spin because I like that.

However in some cultures a submissive act would be to cut off a body part, could this be what S/He means? Before you do it, it maybe wise to ASK.

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