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CelticPrince -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/8/2009 3:10:12 AM)

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Chat rooms???????


luscious

laughs,

Enough said!

CP




FullCircle -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/8/2009 9:08:36 AM)

I’m not such a snob regarding chat rooms. Anyone that thinks different types of people exist in different environments needs to open their eyes. It is a medium just like any other and occasionally a really interesting mind would come along and entertain or educate you as is the case anywhere you meet a mind on the internet. You get out of it that which you put in so those that have only ever spent five minutes in one would have a five minute view.

I don’t typically go in chat rooms anymore but only because they took up too much of my time and the discussions are fluid meaning you have to be there constantly to be part of them and can’t just pick up on points mentioned earlier as you can in this medium. You can also spend far too long waiting around for that special mind to come along that is capable of changing your mind about something or demonstrating an issue isn’t as clear cut as you thought.

I occasionally joke about chat rooms but seriously I don’t see them as inferior to any other medium. For one thing you always get the raw unedited version of what someone thinks on a subject.




CelticPrince -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/9/2009 3:37:19 AM)

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From a time before AOL introduced unlimited access chat rooms were a means to interact with others, especially those known personally but separated by great distance. $1,500.00 phone bills were quite common during those days and in-depth meaningful sharing of information and technique was quite common and/or the planning of events that protectively brought chat room peoples together in a real life setting were often part.
Even before AOL, chat rooms served to overcome the underground exploitations that were so common during those years, chat rooms took D/s from the dirty under the counter magazines and underground paper ads to a point of larger numbers of people coming together under common banner with a sense of dignity and individual expression.
Chat rooms today are not what once they were but they performed a vital service at one time.


Arillis,

Well tis good to see there is another that can recall way back then!

CP




SilverMark -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/9/2009 3:50:47 AM)

Chatrooms on MSN classic were the first interactions I ever expeienced on the net.....seems like forever ago but,I developed friendships there that I maintain to this day! I think somehow I have progressed beyond chat although once in a great while I will log on to buzzen which is basically the replacement for the old MSN chat. I used to get on mIRC upon occassion but it was full of those that I wasn't comfortable with...a lot porn swapping etc. Many hours that I cannot replace but, then again I really enjoyed my time spent whiling away the time.




petmonkey -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/9/2009 10:44:15 AM)

They make my computer crash harder than a one legged man on an in-line skate going down a mountain pass. Besides, if i wanted to be cyber-humped, i'd look for a profile of someone offering such services rather than cyber-doin' it in the cyber-corner while a cyber-cliche nattered on endlessly.




CelticPrince -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/9/2009 8:41:24 PM)

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Chatrooms... heh. If I had the strength of will and the patience to do so, I could probably write up an entire thesis categorizing, describing, and analyzing the different types of people that go there and what they are like. Most if not all populated chat rooms have at -least- one person who has been to one of the *chans and considers himself/herself an Anon. It's actually an interesting, if extremely... unique, culture that has evolved over the past decade or so.

Chatrooms for me were actually the only social activity I got growing up, whether they be roleplaying, casual, or cyber. I know that isn't going to paint me in a very good light but, heck. My parents moved around a lot and that meant starting over -again- in a new school -again- and make new friends -again- and leave the ones I managed to make behind -again- and the only stable thing was the net. Parents seperating didn't help, and neither did a lovely season of school in the 7th grade that more or less crippled my self-esteem and turned me into an introvert.

... I got better! Honest! Real life friends, parents are together again, and social activities I swear!


Van,

Many that are on the path right now discovered it through chat rooms, so no shame there at all.
Thanks for yopur input.

CP




kallisto -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/11/2009 7:59:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

Due to limited personal time I rarely venture away from the boards, either casual reading them when I have a few moments to spare or replying to comments in a thread that I started.

