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DavanKael -> RE: Would women pay? (8/2/2009 7:22:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder I've never seen the reasoning behind paying for sex/bdsm/d/s/kink/fetish by anyone. Just come online and you can find whatever you seek for free. I mean come on..the net was created for it! As was very aptly pointed out to me the other day in discussion on this very subject, a professional has a reputation to protect so, presumably safety, quality, etc. is important to them. I would think there would be far less likelihood of potential safety, quality, etc. from a 'random' off of the 'net. Davan

DesFIP -> RE: Would women pay? (8/2/2009 10:31:14 PM)
The only male pro doms I know of service the gay community. Straight women can always find an occasional play partner. However women prefer to have an emotional connection in their relationships, and that's not what you get with someone you pay to do you.

Missokyst -> RE: Would women pay? (8/2/2009 11:09:48 PM)
I would pay for a decent top. If I saw him in action and it looked like something I needed at the time. However, pro male tops are much harder to find than their female counterparts.

AlexandraLynch -> RE: Would women pay? (8/2/2009 11:11:19 PM)
I'd pay a pro domme to teach me some techniques, same as I'd pay a chef to teach me pastry technique or candymaking. And I can understand a bit why I might use a pro sub. I would not be paying him to let me do x and y. I would be paying him to be happy with that. (Why, yes, I HAVE had a run of Other People's Drama in my life just now....)

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Would women pay? (8/2/2009 11:36:45 PM)
I would pay a qualified person to teach me a skill or show me one of their skills if I wanted to know and they were reasonably priced yes. quote: ORIGINAL: TickledToDeath All known that men pay pro dommes/Mistresses for "services" at Dungeons or otherwise...however would or do women pay pro Doms/Subs/Masters/Mistresses for services or is it just presumed guys are out there who would gladly submit or perform for free so why pay...? TTD

allthatjaz -> RE: Would women pay? (8/3/2009 1:11:05 AM)
I think a lot of pro Dommes are willing to teach a particular skill for a cost to another Domme but thats kind of different than a female going to them for a money exchange session.

AAkasha -> RE: Would women pay? (8/3/2009 9:14:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst I would pay for a decent top. If I saw him in action and it looked like something I needed at the time. However, pro male tops are much harder to find than their female counterparts. I'll admit that I am a rarity in this case; the idea of playing with a partner non-emotionally connected is still erotic to me, so long as there's lust involved. But as I re-read this thread I think people should clarify that there's a difference between topping and dominating/being served. I don't ponder the attraction of being 'served' while I pay the guy (well, the idea of having a man as a chauffeur, carrying my bags all day, shopping with me, etc. is interesting but I don't think it's hot) -- I am talking about paying a man to submit to intense bondage, humiliation (perhaps) and pain play. A huge part of this is payment for the facility (I would do it if it was a very well geared dungeon, not a hotel room), toys (his, not mine - the convenience is that it's all in one place for me) and his skills. Femdom tops will know what I mean - some men are just naturally very skilled bottoms. They have done it enough that they know how to be responsive without being melodramatic, they can endure a wide variety of tortures and they are able to read a top and get clues about their needs. This is a skillset that is well worth paying for! Otherwise, the only way to know is to play with tons of "do-me" bottoms until you find the gems. Time is money, my friend... But he'd also have to be clean, well-groomed, great smile and nice body. It's a fantasy, right? With the right guy, I'd be happy to pay, because it's a freedom from the entanglements and time involved in screening people, and I can just never see him again if I want - no harm, no foul. I still absolutely need emotionally-connected BDSM in my life, but I have that in my relationship with my husband, and I have that with other kinky friends who I share time with and play with. Still, the idea of pay-to-play BDSM in a fantastic dungeon is very hot, for me, as a supplement to an already-fulfilling kinky relationship. Akasha

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Would women pay? (8/3/2009 12:09:21 PM)
I would do that too, if they had a play style and equipment I found interesting and couldn't get other wise:) quote: ORIGINAL: allthatjaz I think a lot of pro Dommes are willing to teach a particular skill for a cost to another Domme but thats kind of different than a female going to them for a money exchange session.

TazDevil -> RE: Would women pay? (8/3/2009 12:20:01 PM)
I am more ues to other web for posting but blive it or not there a fuw who clame to be Por Male Dom's most say you just have to know some one to get in to it, I don't ,keep in mind that is most one sayed he just fell in to it as he was a Rope Master and started to get payed for that

LadyPact -> RE: Would women pay? (8/3/2009 12:21:09 PM)
I hope the rope skills are better than the writing abilities.

