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Mercnbeth -> RE: Confidence - Which side of the flogger requires more? (8/14/2009 11:53:30 AM)
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I don't quite know how you measure confidence other than to see who balks or chickens out in a given situation. rideemwet,
No, I think confidence going in is determined that way when the focus is primarily just doing something with a partner without the concern for the partner at the other end of the experience. In other words, at a club that I'm attending for the first time, I need to exhibit confidence and/or ability so the submissive will trust me enough to let me bind them to a cross and do whatever it is we agree to do; and let the games begin.
My attempt here was to focus on the other side of the experience. Using that same example, and going to that club for public play for the first time with a partner; are you confident the relationship with the partner, on either side of the flogger, has not had a negative impact on the relationship. Where does the confidence come, and who requires more to go through that new, first experience? As a meet, greet, play, and good-bye; it doesn't matter much. However, being bound, attached to a cross, and flogged publicly at a club for the first time, can generate an interesting ride home; if one side loved it, and the other were reduced to tears thinking back on the exact same experience.
The question isn't so much would you risk it, but who needs more confidence to attempt it in the first place, knowing that in any event, there would be that ride home.
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