On rare occasion I have ventured into the many chat rooms to see if there are any regular posters there. It only takes a couple of visits to recognize that over in the chat rooms they are a group with an entirely different mind set. Note that is not to be critical at all, but I do wonder why there is no apparent cross population of the two groups.

Any thoughts?

CP


I saw this thread a couple of days ago when it was posted and kind of steered away from it.  I'm not one to jump into unknown territory especially if it's something that doesn't grab my attention.  And time is of the essence as well.   However, tonight, I'm not real sleepy even though I got very little sleep last night.   Soooo ... I ventured over to a couple that in the description said something to the effect of "parking" which I took to mean I could just go in and lurk [:)].  Which I did.   

The ones I went in seemed to be a bunch of people that knew each other and were just chatting about the day or "flirting" around with each other.   There was nothing of substance being discussed.    They seemed to be a friendly bunch with each other. 

I enjoy the boards because it seems as though there is much discussing ..people's opinions and views and  thoughts and feelings are put out on the boards.     Maybe it's just that I'm more comfortable being on the boards and with the people that post here.    [:)]  




subfever -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/11/2009 8:21:43 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Arillis

From a time before AOL introduced unlimited access chat rooms were a means to interact with others, especially those known personally but separated by great distance. $1,500.00 phone bills were quite common during those days and in-depth meaningful sharing of information and technique was quite common and/or the planning of events that protectively brought chat room peoples together in a real life setting were often part.
Even before AOL, chat rooms served to overcome the underground exploitations that were so common during those years, chat rooms took D/s from the dirty under the counter magazines and underground paper ads to a point of larger numbers of people coming together under common banner with a sense of dignity and individual expression.
Chat rooms today are not what once they were but they performed a vital service at one time.



Interesting observation.




VanIsleKnight -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/11/2009 8:29:47 PM)

I was in one of the chatrooms here, and the people were rather friendly :)




CelticPrince -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/12/2009 11:03:12 AM)

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I occasionally joke about chat rooms but seriously I don’t see them as inferior to any other medium. For one thing you always get the raw unedited version of what someone thinks on a subject.


Circle,

Nor do I disparage them, but I still wonder why there is not more cross visitation from the two groups.

CP




ShaharThorne -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/12/2009 11:20:10 AM)

Tis been a while since I partake any chat rooms, I feel more comfortable in a forums setting. Once in a while I get a chat invite, but I decline it. Tis all about personal taste, I guess.




FullCircle -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/12/2009 12:25:52 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince
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I occasionally joke about chat rooms but seriously I don’t see them as inferior to any other medium. For one thing you always get the raw unedited version of what someone thinks on a subject.

Circle,
Nor do I disparage them, but I still wonder why there is not more cross visitation from the two groups.
CP

You said it yourself in the op: people rarely have time to be involved with both. Being in either place is one of life’s luxuries not a necessity so I suppose they favour one form of group communication than another and devote more time there.

Perhaps there are people there they know they like and therefore they don't have to go other places to find new friends
Perhaps they like knowing the lay of the land i.e. knowing roughly what to expect from each person rather than chancing an unknown
Perhaps they like the inherent structure of the conversation in each medium i.e. fast paced reaction in a chat room verses time to give a more considered response here.

Whatever the reason for the choice the reason for not choosing both is probably lack of time, if you favour one why spend any of your spare time in the other? I know when I was involved in chat rooms I only had a small amount of time to spare for the forums, even now I spend a fraction of time in the forums as I used to, our priorities change.

I'll tell you something else that isn't healthy and that is allowing a website or organisation of any kind such a Facebook etc. govern your friendships. If you don't make it real time at some point you risk losing contact if the site ceases to exist or if the owner of a chat room thinks you are an arsehole and bans you.

I lost track of all the new rooms formed from bitter splits. Each time a room owner would view you with suspicion if you went into two rooms because they each had regulars you liked. I find it very draining to invest emotion in all of that nonsense.




RCdc -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/13/2009 7:41:05 AM)

The reality of many chat rooms.

the.dark.




