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RE: Collarme Profiles and Messages - 8/9/2009 12:28:09 PM

Alixandria

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So, what's a person to do if they're interested in the culture and the fun, but live in a relatively laid back city where this sort of thing isn't that easy to find or entirely non-existent? I suppose I -could- go to Vancouver every so often, but big cities intimidate me and I wouldn't be able to afford to go that often until after I finish school.

Have you checked out http://sagacitygroup.net ? I know it's not for everyone, but might be a place to start if you haven't.

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RE: Collarme Profiles and Messages - 8/9/2009 2:24:59 PM

interlocutor

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I have also noticed sharp increase in the number of fake profiles. While many are easy to spot there are those that could be genuine or not. There is an article in the Washington Post that many may find interesting. Washington Post Article on Nigerian Scammers I bet that collarme.com is a major source of income for Nigerian scammers.

I think that using the Internet to find a relationship of this sort in no longer a worthwhile option, not because it is impossible, but because it is impractical. Really if you want to meet some one it is my opinion and practice that one should actually go out and meet people. In my area the BDSM community does almost as much vanilla stuff as kink oriented stuff. Munches, game nights, craft nights, movie nights... things where sex and BDSM play are generally not part of the activities. I have yet to meet a Nigerian scammer at game night.

For those of you who live in the boodocks, what are you expecting? If your location doesn't afford you opportunities you need you have to ask yourself which is more important? I'm betting a place that doesn't have a local BDSM community also doesn't have a great many other things. This by itself is going to limit your options, because how many of the real folks out there are going to want to live where such a dearth of choice exists? If you are willing to move to be with some one, why not move to find some one? At least living in or near enough to a metropolitan area gives you more opportunities. Am I saying that it is impossible for some one in a rural area to meet a compatible partner online? No, but you should be realistic in your expectations.

On a different note I wonder if scammers ever complain about how hard it is to find people to scam because of of all the other scammers.

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RE: Collarme Profiles and Messages - 8/9/2009 2:28:09 PM

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Thanks Alix! *bookmarks*

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RE: Collarme Profiles and Messages - 8/10/2009 12:14:34 AM

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We have noticed that the pictures on the UK profiles seem to come from some exclusive model agency, I have asked for the name of their photographer, alas, no-one has given me the information. I to want to look like that, as 50k worth of plastic surgery is out of the question, just give me the name of photographer dammit.

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RE: Collarme Profiles and Messages - 8/11/2009 9:38:20 PM

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Hey Hey. Not all us young dommes are after money!

I actually think Im mostly sane and level headed.... Shocker!

I hate that a lot of these dingbats are "professional dommantrix's". I don't know how you can be a pro but, I have my doubts about anyone being under 25.... I mean come on... Not all of you can be pros right? Or did I just miss the test.... huge possibility on that one.

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RE: Collarme Profiles and Messages - 8/11/2009 11:58:19 PM

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I tend to agree with the theory of the Net becoming oversaturated by crap but I think it's at least in parts our own fault!

Outside of the bdsm world I work with internet publication a lot and from a pure business point of view both Alt and CM do it just right. CM is advert driven and relies on probably hundred of thousands of hits a day thet drive the advert revenue. An no, you don't actually need that big of a infrastructure behind it as someone made it sound. A server solution fast and secure enough for this site could be as cheap as 50 USD per month. It's the editorial staff that costs - not the technology! As for Alt - it lives from subscriptions - again, probably hundreds adding to the site daily.

Both sites want maximum profiles visible because it makes it look tempting for people to join , scam or no scam! It's all in the traffic - the more the better. Just like any other business model on the Internet!

Funny enough, I have even written directly to Alt telling them about certain profiles using images taken straight out of really well-known porn sites but they never ever acted. Why? Because it makes no financial sense to them to vet the profiles. On the contrary! It's against their very own business model.

As a Dominant man looking for women you get bombarded by Nigarian spam, male subs, and in general crap. What you don't get are replies from normal and real women because you are probably buried somewhere deep in their inbox, right? We no longer take time to learn to know anyone but instead expect a profile to fit all our expectations and be perfect. But people are people, and they behave in the same erratic way on the Net as in real life. I mean, how many times have I seen profiles of women on Alt saying they will not respond to male ads containing only images of their dicks and then you find them in precisely the same profile's network as friends.

Point to my rant is that if there was no business here for Nigerian scammers, if iliteracy and plain stupidy did not pay off, if players didn't get their play, then they would not stick around! But it does! And it's driven by the real people wanting real relationships. Which means that only we can change it by changing our own behaviour...

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RE: Collarme Profiles and Messages - 8/12/2009 1:53:33 PM

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I have just seen a profile in home page of CM that starts with "My name is mary ,.I saw your profile and I found you intriguing.". God, these people could be dangerous if they had brains! I feel myself much more stupid for having believed in one of those scammers once, despite figuring it out after her/his lately mails.

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RE: Collarme Profiles and Messages - 8/12/2009 4:26:21 PM

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CM doesn't want us to write to them directly about scammers -
Rather there is a system for reporting -
I can only presume that when enough people report a particular scammer
some action is taken -
Is this a self regulating system where, after a certain number of independent reports
a profile is closed a la Craigs List?
Does any one know if this actually happens?

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RE: Collarme Profiles and Messages - 8/12/2009 4:57:39 PM

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Per my roommate, who has been on CM much longer than me, it does happen. He reports all the time, he's anal that way.

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RE: Collarme Profiles and Messages - 8/12/2009 7:02:44 PM

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It's too bad you can't set up polls in the forum. It would be interesting to find out what the spectrum reasons are for having a profile here. Such things as relationship, play, money, socializing, learning about BDSM, etc. I know it wouldn't be reliably accurate but it would at least give a hint of information. As it is, one must read the various threads that discuss the subject from different angles and try to form a picture of sorts.

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RE: Collarme Profiles and Messages - 8/12/2009 7:23:47 PM

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You could always put up a poll in the polls and random stupidity section.

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RE: Collarme Profiles and Messages - 8/12/2009 8:20:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

You could always put up a poll in the polls and random stupidity section.

Thank you for pointing that out...I must be blind.

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