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lally2 -> RE: *sigh* another dilemma (6/4/2010 12:37:13 PM)
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ORIGINAL: IrishMist
Yesterday I got a letter in the mail from my daughters high school informing us that she was one of the students selected to participate in a cultural exchange with students from other countries. I have not shown her the letter yet because once I do, she will be so excited that I won't be able to calm her down. I guess you could say that this is her dream come true...not so much to be part of the program, but to go to the country that they selected. Japan. Her dream is to one day, go to Japan.
I am struggling here. Not because of the cost, that's not important as far as I am concerned; but because well...she's my baby dayumit. I know I know...I can't keep her my baby forever..but...this program is pushing it faster than I want to let it happen.
So, here I sit, thinking about that letter, knowing that I HAVE to show it to her and knowing that there is nothing I can do to stop her from going on this 6 month dream of a lifetime.
Dayumit.
Fuck.
Life sure does suck right now.
Come on parents, help me out here...I have been trying to build up enthusiasm for her and I just can't find it. If she even gets a hint that I am not happy about this, she will back out...and I know that I can't let that happen.
hi,
when my ex told me that he wants to take my son (now 14) to live in australia when he turns 16 i have to admit i cried like hell - not ready, not at all and i was instantly put in a hard place because, as much as i want my son to enjoy this opportunity and as much as i dont want him to give up on his education at 16 and because ill miss him like buggery and im just not ready yet to let him go, i knew i couldnt stand in his way because it is an opportunity to live in a great country and be with his dad for that whole year.
it took me a while to get a handle on it ill admit - but i have - and this is what i told myself:
that he isnt mine and he doesnt belong to me, this is his life and he must meet every opportunity and cross road that comes along and that if i hold him back he'll only pull away from me more, but if i let him go freely and i dont let him know that its hurting me like hell then he can enjoy his time, have an amazing experience and come home to me. he'll be changed, more grown up but he will be a richer person for the experience.
my mum pulled me back from a great and happy life in HK - ive never forgiven her to be honest. it was selfish motives that did it and when i asked her about it she says she cant remember the emotional blackmail letter that she sent me -
we cant hold on to them and if we do we will only cause them to feel bad or worse, resent us.
i know what youre going through i really do, but we have to let go and let them live their lives.
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