OttersSwim -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/13/2009 7:44:46 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

I am far too busy to play in the chat pools, the few times I was there, My good time with some regular posters was spoiled by arrogant, vulgar, obnoxious horn dogs, I can get that at the grocery.


Nonono...at the grocery you get "corn dogs"...the only place where horn dogs and corn dogs can be found together is at fairs and carnivals....[;)]




Hillwilliam -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/13/2009 9:09:49 AM)

Im both here and in chats.  Sometimes there are interesting folks there.  Sometimes there are a bunch of self-important nutbags.  Same as anyplace I guess.  Most of the folks in chat are regulars and they seem to be an insular group in some of the rooms.  Interestingly, I have run into 4 people that are very near and We're planning a munch next month.  That wouldnt seen spectacular to you folks in a metro area but Im out in the sticks in the mountains of east TN.  Small world I guess




CelticPrince -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/18/2009 10:53:38 AM)

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I’m not such a snob regarding chat rooms. Anyone that thinks different types of people exist in different environments needs to open their eyes. It is a medium just like any other and occasionally a really interesting mind would come along and entertain or educate you as is the case anywhere you meet a mind on the internet. You get out of it that which you put in so those that have only ever spent five minutes in one would have a five minute view.

I don’t typically go in chat rooms anymore but only because they took up too much of my time and the discussions are fluid meaning you have to be there constantly to be part of them and can’t just pick up on points mentioned earlier as you can in this medium. You can also spend far too long waiting around for that special mind to come along that is capable of changing your mind about something or demonstrating an issue isn’t as clear cut as you thought.

I occasionally joke about chat rooms but seriously I don’t see them as inferior to any other medium. For one thing you always get the raw unedited version of what someone thinks on a subject.


FC,

Indeed there is a tendency toward a more personal connection with chat room folks as your speaking direct to them on a real time basis so I guess that is a plus for the rooms.............. if one has time.

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/20/2009 1:02:39 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ShaharThorne

Tis been a while since I partake any chat rooms, I feel more comfortable in a forums setting. Once in a while I get a chat invite, but I decline it. Tis all about personal taste, I guess.

quote:

Tis been a while since I partake any chat rooms, I feel more comfortable in a forums setting. Once in a while I get a chat invite, but I decline it. Tis all about personal taste, I guess.

_____________________________

I made a lot of mistakes, but nothing I regret. How else am I suppose to learn about the world without breaking a few eggs?

Always perving someone...


ST,

There is no doubt that the boards are safer but they also can get hairy.

CP




inkdrips -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/20/2009 9:05:07 PM)

yea I used to be a regular at activeworlds which is not bdsm but all chatrooms are pretty much the same. Now that I don't have internet at home I don't go to chatrooms very often.

with message boards I think it comes down to the headings. If a heading doesn't interest you topicwise you probably won't visit any deeper. When I was thinking about creating my own forum on my website I spent alot of time considering the most interesting and widely encompassing headings. Of course, realising that I only get about 3 traffic wkly that's simply not enough to warrant my own forum. But I like forums, especially when the headings are interesting and the people make thoughtful comments.




FullCircle -> RE: The Two Worlds of CollarMe (8/21/2009 4:00:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: inkdrips
When I was thinking about creating my own forum on my website I spent alot of time considering the most interesting and widely encompassing headings. Of course, realising that I only get about 3 traffic wkly that's simply not enough to warrant my own forum. But I like forums, especially when the headings are interesting and the people make thoughtful comments.

This is the problem with the internet sometimes I search for an answer to a question by typing the whole question in Google and the search engine will give me a load of links to forums where the similar question was asked five years ago and no one has bothered to answer it since.[:D]

I think where heading are concerned they must be broad not specific. For example I know a forum where they have two headings ‘current events’ and ‘latest world news’ maybe I’m being thick but what is the difference? Is it only a current event if the latest news drags into two days or more?




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