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RE: Threats - 8/16/2009 1:10:00 PM

MagiksSlave

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I react poorly to threats and it doesnt matter what the threat is. Just the presence of a threat is enough to get my dander up...

"Did you seriously just threaten me..." Thats my usual reaction to such things, and I think the same is true for many people.

Threats by nature are just words used in place of actual actions, they are most often cowardly attempts to get ones own way without actually having to work for it.

For that reason alone I react poorly to them, they just piss me off!!

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RE: Threats - 8/17/2009 9:00:18 AM

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Master always tells me i can do whatever i want, but i know what is expected of me (yes we talked about it), and if i do something that i know is wrong i will get conquensences. I don't know exactly what they are, when i asked Master he just said "Trusrt me sweetheart you will not like them". That is enough to know to make me be a "good girl". The main fact I know he will follow through. If i did not think he would then i might do things that i know are wrong just because i can. So it keeps me in line.

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RE: Threats - 8/17/2009 10:27:45 AM

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It's like these parents who turn to their kids and ask 'Do you want me to give you a spanking?' I mean what would happen if the kid turned round and said 'Yes please'?

I'm of the opinion that if you're going to do something then just go ahead and do it, don't advertise it, don't announce it, just go right ahead and do it.

Threats and promises don't work with me. They're nothing but stated intentions. It's like when people tell you 'I will always love you'. I've heard it before. Only my definition of 'always' didn't match their definition.

But then again, I sometimes enjoy surprising people. It keeps them on their toes and interested in life.

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RE: Threats - 8/20/2009 5:22:05 AM

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So, how do you see threats? How do you react to them? If someone failed to follow through on a threat, would they lose credibility with you?
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That say never pull a weapon unless you are going to use it. Same with threats in this or any context. Mistress sometimes tells me what will happen if I do something or don't do something, sometimes negitive sometimes positive, and I believe her because she has never made a threat.

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RE: Threats - 8/20/2009 11:27:55 PM

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I need clear statements of consequences sometimes, particularly when there are rules set involving me taking care of me. -- And in the beginning of a new D/s relationship, I *do* test the limits and do need to know the consequences and see them carried out once or twice.
I've explained to the person I'm newly in a relationship with -- this isn't disrespect that I intend to continue. it is the childlike part of me making sure the structure is there and the boundaries are real. Once that part of me knows that and has some security, I tend to behave.

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RE: Threats - 8/21/2009 5:51:16 PM

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I generally believe that escalation should be avoided at all costs.

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RE: Threats - 8/21/2009 6:05:46 PM

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Sorry I misread the above post and thought it was 'ejaculation.' My apologies.

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