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Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/10/2009 2:41:30 PM   
Trunks1056


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Status: offline 		Hi there everyone. Recently I bought myself a new Rectal Dilator Kit for myself to use to help open myself up more than I currently am. The kit came with 5 different sized plugs, from a 1 inch diameter to a 2 in diameter in 1/4" steps. Each plug also has a small hole in the tip that helps prevent pressure buildup. (so the packaging says) I also got myself a very large bottle of lube to use with these.

Now the lube works great, but I have no idea how I'm supposed to use this kit to train myself to be more open. By that I mean that while I can understand the basic concept of Lube, lube and more lube, then moving on from one size to a larger size, how long should I leave the plugs in, or what kind of schedule with them should I keep? Would it be a good idea to wear a plug long term (like for a day) then try moving to a larger plug? Would it be better to simply wear a plug for only a few hours a day instead of the whole day? Should I wear it while I sleep? What if I'm out and I need to use the restroom? Should I carry some lube with me to help re-insertion.

I think you can see where my confusion comes from. If anyone would like to offer me advice on the matter, I would appreciate it. If anyone is curious as to what the dilator kit I got looks like exactly, I put a link to it below.

http://www.extremerestraints.com/butt-plugs_1/rectal-dilator-kit_277.html
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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/10/2009 5:02:49 PM   
masmiss


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Status: offline 		There is a search feature at the top right of the page.  There you will find oodles of threads on anal dilation.

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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/10/2009 6:08:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		If the plugs are in so long you can't stop the poop from running out, I'd say you have a problem.

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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/10/2009 6:44:52 PM   
LadyPact


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OK, in the event that you're serious, unlike lube, a little common sense goes a long way.  Start with the smallest plug for short periods of time.  Say fifteen minutes to start.  Do that for a few days and then increase the time.  Go up to say thirty minutes.  (Please, for heaven's sake, remember to clean it between uses.  Condoms will make that job easier.)  When you have gotten to the point where you can insert the smallest for the amount of time you are hoping to achieve, move up to the next size and start back at fifteen minutes.  I'd also suggest that you do this only at home until you've become accustomed to having an insertable be part of your day.

I'm ranking this one right up there with 'how do I use My vibrator' and 'new ways to get females to talk about a male's ass' as far as threads go.

One more quick clue.  It's usually advisable to have a general idea of how to use a toy before you buy it.


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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/10/2009 7:35:11 PM   
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Whip 'em into shape and shame LadyPact.

and whatever you do DBZ referencing fellow do not start from the biggest to the smallest. That is backwards.

*waits for mal*


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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/10/2009 11:01:16 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic
and whatever you do DBZ referencing fellow do not start from the biggest to the smallest. That is backwards.


And don't insert them backwards either!

where is mal?

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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/11/2009 4:37:46 AM   
MsFlutter


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Status: offline 		I have that exact same dilator set. I re-purposed the 2" one as a jello mold LOL. I should have it cut in half so I can use the two halves at the beach for creating sand art ;)
 
It's an excellent set - the tiny hole drilled in the tip prevents 'vapor-lock' so pressure doesnt build and organs don't get inverted  when its time to remove the dilator. There are other reasons for 'venting' also but I'll let you figure them out.
 
Wearing anything from this dilator set 'out and about' may not be practical as this set is rigid plastic. For 'out and about', get a nice silicone anal plug and perhaps a plug harness. If a harness isn't in your budget, experiment with vet wrap - its also less 'bulk' under your clothes.

