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Andalusite -> RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? (8/2/2009 1:36:20 PM)
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Well, it sounds like part of what was wrong was the location, so hopefully that will help. It looks fine to me now. However, you indicated that several people *did* talk to you initially, but dropped out of contact after a few e-mails. To me, that means that no matter how good your *profile* is, you're having trouble sustaining interest via e-mail. Back when I was looking, usually I lost interest quickly if the conversation kind of petered out to a few sentences especially after the first e-mail. I enjoy writing, and would try to ask questions and engage the other person, but sometimes it was like pulling teeth to get more than a few words out of them, so I gave up after one or two attempts. Another reason was getting too sexual or pushy about serving too quickly - I usually dropped them a quick note to let them know we weren't compatible after all, but if it was bad enough, I just didn't respond or even blocked them. If the person was too far away or otherwise had a dealbreaker I found out about, that also got them put in the "to don't" bin pretty quickly. So, go back through the e-mails (the ones you sent, and their replies) and see if you can find a common thread on what went wrong, at what point.
Once we'd exchanged 3 or 4 e-mails and that went well, I usually moved pretty quickly to the phone, then meeting in person. I actively dislike IM/chat as a tool when meeting people through a personals site - I made a couple of exceptions, but a lot of people try to turn it into cybersex/online BDSM or just a small-talk time sink.
BTW, I'd trim the checklist down to things you actually participate in on a fairly regular basis - it's pretty long, and can make it come across like you just checked everything that sounded vaguely interesting. I think the blurb you put in about being interested in different forms of spirituality and religion might be better than listing every single one there as "curious about." [;)]
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