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RE: d/s in and around one's worklife - 8/8/2009 12:34:39 AM

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leadership527:
I suspect out perspectives are more similar than dissimilar. Unless you have power of attorney, you still lack the authority to resign your partner from her job. It is her choice to follow your instruction. Based on her choice, it is her action not your's, which would result in resignation from employment.

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From a direct perspective, you also do not pay income tax. Your employer makes the payment.
From a consequential or proximate perspective, you may be required to pay union dues, and the union may contribute to a PAC.

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RE: d/s in and around one's worklife - 8/8/2009 12:38:55 AM

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RE: d/s in and around one's worklife - 8/8/2009 4:59:01 AM

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Wow, this post has gotten very deep and serious. I think the original question is being taken too literal but maybe there are people who go too far with it. In my opinion there is nothing wrong with have a little fun at work as long as it does not impact your ability to get the job done. I'm sure most people make personal calls or surf online at work. This is no different. And I'm sorry but no employer has ulitmate authority over me. I will do what I want and do my job according to my principles and morales. If there is a conflict with me and my employer on my principles then I find another job. Bottom line is you need to use common sense in what you do at work.

To answer the original question, I have been made to wear certain things to work like a cock ring, ribbon around my cock, and on occassions, panties. They were to serve as reminders of my submisison to my Mistress, but they were mostly to add an element of teasing to my day. As others have said, a true submissive does not need physical reminders to know he/she is submissive. This is true, but the physical reminders are a way to add fun and excitement to the day. For example, when I go to the bathroom and look down and see the cock ring, it may trigger a sexual thought about my mistress and suddenly I am all horned up. A simple e-mail or voicemail could stir up fanasies and a desire to be with my mistress. These fun little things are tools that can be used to reinforce the sub/dom relationship.

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RE: d/s in and around one's worklife - 8/8/2009 5:10:32 AM

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I know this might be kinda off par a bit, but I just wanted to throw it out there...does the nature of a person's job significantly influence their role / ability to fufil their role?

Until recently, my job required that I be constantly on-call and frequently respond to pages; There are days obviously and time periods where I was not on the queue but if they don't hear from someone in one minute, they go down the list (media related work), and I don't have the financial ability to not take those opportunities, so it really prevented me from trying these things out.

Also, though it doesn't seem like a very young person (college aged) would get to the point where the concept of all this would be pervasive logistically, but have any of you got similar d/s experience / advice if someone is in college (full time) ?

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RE: d/s in and around one's worklife - 8/8/2009 10:41:48 AM

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As subjoe said, this thread had taken a turn for the weird BoundBrosef. Let me try to get us back to something resembling reality...

You said that, until recently, you had a job which might intrude 24/7 due to it's on call nature. I gathered you were thinking that perhaps the pager was the new dom now? No worries. Look. In the real world, a certain amount of money needs to be made in order for basic life stuff to continue. SOMONE is making decisions about that. That someone might be you or it might be your partner depending on the relationship type. But whoever it is must balance out the available jobs, skills, financial and other requirements, etc. and get to some sort of best fit answer. If that "best fit" answer ended up with a pager in it, what's that got to do with being able to fulfill their role? Yeah yeah, it could be annoying. But honestly, I wore a pager 24/7/365 for about 10 years and I seemed to be able to fulfill my role as husband just fine.

I also don't understand what college would have to do with it all other than if it were you inclination to go TPE, it'd be virtually impossible to find a 21 year old person able to accept that level of responsibility -- or even understand what it was they were accepting. But you could certainly crowd the boundary of "total" pretty closely without too much trouble assuming very mature 20 somethings. Seriously, I remember college pretty well. You go to classes. You study. You party. Why couldn't a couple in college decided to give over authority for all those things. I just wouldn't go all the way to actual ownership at that age (much like, in general, I think marriage is unwise at that age).

Individuals, of course, are not generalities and should do whatever seems wise to them. Your mileage may vary.

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RE: d/s in and around one's worklife - 8/8/2009 3:14:15 PM

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I hadn't thought of it in those terms, & though I dont totally agree with what aldompdx is saying he has some relevent points - when my pretty one is at work their's is the authority to whom she answers. She has tasks to carry out before leaving for work, usually calls me on her break, & always calls me when she leaves work&is on her way home. She never agrees to work extra or change her hours without asking me. I need her on top of her game when at home, but splitshifts wear her out , physically&emotionally both,& after getting home she often needs downtime&she often needs me to listen to her vents & sometimes I can even give her some advice but by&large once she goes back to work she's on her own as far as how to handle things ( my Dominance has no influence on the organisation she works for, only on her behavior while she's there, or anywhere else she may be without me). & I'm on my own while she's working. She needs to be focused there&I dont call her unless its very important. I do things around the house that she normally does i.e. I'm not going to starve because she's not here to serve me, & I'm not going to look at dirty dishes in the sink or laundry in the basket. We both believe in teamwork& we make it all work out. & the money she earns at work is hers but I tell her how its distributed - so much to the household, so much to her savings, so much for her only real active addictions - cigarettes& caffeine, etc.

& I'll only say it briefly, as most of us know how it works - she's mine 24/7. Doesnt matter whether she's at work or play or pumping gas or reading the newspaper or asleep or in the shower - she never ever forgets it. Nor do I........

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RE: d/s in and around one's worklife - 8/8/2009 4:46:38 PM

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From a direct perspective, you also do not pay income tax. Your employer makes the payment.

Wrong on two counts. First, the employer only withholds from your pay and sends to the IRS the amount that you decide upon. That may be more or less than your actual tax, and you directly take care of the difference. Second, acting as an intermediary and administering the tax requirements is different from having the payments come from your own funds. Almost everyone understands that to "pay income taxes" means that the money comes from your income, and not that you just write the checks using someone else's. You're working with two definitions of "pay", and the result is flawed logic.

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From a consequential or proximate perspective, you may be required to pay union dues, and the union may contribute to a PAC.

May. May not. And the PAC may is more likely be working in your interest than against it anyway. You also seem to have overlooked the fact that this is not an employer-imposed requirement. The vast majority of employers would prefer to have no unions at all. So the employer does not require you to contribute to political campaigns. It is illegal.

I agree with your main argument. However, I also agree with RedMagic1. You're overthinking and ending up saying some things that are simply untrue.

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RE: d/s in and around one's worklife - 8/8/2009 7:20:10 PM

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Even if I answer to a different authority while I'm at work, a big part of the reason I'm working is because you require it. In answering to someone else, and getting paid for it, I'm serving you. So, there's no conflict.

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RE: d/s in and around one's worklife - 8/8/2009 7:21:37 PM

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I went to work with Sir last weekend and one of the ladies had a crop on her desk.

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