DavanKael -> RE: Would women pay? (8/3/2009 2:11:43 PM)
< seconding LadyPact's sentiments > Davan

allthatjaz -> RE: Would women pay? (8/3/2009 3:30:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact I hope the rope skills are better than the writing abilities. lol well if not he can always tongue tie someone

littlewonder -> RE: Would women pay? (8/3/2009 3:37:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DavanKael quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder I've never seen the reasoning behind paying for sex/bdsm/d/s/kink/fetish by anyone. Just come online and you can find whatever you seek for free. I mean come on..the net was created for it! As was very aptly pointed out to me the other day in discussion on this very subject, a professional has a reputation to protect so, presumably safety, quality, etc. is important to them. I would think there would be far less likelihood of potential safety, quality, etc. from a 'random' off of the 'net. Davan I guess when I used to play in the past the whole concept of safety and quality was not exactly at the top of my list...sex and having fun was. ....and you can really find that anywhere...online, a bar, run into a hot guy in the supermarket...pretty much anywhere. I guess if you're looking for a specific skill in someone though I guess a pro would be the way to go.

sirguym -> RE: Would women pay? (8/3/2009 3:43:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder I guess if you're looking for a specific skill in someone though I guess a pro would be the way to go. I've been paid by a woman to train and exercise her as a pony-girl. Sure I enjoyed it: but I'd not have bothered unless she offered to pay. I had the kit, the expertise, but not the time to give away. So she bought some of my time. She thought it was fair, so did I.

Prinsexx -> RE: Would women pay? (8/3/2009 4:10:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TickledToDeath All known that men pay pro dommes/Mistresses for "services" at Dungeons or otherwise...however would or do women pay pro Doms/Subs/Masters/Mistresses for services or is it just presumed guys are out there who would gladly submit or perform for free so why pay...? TTD Women pay for male 'escorts'. The more one pays the better the service. I have a friend who is a 'male model' (who craves to give up the responsibility and to be spanked but that's another story). I have a friend who is an escort on the social circuit here: Wimbledon. Glynebourne, Regatta, Ascot. He never discloses who his clientele are. As with other services, like therapy, good practitioners never disclose. I had a friend who came here to the UK on a short term stay from South Africa. He was accepted as a male escort by an agency with few questions and no CRB check. What he added onto the basic service was a private arrangement between him and the woman concerned. He was picking my brains about bdsm and asking if I had kit he could borrow if he needed it. Busy successful women simply do not have the time to form relationships. But a good male 'escort' will always make it feel like one.

playfulotter -> RE: Would women pay? (8/3/2009 7:20:57 PM)
I would never pay..but then again...i am not looking for a male escort!

slavekal -> RE: Would women pay? (8/3/2009 7:59:38 PM)
Women don't pay for sex. Women are sex.

queencaliph -> RE: Would women pay? (8/3/2009 8:57:26 PM)
I just know you DIDN'T say that. [8\|] (Damn shame.) quote: ORIGINAL: slavekal Women don't pay for sex. Women are sex.

Prinsexx -> RE: Would women pay? (8/3/2009 9:06:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact I hope the rope skills are better than the writing abilities. The penis mightier than thes word.

allthatjaz -> RE: Would women pay? (8/4/2009 1:28:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx quote: ORIGINAL: TickledToDeath All known that men pay pro dommes/Mistresses for "services" at Dungeons or otherwise...however would or do women pay pro Doms/Subs/Masters/Mistresses for services or is it just presumed guys are out there who would gladly submit or perform for free so why pay...? TTD Women pay for male 'escorts'. The more one pays the better the service. I have a friend who is a 'male model' (who craves to give up the responsibility and to be spanked but that's another story). I have a friend who is an escort on the social circuit here: Wimbledon. Glynebourne, Regatta, Ascot. He never discloses who his clientele are. As with other services, like therapy, good practitioners never disclose. I had a friend who came here to the UK on a short term stay from South Africa. He was accepted as a male escort by an agency with few questions and no CRB check. What he added onto the basic service was a private arrangement between him and the woman concerned. He was picking my brains about bdsm and asking if I had kit he could borrow if he needed it. Busy successful women simply do not have the time to form relationships. But a good male 'escort' will always make it feel like one. My partner used to male escort in the city and he completely agrees that its the business types, the ones that don't have time to form relationships but still want the company. He always advertised that one of his interests was spanking and he got a surprising amount of vanilla women wanting to be spanked.

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