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RE: cautionary cam's? - 8/15/2009 9:08:07 AM

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Voice is no guarantee. I have found lessons on the web to help a man learn to change his voice into a very feminine voice. It's a matter of training yourself. Without meeting in person there is no 100% fool proof way to know the person is female.

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 8/17/2009 12:57:20 PM

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Anytime you do something on camera, you take a risk. Get to know the person a little and decide if that's what you want to do. Hard to be blackmailed though if all someone knows you by is online. I'd also base your conduct by what the other person is willing to do. Yeah, that's not always fool proof.

I've just discovered the fun that cams can provide in the last year... it is enjoyable to me to see a boy do what I tell him to do. That's just me. As for blackmail there are a few things you can do: 1) Don't act like it's something that would bother you 2) Don't give out too much personal information 3) Use your gut instincts. If it doesn't feel right, then don't. 4) If someone threatens to blackmail you nonconsensually then tell them if they do anything along those lines you will report them to the authorities and do so if they continue.

Other than that, relax and have fun.

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 8/17/2009 3:33:02 PM

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Just use common sense. Males do not typically get that lucky. If a Domme asked me to go on cam right after meeting her, and get nekkid, and she was not willing to go on cam, or at least provide me with alot of realistic pics, I would instantly think she was a guy.

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/13/2010 8:33:30 PM

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i have to call bs on anyone saying that a ts person has to include their birth assigned gender in their profile or else they are lying....i don't think it is a lie for a true ts person to not broadcast there past medical history to everyone.... i mean really that sounds ridiculous.... think about it

also most likely you have probably met ts people in your lives and never knew..... soo what i am seeing here is some individuals perpetuating trans-phobia hopefully making you aware of yourselves will allow you to change your positions acordinglly

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/13/2010 9:37:11 PM

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so in my search for a mistress i met a new person who wants me to go up on cam (of course) and i asked to chat on the phone......i think i offended her because i did not trust she was who she says. was i wrong?

Requiring someone to get on the phone for proof may backfire. Personally, I HATE phones. If someone needed to hear my voice to be certain I was a woman, too bad for them. I do have several photos on my website. Since I pretty much look the same in each of those pictures, I figure that is sufficient proof until an in person meet can occur. If someone needs more that that, oh well, they ain't gettin' it.

Then again, I don't do the cam thing nor do I expect it from those I speak with. I don't think anything is wrong with those who 'do' cam, it's just not my thing.

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/13/2010 10:56:17 PM

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Don't do anything on cam that you wouldn't want to see on the 5 o'clock news!!!! There is no telling if you will be blackmailed. But think of politician and celebrity sex scandal buyers. everyone has their price to let secret slip

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/13/2010 11:03:11 PM

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I don't mean to burst your bubble. But, I really hope the friend on your profile isn't the women your posing for as the profile seems a little fake for various reasons (my opinion of course). Also, if you want advice on how to spot a fake profile, I maybe able to help.

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/13/2010 11:46:42 PM

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As long as ive been on CM I still dont have a pic here,when I get to know someone well enough I tell them to contact me at my email addy and send a pic from there,that doesnt mean that someone scamming couldnt continue to do wrong but it cuts down on the chances of it happening.

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/14/2010 1:13:42 AM

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I don't mean to burst your bubble. But, I really hope the friend on your profile isn't the women your posing for as the profile seems a little fake for various reasons (my opinion of course).

Seconded.

OP: My general rule is: don't put images/video clips on the net that you wouldn't want your (theoretical) little brother/sister seeing. Nobody can make the risk assessment for you about whether a domme is going to use your image inappropriately-you have to decide that for yourself. But I personally would err on the side of caution.

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/14/2010 11:58:00 AM

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Have you talked to her on the phone and seen her on cam live, etc. to verify she is indeed a woman? That's a bigger concern :)

Akasha

This.

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/14/2010 11:48:21 PM

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i have to call bs on anyone saying that a ts person has to include their birth assigned gender in their profile or else they are lying....i don't think it is a lie for a true ts person to not broadcast there past medical history to everyone.... i mean really that sounds ridiculous.... think about it

also most likely you have probably met ts people in your lives and never knew..... soo what i am seeing here is some individuals perpetuating trans-phobia hopefully making you aware of yourselves will allow you to change your positions acordinglly

If someone is going to be getting serious with another person, they very much should divulge if they have undergone sexual reassignment surgery. What if one wants children in the future? Not possible with a post op, so should they make an excuse for the reason? If they aren't post op, then they are still the gender they were born as no matter how much they live 24/7 as the opposite gender.

