Focus50
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ORIGINAL: MMagic
Wow,
I think my Sir was right about a few of us around here. Some of you all have been here so long that the first advice you offer ANYONE is, he's not for you, he's new, She's stupid, dump him or her. Does anyone ever consider that because she's new she's not exactly sure how to word this or what is being asking of her? Has anyone here who HAS been in the scene for a while considered what would happen if you slave/sub was new and came here for advice and had to endure the "He's stupid, that task is stupid, he must be new" talk when perhaps his giving her the task is just your method or way of interacting with your sub? I find it disheartening that so many of you are so negative to the new girl, I was new once, so were all of you. Yes, by all means criticize constructively but also offer her some advice that may be helpful.
*I* think what her Dom means is pay attention to me. Notice what I like and dislike and come up with something that shows me that you're noticing what I like and what pleases me...then surprise me.
I read her post and immediately thought of a story my Sir told me this week about something that I did that was completely endearing to him, if only because I have trouble with saying this particular word to him. Sometimes I'm being rebellious other times I just plain out forget, but at that moment when I said it, just as he wanted me to, when he wanted me to, it was endearing. THIS is what I believe her Dom wants of her. Is that so horrible to ask of your sub? Please enlighten me if that's the case, I'm not far off from being new myself. Am I missing something, should I be as cynical as everyone else is being?
We're not all wrong, or cynical or stale or burnt out blah blah just because *you* disagree with what we've posted...!
And that little story in your last paragraph reinforces the nonsense of the task the OP's master set her. A submissive can't possibly know from within what defines a submissive act to the average Dominant. Only a Dominant (such as the OP's "master") could know that...!
Now, if the average submissive were asked to define a dominant act, I'm sure a first day newbie could peel off quite a few examples because that is what they do know from within.
For cryin' out loud, the task was as ridiculous as a man asking the average woman what looks sexy or feminine on a woman. Sure, she can regale the cliche'd obvious but it's the man asking that'd be the true expert of his own tastes. Which means that if he's gotta ask, then his motives for doing so rightly come under some suspicion (to us cynics, anyway).
Focus.
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