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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/11/2009 2:29:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		hello people  must say i owe all my anal training to my mistress  she is the one who introduced it to me by when she started playing with my ass with a couple of those innocent female fingers of hers many moons ago see she was doing a tease and denial thing on me ..i was strapped up ...blindfolded ..and i was under her control completely  first once i was unable to move because my arms and legs were spread wide for her and she had complete access to me ..she got me hard and put a cock ring around my cock so i would stay that way for her ..funny how guys get that way from a females touch then she would jack me off until my cock started dripping pre cum from it ..then she would back off completely and laugh at me in the spot that she got me in and there was nothing i could do to stop her  i was totally at her control ..then she introduced the hot wax and then the ice cubes ..she thought it was funny how quick the ice cubes melted in my ass  then she introduced 2 of her fingers to open me up some ..first time i had ever experienced anything in my ass  and yes it felt great  like any good lady who knows a mans body she found my prostate within a minute or 2  to be doing the tease and denial thing for like 2 hours i was ready to explode for her but she backed off everytime i was about too ..and yes i had to ask her permission to cum once she started the prostate massage and the handjob  we couldnt believe how much more i came ..she had me right where she wanted me and she tapped into her gold mine by playing with my ass the way that she did  i was hooked ...hook ..line and sinker  from there she went to butt plugs ...then dildos and then she bought her first strapon ..it was 6 in long and i told her there was noway she was going to get that in me ..wrong she said ..and after enough lube ..patience ...and telling me how much she wanted to fuck me with it ..history was made   that nite she would not let me go home until she was done with me ...she told me to never underestimate her power and dominance over me ...boy did she bring out the submissive male in me that nite  after i came she fed me back my cum until i swallowed it all ...i guess what im trying to say is anal training is alot easier to be done when you have a lady who wants to do it as much as the guy who wants it done to him  and when you have that chemistry between you too the sky is the limit when no is not in the vocabulary  she increased the strapon sizes by 2 inches each time ..until now i can take the 14 in bam completely in me ...and she now fists me on a weekly basis at least weekly ..because if you love strapon play as much as we do being fisted by her is even better then bam as far as we are concerned  she has trained me well i must say and i owe alot to her for doing so  doing it by yourself sorry i think thats kinda lame ..i have very little interest in it without her being there doing the honors  find a woman to help you discover these things together i swear your relationship will grow stronger on a weekly basis if you do so  the power exchange is amazing submitting to a sexy lady this way ..she is amazing i must say  hope this makes sense ..i think it does ..to train yourself why bother unless you have someone else to share it with ..just my .02 cents of course ..have fun mal

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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/11/2009 2:50:25 PM   
pyroaquatic


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Status: offline 		Mal, when are you not completely under the control of your Mistress?

I can imagine you being somewhat hyperactive.


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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/11/2009 10:23:50 PM   
Trunks1056


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Status: offline 		Thanks you everyone who has left good advice and tips for me. A fie on people who just came in to laugh at my inexperience which I expressed in my original post.

I did also use the search feature, searching multiple terms, but none of them really answered the questions I wanted to ask. That is why I made this topic.


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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/12/2009 5:21:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am curious as to what your motivation is? Has someone told you this will make you more attractive to women?

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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/12/2009 11:07:46 AM   
Trunks1056


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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

I am curious as to what your motivation is? Has someone told you this will make you more attractive to women?


Nope. Just something that I wanted to try and explore. Though I am not currently with anyone or have any prospective relationships on the horizon, that doesn't mean I can't keep exploring and learning new things on my own. Doing this is actually letting me learn more about my body, what it can and cannot do, and what it does and doesn't like. It's letting me get more in touch with myself in a very basic sense, and that is reason in and of itself to do it.

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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/12/2009 11:34:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Trunks1056

A fie on people who just came in to laugh at my inexperience . . .



Laughing at the inexperienced is one of the things we on the boards enjoy most.  You aren't seriously suggesting that we stop?

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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/12/2009 11:46:53 AM   
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It saddens me to see a cute potential boy-toy violating his ass all in his own so a femdom like me can't come along and find it...."untouched."

Self play is ok...but at some point you have to leave parts of your self hot & virginal for the future lady who will own your most private and preferably TIGHT holes.

Akasha


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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/12/2009 12:12:11 PM   
ElanSubdued


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Venatrix to Trunks1056:
Laughing at the inexperienced is one of the things we on the boards enjoy most.  You aren't seriously suggesting that we stop?


Bad domme.  Bad. :-)

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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/12/2009 12:16:16 PM   
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Laughing at the inexperienced is one of the things we on the boards enjoy most.


I've noticed that. To me, sneering at new folks makes one seem small and sad. But it must have some hidden appeal. Perhaps it shores up fragile egos?

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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/12/2009 12:55:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		No.  We're more laughing at our old selves when we were inexperienced.

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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/12/2009 1:00:11 PM   
Venatrix


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ORIGINAL: dcnovice

quote:

Laughing at the inexperienced is one of the things we on the boards enjoy most.


I've noticed that. To me, sneering at new folks makes one seem small and sad. But it must have some hidden appeal. Perhaps it shores up fragile egos?


It was intended as humour.  You might try not taking things so literally.

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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/12/2009 1:06:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oh. Having high standards for humor, I sometimes miss posters' attempts at it.

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RE: Anal Training Advice Request. - 8/12/2009 1:08:31 PM   
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