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McWhips -> RE: Financial issues (2/25/2006 7:43:15 AM)
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ORIGINAL: seaturtle50
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Its quite simple childs math really. Female subs and Doms are roughly equal numbers to each other and there are little to no relationships between them that hinge upon money being given to the Dom. While male subs out number Dommes 100:1 and many of the relationships between those depend on money being given to the Domme in one form or another.
OK McWhips, lets take a slightly closer look at this "childs math."
We start with 1 bona-fide Domme.
This according to the simplified math and your applied ratio means we now also have 100 "submissive" males.
Of this 100
50 - <most likely a conservative number> are actually wankers trying to fulfill an online fantasy only = 50 left
5 - are actually bottoms who would be most comfortable paying a ProDomme for services = 45 left
10 - are in relationships <married and otherwise> and their partner has no idea = 35 left
7 - are only interested in online domination = 28 left
7 - will not relocate, thus taking most of them effectively out of my "pool" = 21 left
10 - have such poor manners and attitude they will automatically disqualify themselves in the eyes of most Dominas = 11 left
10 - have not been able to release themselves from the male stigma of "money = control." This is to say that they have come face to face with the largely male issue of the emotional difficulty of financial surrender to a Domina. This i think is much due to the male being culturally hypnotized to believe that he is to be the provider, the breadwinner. <That is also the main reason this dynamic may often be missing in the male Dom/female submissive relationship>. Not terrific postures for a submissive from the get go. Certainly not in an M/s relationship - where TPE is the order of the day. = 1 left.
So i see my ratio of Domina to submissive male as 1:1.
In reality, i suspect the odds are even better due to the fact that there are actually many Dominas looking for more than one submissive male with a proper attitude. My "childs math" above does not even take that into account. Or the many other factors in play such as an individual submissives abitlity to be honest, mature, and reliable.
i have only been "around" the lifestyle a short while, and must say i find there to be an appalling lack of competition for the Dommes wondrous attentions. Especially in view of the fabled 100:1 ratio. i have managed to attend a few munch's so far, and since there were 4 or 5 Domina's present - i could not help but wonder where they were hiding the 400 to 500 submissive males that were potentially vying with me for their attention?
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No-one can deny that fact.
i guess i just did.
Have Fun
st50
Its a wonderfull theory and I would really love to believe it.
I suspect if you where say 100 Dommes for every 10,000 male subs (which is exactly the same as 1:100) you could split the 10,000 male subs into different catagories to similar proportions as you have done but it would be a miracle if the 100 Dommes couldnt be in different catagories themselves and all 100 of them be the equivalent of the 1 male sub (or 100 male subs if you take the 100:10,000 figure) left over.
If you take what I just said this could imply that for every 1 worthwhile Domme there are 100 genuine male subs or there abouts while the other 9,000 subs are not, at best it implies that its not 1:1 but 1 to significantly more than 1. Hence any Domme who thinks 'if theres so many male subs out there for every one Domme how come I dont get to meet a good one or get memos from a good one?' should realize that 100 is a very small proportion of 9,000.
Reading between the lines on can see I am implying that not all Dommes are ideal themselves but at the end of the day one has to be honest and blunt about it as its not so much 'unfair' but 'disengenious' to statistically scrutinize only male subs but not Dommes as ultimatly we are all mortal humans and we vary, meaning that the catagory of Domme cannot be superflous.
The above statements are not deliberatly exaggurated or a bias attempt for me to have an excuse just to be pessamistic and argue with you all, they are based on impartial logic.
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