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CaringandReal -> RE: If the tables were turned. (8/12/2009 6:01:24 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Truthfully, I think what would happen would be that the numbers would equal out. While there are a number of confident, driven females on both sides of the kneel, if the tables were turned, the surplus would very quickly fall to the wayside. Gone quickly would be the types who are around just to make a quick buck or anyone who is struggling with self esteem.
Ahem. No.
Struggling with self-esteem doesn't mean one lacks other qualities such as preserverance, competitiveness, creativity, assertiveness, keen intelligence, and intense focus, all of which tend to put one near the top of any sort of race for rare human commodities.
Perhaps the act of struggling with low-self-esteem, at least over the long term, gives some women a different sort of strength, the sort that would stand them in good stead in a scarcity environment. Humbleness, maybe? Well, at least that's a strength for a submissive woman.
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The thread question is an interesting one. I cannot speak for dominant women but I see the actual online situation for submissive women as being very close to what was described at the start of this thread as a "what if?" As I see it, the real maldom/femsub demographics online and elsewhere work very much like the social orders in animal groups. While there are an innumerable number of men beating their chests online and claiming dominance, only a very few of these men are seen as attractive by submissive women. The attractive doms, whether you call them alphas, call them guys with game, or call them something else somehow do things right: submissive women percieve them as dominant and hot or interesting and actively pursue them. The other men, the betas (or the guys with lame? ;) ), have little sucesss at attracting the interest of the sub women. Turnover among this group is very high, profiles are here one day, gone the next (although a lot of them come back with a new profile, hoping a different name or approach or something will attract the women.) If a guy with lame does attract a submissive, he usually don't keep her interested for long.
In my experience, the proportion of "guys with game" to "guys with lame" is very small. One in several hundred, I suspect. For the guys with game, websites like this are their oysters, their happy hunting grounds. They can pick and choose virtually whomever they want. Sure, they get the occasional snub from a spoiled princess type or a scared woman who turns down everybody or someone who just happens to delete their email without reading it, but the women paying attention almost always respond very positively to such men, at the same time as they are ignoring or feeling disdain (or even pity) toward the other types. And yes, like anmials who group, the few doms that are highly attractive to submissives often form harems. It's a natural outcome both of the demongraphics and also of the natures/personalities of many male dominants.
For some reason, I don't think my theory is going to be too popular. :) At any rate, take it with a grain of salt, it's just what I and a few friends have personally observed out there in the wild frontiers of Singlesland, and I put it forth just as something interesting to consider and not as True Fact Writ In Stone.
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