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SteelofUtah -> RE: Age? (8/26/2009 1:47:22 PM)
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I dislike and have always disliked this issue.
There are some things that one cannot gap.
The Age Issue is often seen as a Number, I get rather agrivated being seen as a number. However there are times when this is an issue. I got involved in this lifestyle at 16 and knew it was not something that I did but Dominant was something that I was. However at 16 when the average age of submissives in my local circle was 35 to 48 it is difficult to find a submissive who was willing to surrender themselves to someone who could not legally vote at the time.
I used to rage against the idea that my Age defined who I am, I still feel it is a silly thing to make the final decision on however I do know some things that age causes an issue with. An Older sub would remember things that I did not and thus could not relate to. I was not alive when Kennedy was Shot, I don't rememer who Shot JR, I never owned a pet rock. I was a Child of the 80's, I did the Grunge thing till I got tired of smelling like teen spirit. I watched He-Man not the Little Rascals, I watched Transformers and I remember when Optimus Prime Died. I happen to know who John Boy is but never saw an episode of the Waltons. I had Afterschool specials that made me think every adult wanted to molest me. These are Generational Factors that Age does matter too.
That being said my wife is 6 years younger than me, far from a full generation however there are things she did not experience or was too young to experience them the same way I did. For instance she never watched 21 Jump Street and so she only knows Depp as Captain Jack Sparrow and not Officer Tom Hanson. These things do not a relationship make but some people wonder what they will have in common with someone younger or older than them.
This is where I show you how silly these things can be. You see andi is a HUGE MASSIVE FAN of RUSH, Pink Floyd, and Led Zepplin she has forgotten more about these bands then I ever learned in the first place, I consider myself an 80's kid but I was 10 by the time it was now the 90's however I relate to the 80's and that culture heavily.
Age has nothing to do with interests only how one remembers these interests. I am a Movie Fanatic and tend to like all Generes but remember with passion the movies that related to me at the time because of this many of my favorite movies are from the 80's but my all time Favorites are from the 60's 70's and some even from the 50's I love these movies and I can talk about them forever.
Age in the concept of BDSM is offten seen as Experience and this is the Largest Falecy I know of. I have been involved in this lifestyle in some way for about 12 years. In that time I have come across MANY MANY People who are in their mid to late 50's who are revered for their knowledge of BDSM and their abilities as a Dominant and they haven't been involved in this Lifestyle for more than 6 or 7 years. The Last Honoring Ceremony that I went to, some Mr.Master something or other the Dominant being honored had been involved for 7 years and written two books. So what is Age and Experinece?
Ultimatly I feel this way. Age is a Number that comes with a time line in which one can experiencve many things, it is how much you learn from those things that matters not how long you had to learn them.
Steel
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