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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

 

Whatever. 


 

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ORIGINAL: NoreenSwan

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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ORIGINAL: NoreenSwan

Well now, you should relax and not be so defensive about the subject of submission.

if you only play a subby in bed good for you. I'm sure SmartStrongSub can handle it and doesn't really care one way or the other.

Take a deep breath because he didn't jump to define you or the way you play as right or wrong. Have a glass of wine. It'll relax you and open you up and stuff like that.

Such a condescending little post, where do I begin. I asked someone to clarify their post. If you have a problem with that, please by all means block me.

Of course you would see it in a negative way, it's your way it seems often on here. No, I don't want to block you. I feel alright about you disagreeing with me and I am okay if you yell at me. It's not a big deal. I only concerned if I offended you and I'm sorry if this is how it is so. But I just want you to know you don't have to get defensive or feel threatened and start to come off as mad in replies.

I really think you just don't like his perspective on consensual slavery and D/s relationships and that's really why you are defensive and nit picking. He really does not come across as hostile, unlike red and yours comments which seemed out of context in the level of excitement the comments reached. I'm sorry you and him couldn't understand the context his argument was couched in but I think it's clear to everyone SmartStrongSub is a respecting, intelligent poster, here in good faith and he writes in a very non-confrontational way and does not get personal. That's a good skill. But really I think everyone knows yours opinions are yours and if you don't like the practice of slavery or full time D/s relationship well then fine, that still doesn't impact someone else's reality who believes differently. And so, their opinions on how things should be, is just that, their opinion and that should have no bearing on you or what you like to do. The world is big enough to handle different strokes in folks. Don't be so defensive and threatened because someone makes a good argument that you don't agree with. He can feel his way is best as you can feel your way is the best. It doesn't matter and doesn't affect the other if they can be open and secure in their own positions and other people's differences.

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Eh?  Well, thanks for your observations on my psychological state, Noreen.  Even if they were correct, though, I'd still be a little puzzled as to why you think they're relevant. 

Whatever.  Getting back to the subject:  In the section of SSS's post that I quoted in my last post, do you, or do you not, think he was implying that there are those who subscribe to his definition of 'slavery', while others who don't subscribe to it are merely 'playing at' slavery?  



 

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ORIGINAL: SmartStrongSub


If one desires to experience the mysterious joys of a bdsm Owner/slave relationship, one has to be prepared to embrace the realities of that trasfer of power and control. The more limits one places on the relationship, the less authentic and less complete the experience. The more one surrenders, the more one genuinely experiences and more fully enjoys the dynamic.

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Thishereboi,

It's a standard trick.  The way to 'win an argument' is to ignore what one's opponent is saying and just cast aspersions on his/her mental state instead.  It's got to be done subtly, though . . . (note, Noreen!)

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Thishereboi,

It's a standard trick.  The way to 'win an argument' is to ignore what one's opponent is saying and just cast aspersions on his/her mental state instead.  It's got to be done subtly, though . . . (note, Noreen!)

Thanks, I wondered what exactly we were supposed to be threatened with.

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Nope, what I need is someone who wants to engage in reasoning with me, Noreen...