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What can you offer? What benefits does she get from your company? i noticed some of your older posts and i see that you are trained in security and tax prep - those are two assets you have to offer Her. What else?

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One other thing i need to know - do you consider yourself a "bottom" <it seems to me you are> - meaning that you want specific "play only" domination on a regular basis from a Domme in your area. This as opposed to a 24/7 or live in set-up. Is this correct?

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i dont need to know anything else regarding your kink interests, just more about the person that you are.

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How much free time do you have on a regular basis (i.e. you can give every other weekend to a Domme, but not holidays)? Write down specific times that you could be available for Her use on a weekly or monthly basis

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Can you host a Domme in your home/can you afford to provide a hotel room? If not, then you have to find someone willing to host you in her home or is willing to pay for space herself, and that's something you should be clear about up front.

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What chores are you willing to do for this Domme? See above

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Since you're in a relationship already, what is the appropriate timeline for you, your girlfriend, and your potential domme to sit down together and discuss the situation? Is sitting down together someting your other is willing to do?

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Think seriously about what YOU are willing to do for her. Wash her car? Clean her house? Be a charming escort to dinner or local BDSM events? What skills do you have that she might find valuable?

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I think that you need to be honest with yourself, hang up the fantasy, and start thinking what might work in reality for you.

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ORIGINAL: seaturtle50

michael - you get 10 points for trying!!! <i already had that info though >

Now ... please read and follow the instructions exactly "You will answer the questions... old man" -cheech & chong

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What can you offer? What benefits does she get from your company? i noticed some of your older posts and i see that you are trained in security and tax prep - those are two assets you have to offer Her. What else?

i offer servitude, attentiveness and (with the exception of my vannila relatioship, which comes first) loyalty to the ONE Mistress who excepts me with these conditions

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One other thing i need to know - do you consider yourself a "bottom" <it seems to me you are> - meaning that you want specific "play only" domination on a regular basis from a Domme in your area. This as opposed to a 24/7 or live in set-up. Is this correct?

yes, i am a submissive(bottom) and do not require sexual attention, some "play" is exceptable as long as intercourse is not a requirement.

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i dont need to know anything else regarding your kink interests, just more about the person that you are.

online not withstanding, i am a newby as far as real life is concerend and am willing to explore and find out what works best and explore most aspects of the lifestyle, my hard limits are listed in my profile.

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How much free time do you have on a regular basis (i.e. you can give every other weekend to a Domme, but not holidays)? Write down specific times that you could be available for Her use on a weekly or monthly basis

would prefer weekly encounters, but monthly would also be excepted.

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Can you host a Domme in your home/can you afford to provide a hotel room? If not, then you have to find someone willing to host you in her home or is willing to pay for space herself, and that's something you should be clear about up front.

yes, i can host a Mistress in my home, with the unknown schedule of work, i would need a little notice. a prospective Mistress would need to understand i am on call with gf who lives nearby. negotiations would include her as she is important to me and would need to know what is expected or what she does not approve of.

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What chores are you willing to do for this Domme? See above

this would have to be discussed with a potential Mistress.

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Since you're in a relationship already, what is the appropriate timeline for you, your girlfriend, and your potential domme to sit down together and discuss the situation? Is sitting down together someting your other is willing to do?

that would need to depend on everyone's schedule.

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Think seriously about what YOU are willing to do for her. Wash her car? Clean her house? Be a charming escort to dinner or local BDSM events? What skills do you have that she might find valuable?

i cook, clean, give pretty good masages and could go to dinner from time to time. i even do windows...LOL

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I think that you need to be honest with yourself, hang up the fantasy, and start thinking what might work in reality for you.

i want to get past the fantasy and learn the reality of the lifestyle, no permenant markings or excessive bruisings. there's so much to learn

Come on michael - you can do this. The honest answers to the questions above are the things that are going to attract a Domina to you - one who may find you interesting, and may wish to indulge Herself by way of use of your person. Your kink desires may even come into play at that point, if She is so inclined.

If you do not know the answers to theses questions for yourself - then no one can possible know the answers.

st50

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i want to get past the fantasy and learn the reality of the lifestyle, no permenant markings or excessive bruisings. there's so much to learn

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yes, i can host a Mistress in my home, with the unknown schedule of work, i would need a little notice. a prospective Mistress would need to understand i am on call with gf who lives nearby. negotiations would include her as she is important to me and would need to know what is expected or what she does not approve of.

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Since you're in a relationship already, what is the appropriate timeline for you, your girlfriend, and your potential domme to sit down together and discuss the situation? Is sitting down together someting your other is willing to do?

that would need to depend on everyone's schedule.

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Are we having fun, yet?

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Welcome Ma’am!

Male submissive bottom in Columbus, Georgia offers loyalty to ONE understanding Mistress!

Although I have been interested in a D/s relationship for some time now, I have to date only participated online. I think I am ready to venture into the real word, and now seek the kind consideration and an eventual relationship with a Domina. Although I am a novice, i have long had the desire within to belong, and to serve. I stand ready to explore and find out what works best – in willingness.

I think that I am in need of a special Domina. I am presently in a relationship with my girlfriend who lives with MD. Although we do not currently live together, I am committed to her in many ways, and tend to her needs when they arise. This necessitates my being accepted by a Domina who is understanding and supportive of this pre-existing responsibility. My girlfriend is aware and supportive of my long-standing desires, and is available to meet with my potential Domina and myself once W/we are at that point in things. I am committed to my girlfriend Ma’am, and am therefore most interested in meeting a Domina who appreciates that I am a man of my word in this regard.

Due to these and some other considerations, I am currently in a position where my availability and involvement is limited to the Columbus area. i can, and would be honored to host a Mistress in my home, with adequate notice. While I would prefer weekly encounters, I am of course happy to conform to Your schedule, within reasonable limits.

i offer servitude, attentiveness and loyalty. I have security training, and am certified to prepare tax returns. May I cook, clean, or provide a good massage? Ma’am, I would be honored to take You to dinner from time to time as well. i am even happy to do windows...LOL. One thing You can be assured of – my sense of humor will always be present – should that please You! I am also very responsive and willing to discuss providing other various services with an interested Domina. Ideally, I seek to be an asset to You in whatever way best conveys my gratitude for Your kind notice of me. In whichever ways might please and enhance Your life the most.

Ma’am, if You think You may be interested in getting to know me better, and to allow me the honor of the same, I ask now that You please reach out to me. I do understand that sometimes taking on a beginner like myself requires extra work on Your part, and I do promise to always be willing to go the extra mile in return.

i consider myself a submissive bottom and do not require sexual attention, although some "play" is desired, as You see fit. however, no intercourse will take place. this is an agreement my gf and i have. i hope that You understand and except this restriction. I understand that in some ways I will be a challenge, do to my limited experience and other life issues, and ask that You may consider leading me and educating me in the way that things should be according to Your dominant perspective. I do have some limits, and am happy to discuss them with You when You deem that appropriate.

i am anxious to get past the fantasy and learn the reality of the lifestyle, and welcome Your contact.

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ORIGINAL: caitlyn

You know Michael, this is completely unfair. We have now read four pages, and you still haven't let us know who you are longing after.

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ORIGINAL: michaelGA

there's a few out there, but it's not my place to list them. sorry.

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ORIGINAL: Eclecta

I find that most people I would be interested in are far away as well. Must be in the water.

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me too...wish i were one (in body)

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ORIGINAL: michaelGA

i'm far too old and too poor to consider that...besides, it's not the same as being born female.