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JenTehLuv -> My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 2:55:02 PM)

Long story short; I won the wager, and now I need to come up with an idea for an award (I know this must sound strange coming from a submissive but hear me out). The terms of the bet was that if one of us wins, the winner will make the loser do something of their choosing the next time that we see eachother (which is usually once a week, so I have about a week to decide).
 
I need ideas/suggestions on what I can make my Dom do that'll please me as a sub. One of my personal ideas was making him read three of my favorite D/s fiction stories then make him choose whichever one he wanted to try out and make it happen. I want to experience something creative and new, which shouldn't be a problem considering we're very new to the scene and have barely gone past spanking/bondage/light anal. Any ideas are welcome!



KneelforAnne -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 3:00:05 PM)

Jen,

I really like the story idea!  It shows him what you like, and what you would like to try... .

An alternative is that you write a story for him to play out, with his own twists of course!

Let us know how it goes!

~anne



DesFIP -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 3:29:08 PM)

This may be your one and only time to fulfill a fantasy you have to the letter, I wouldn't waste it by trying to turn it into something he prefers. Use it to the fullest!



leadership527 -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 3:43:48 PM)

... or... you could be really sneaky.

You could make your dom give you one command that, for whatever reasons, he's been hesitating to give you.

*grins* AT least that really annoyed Carol the last time I won an "anything" bet with her. Spending my anything to give her one was blatantly unfair in her eyes *evil chuckle*



JenTehLuv -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 4:13:45 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

This may be your one and only time to fulfill a fantasy you have to the letter, I wouldn't waste it by trying to turn it into something he prefers. Use it to the fullest!


Trust me, it won't be the only time to act out a fantasy that I have. I think I've actually told him all of my fantasies, whether they've always interested me or if they're from a dream I had.

I guess it's just my submissive nature that wants to make the experience more about him than me. Thats why I wanted some other suggestions from subs; maybe the stuff they have done, etc.



leadership527 -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 4:19:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: JenTehLuv
I guess it's just my submissive nature that wants to make the experience more about him than me. ...

*No joke? It must've been my submissive nature also since that statement pretty much mirrored exactly what I actually did the last time. "Giving" is not a trait limited to submissives -- well, either that or I am very very confused about my own nature *laughs*.

This wasn't directed at you personally JenTehLuv, but people commonly seem to hookup a great many qualities that I personally admire with "submissive".



SteelofUtah -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 4:21:06 PM)

Sorry I can never resisit things like this.

As a submissive you are in an ODD Spot because what you choose can come back to bite you in the ass after things go back and the Bet is over.

I would suggest that you choose that he do something that you already really like. The Story Idea is Brilliant and multi faceted in what it will accomplish.

OR

You could always make him put on Fishnets and Be your slave for a day. Again this has the ability of going bad and I would think unless he were really comfortable with the situation that he would back out of the bet agreement.... but pictures of your Dom in Fishnets and Highheels is a wonderful think to have in your purse at Munches.

I am Evil I know this is why I don't make those kind of bets with the girl.

Steel



mc1234 -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 4:24:15 PM)

You mention playing with bondage - is there a particular position you've been dying to be tied in?  You could sketch that out for him or find a pic, and then tell him you wish him to do whatever he wants to you once you're in that position.  You get something you've been thinking about, but then he gets to do what he wants.  win/win.  lol



Lostkitten3 -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 4:32:22 PM)

Have him give you a lap dance!



leadership527 -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 4:50:43 PM)

quote:

Steel said
As a submissive you are in an ODD Spot because what you choose can come back to bite you in the ass after things go back and the Bet is over.

Not really Steel. Carol & I make "anything" bets all the time. And yes, just as the name implies, the winner gets "anything". Carol's currently up one (which is infinitely amusing to me seeing as she could use it to reverse the collar. I like trotting that little factoid out when people get all up in arms about the poor poor slave girl). But, to the point, do you honestly think that I would hold whatever she asked for against her? That would, at least for me, lack a great deal of honor. I knew the stakes going in.

I find it a fun fact that we'd been making "anything bets" for a few years before we contemplated master/slave. But honestly, if you can make and deliver on "anything", then you can do M/s also. It's the same sorts of trust, respect, caring, etc.



tazzygirl -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 4:55:21 PM)

Congrats on the win!

Ever thought of using it to tie him up? then you can make it enjoyable for you both.

hmmm... that may be why the men in my life never want to bet me.



RedMagic1 -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 4:59:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: leadership527
"Giving" is not a trait limited to submissives -- well, either that or I am very very confused about my own nature *laughs*.