To the OP:

If you are going to be doing this all on line, there is no reason for you both not to be on cam as you get to know each other, if you are going to go the cam route. I don't have a web cam, not getting one anytime soon either. But if I were, I wouldn't be randomly doing things on cam with someone I haven't spent some significant time getting to know.

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/14/2010 11:55:16 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetlindsey84

i have to call bs on anyone saying that a ts person has to include their birth assigned gender in their profile or else they are lying....i don't think it is a lie for a true ts person to not broadcast there past medical history to everyone.... i mean really that sounds ridiculous.... think about it

also most likely you have probably met ts people in your lives and never knew..... soo what i am seeing here is some individuals perpetuating trans-phobia hopefully making you aware of yourselves will allow you to change your positions acordinglly

I've herd stories about men who murdered the girl (so they thought) they had sex with after finding out she use to be a he. In addition, if I did something with someone who use to be a guy, and she never told me. Problems will be the end result; in other words, it may get REAL bad.

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/15/2010 3:03:43 PM

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to lafeyette lady.. I totally agree with your previous statement.....

to wanting to serve.... it's attitudes such as yours that perpetuates poblems in the world...... your essentially saying that your ok with the thousands of trans men and women that are killed in hate crimes such as what your proposing... my question is why are you so insecure about your own sexuality? I mean liking a transwoman isn't gay if you are atracted to them as women.... i mean if you didn't know b4 why should it matter after?

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/15/2010 3:08:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetlindsey84

i have to call bs on anyone saying that a ts person has to include their birth assigned gender in their profile or else they are lying....i don't think it is a lie for a true ts person to not broadcast there past medical history to everyone.... i mean really that sounds ridiculous.... think about it

also most likely you have probably met ts people in your lives and never knew..... soo what i am seeing here is some individuals perpetuating trans-phobia hopefully making you aware of yourselves will allow you to change your positions acordinglly

If a person is going to lie to me about that, I would wonder what else they would lie about. I will not tolerate being lied to.

As for the OP, I can only second what AAkasha and LadyPact have already said.

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/15/2010 3:41:44 PM

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the problem is you assume it is a lie how is it a lie? because you say so?

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/15/2010 4:14:20 PM

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to lafeyette lady.. I totally agree with your previous statement.....

to wanting to serve.... it's attitudes such as yours that perpetuates poblems in the world...... your essentially saying that your ok with the thousands of trans men and women that are killed in hate crimes such as what your proposing... my question is why are you so insecure about your own sexuality? I mean liking a transwoman isn't gay if you are atracted to them as women.... i mean if you didn't know b4 why should it matter after?

First off, please do not twist words and then shove them down my throat; I never said that I approved of murdering transvestites/transsexuals. I only dully noted that it would be a wise decision for the transsexual to mention that he/she got a sex change before making relations with another person. If that individual chooses to not do that, and that man finds out, then he/she better be prepared for the consequences of their actions.

To answer one of your questions, it's hard for me to fathom how me not wanting to have sex with another man somehow translates to me being sexually insecure. Personally, I have not one bit of interest in men; you may thank my genetic code for that. I'm only sexually attracted to natural women. This is a personal preference, and I could careless if you agree with it.

And lastly, the reason why it would matter for me to know if someone use to be a man before making sexual relations is because, again, I do not in any way shape or form have any interest to be with a man. In my opinion, a women who use to be a male is still a man, and I want no part in having a sexual relationship with that individual. Though, a friendship wouldn't be out of the question as long as that person respects my boundaries.

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/15/2010 4:34:59 PM

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ok so hypothetically your attracted to a woman so much that you have sex with her then she tells you she was physically born male. and all of a suddenlly she is no longer attractive? i call bs.... she wasn't a man when you were having sex but now she is? that sounds like your bias and hatred not theirs.......

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/15/2010 4:41:06 PM

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Boy this got complicated. I believe in complete honesty before sex. I am ill and anyone I have sex with knows this before we have sex. It is a matter of personal honor and not enticing someone into something they have no real idea they are entering. Is it right for me to get them all into me and then once they are all in love, announce I am not all that they may think?

Do they hate ill people if they don't want to be with me? Or is it simply a choice?

I do have a responsibility to be honest and forthright.

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/15/2010 5:00:59 PM

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lmao that is more bs lockit....... 1/3 people have genital herpes and i have yet to read a profile here where anyone discloses that upfront.......and i agree you should prolly tell some one b4 you have sex but if they don't it doesn't mean you have the right to harm them....... in both of those cases however one could understand why

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RE: cautionary cam's? - 2/15/2010 5:07:28 PM

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I never said it is right to ever harm anyone.

What I am saying is that we shouldn't deceive by way of hiding something. As for the herpes comment... I know of a number of people who mention this in their profile.

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