I think of it as: those who are best at leadership are also best at followership.  It's the kernel of truth in the saying that the best tops started at the bottom.  I'm decent at heavy impact play despite never having been hit hard myself, but I would be much weaker at directing the motion of others if I did not understand what it means to carry out directions whether you "want to" or not.



fadedshadow -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 5:21:25 PM)

have a video game night =]



JenTehLuv -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 7:18:38 PM)

Thanks for the responses everyone!

I've noticed people suggesting tying him up (not just here, on another site as well), but sadly he isn't into getting tied up as I am. I want it to be enjoyable for us both so we can both still keep our preferences (as me being the sub and him being the Dom). I'm not one to switch, and I know he isn't either.

Some people offered the advice of just telling him directly what I want him to do to me, but again; I want to do something new and creative; so maybe I can get some examples from fellow slaves/subs and Masters/Dom's on their past experiences.



DesFIP -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 7:20:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: JenTehLuv

Trust me, it won't be the only time to act out a fantasy that I have. I think I've actually told him all of my fantasies, whether they've always interested me or if they're from a dream I had.

I guess it's just my submissive nature that wants to make the experience more about him than me. Thats why I wanted some other suggestions from subs; maybe the stuff they have done, etc.


Speaking from experience of 7 years, he only once has given me carte blanche to have it be all about me. And that was in the very beginning. The rest of it, although I've been very happy, he's directed.

Sort of like ice cream, only once in the beginning did I get away with buying a fruit ice cream, if he's at home it has to be chocolate something. Plain chocolate, chocolate marshmallow, fudge ripple, etc. I like all those flavors but I wouldn't mind buying a nice strawberry or peach for a change.

He includes pieces of what I like but I've yet to be given the opportunity since then to have it be exactly what I've been dreaming of, my script.



Aileen1968 -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 7:54:00 PM)

I'd make him ride roller coasters with me if I won.
As it is, I owe him a tattoo and a dinner at a restaurant of his choosing for two lost bets.



slavekal -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 7:58:33 PM)

Doesn't sound strange at all.  Ms. Mlicious and I often have little games and bets with stakes of our choosing.  Makes an already fun life even moreso.



JenTehLuv -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 8:15:01 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

quote:

ORIGINAL: JenTehLuv

Trust me, it won't be the only time to act out a fantasy that I have. I think I've actually told him all of my fantasies, whether they've always interested me or if they're from a dream I had.

I guess it's just my submissive nature that wants to make the experience more about him than me. Thats why I wanted some other suggestions from subs; maybe the stuff they have done, etc.


Speaking from experience of 7 years, he only once has given me carte blanche to have it be all about me. And that was in the very beginning. The rest of it, although I've been very happy, he's directed.

Sort of like ice cream, only once in the beginning did I get away with buying a fruit ice cream, if he's at home it has to be chocolate something. Plain chocolate, chocolate marshmallow, fudge ripple, etc. I like all those flavors but I wouldn't mind buying a nice strawberry or peach for a change.

He includes pieces of what I like but I've yet to be given the opportunity since then to have it be exactly what I've been dreaming of, my script.


Well, we aren't as a hardcore couple as others it seems. Though I love it when he takes charge, and I'd have no problem following whatever decision he makes; he insists that we both make decisions as a equals. He's more into BDSM for sex while I'm more into it as a lifestyle, but we're making it work ^_^.



leadership527 -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 8:16:45 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: JenTehLuv
He's more into BDSM for sex while I'm more into it as a lifestyle, but we're making it work ^_^.

Don't I just LOVE reading a statement like that.



tazzygirl -> RE: My Dom and I made a bet... (8/1/2009 8:38:16 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: JenTehLuv

Thanks for the responses everyone!

I've noticed people suggesting tying him up (not just here, on another site as well), but sadly he isn't into getting tied up as I am. I want it to be enjoyable for us both so we can both still keep our preferences (as me being the sub and him being the Dom). I'm not one to switch, and I know he isn't either.

Some people offered the advice of just telling him directly what I want him to do to me, but again; I want to do something new and creative; so maybe I can get some examples from fellow slaves/subs and Masters/Dom's on their past experiences.


Tying a man up and having your way can follow two trains of thought... sadistic... or pleasurable. a blindfold and warm oil, and he can be sent on an erotic pleasure trip, starting with a massage and ending only where your mind decides... no pain... no fear... just an erotic time spent under the loving caress of his girl.

gesh, you peeps are all so into the pain aspect... LOL



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