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Obtaining a slave... - 8/15/2009 11:28:31 PM   
Raythedom18


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Status: offline 		Hmm...I've been here for a few weeks or so :/ Not having any luck with finding a slave :( Maybe it's my age....So Any of you older more experienced Masters want to give me some tips on what I"m doing wrong? Am I too nice of a Master or is it the fact that I'm not experienced enough?...Someone help me :D

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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/15/2009 11:30:40 PM   
BKSir


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Status: offline 		The biggest part of it might be that it's only been a few weeks.  Give it time.  How many people are married after looking for a girl/boyfriend for a few weeks?  Not very many.  This is just as serious of a commitment, with a LOT fewer candidates.  It's not like going shopping for a new sweater or something.

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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 2:43:18 AM   
sirsholly


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It's not like going shopping for a new sweater or something.
*smacks BK a good one*

Sweaters are from Sears.

The op needs to go to SlavesRUs...

or...give it a hell of a longer than a few weeks. Try to look at this is a vanilla realm.....would you expect a vanilla male to find a relationship in just a few weeks? Of course not. A relationship is a relationship. Just because you call yourself a master/dom does not mean you will  have them dropping at your feet.


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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 3:01:53 AM   
Aanakaris


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Status: offline 		"Just because you call yourself a master/dom does not mean you will  have them dropping at your feet. "

It doesn't? Damn. I'll have to stop asking to be called master and try a different title.

Would, "Lord Amazing Super Ninja Giant-Cock" have them dropping at my feet?


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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 3:05:40 AM   
sirsholly


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ORIGINAL: Aanakaris

"Just because you call yourself a master/dom does not mean you will  have them dropping at your feet. "

It doesn't? Damn. I'll have to stop asking to be called master and try a different title.

Would, "Lord Amazing Super Ninja Giant-Cock" have them dropping at my feet?

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works for me!!!!!


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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 6:18:08 AM   
thishereboi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsholly

quote:

It's not like going shopping for a new sweater or something.
*smacks BK a good one*

Sweaters are from Sears.

The op needs to go to SlavesRUs...

or...give it a hell of a longer than a few weeks. Try to look at this is a vanilla realm.....would you expect a vanilla male to find a relationship in just a few weeks? Of course not. A relationship is a relationship. Just because you call yourself a master/dom does not mean you will  have them dropping at your feet.




Wait a minute now, wasn't that other thread about a girl who has also been on cm about 3 weeks and can't find her true dom? Maybe we should hook the two of them up.

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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 6:21:49 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Become a person that merits having a slave. Be someone who thinks first, and with the big head. Keep your promises, don't make them if you aren't sure you can keep them. If you say you'll pick her up at 7:00, don't show up at 7:30. Lead by example. Don't expect her to be a supermodel type unless you are also.

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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 6:23:06 AM   
sirsholly


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ORIGINAL: thishereboi


quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsholly

quote:

It's not like going shopping for a new sweater or something.
*smacks BK a good one*

Sweaters are from Sears.

The op needs to go to SlavesRUs...

or...give it a hell of a longer than a few weeks. Try to look at this is a vanilla realm.....would you expect a vanilla male to find a relationship in just a few weeks? Of course not. A relationship is a relationship. Just because you call yourself a master/dom does not mean you will  have them dropping at your feet.




Wait a minute now, wasn't that other thread about a girl who has also been on cm about 3 weeks and can't find her true dom? Maybe we should hook the two of them up.
oh Lord...what a pair


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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 6:27:35 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		Perhaps it is your youth and newness working against you. I would suggest looking for a sub rather than a slave. It takes experience to become a slave Master and that is not something you can go to Walmart and buy.. A good sub who has some experience might be able help teach you too.. 

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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 6:50:21 AM   
BotanicalMiss


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Status: offline 		You're 18 and according to your journal entry you "decided to become a dominant" because you "tried to be a sub but noone wanted you". There's a major problem right there. Not only are you young and inexperienced but it sounds like you're willing to be whatever someone might want as long as it gets you laid. No slave in her right mind is going to respond to something like that. Maybe something a little more honest would get you further. Since it apparently doesn't matter which side of the kneel you're on you may want to consider yourself a switch and be open about the fact that you are new and wanting to try whatever it is that you want to try. Write something in your profile. Not everyone is going to go straight to your video introduction; some want to see something written before they decide watching your video intro is worth their time. Do some research about the lifestyle, learn who you are and what you have to offer, and be patient. This isn't McDonald's, it's life.

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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 6:55:39 AM   
sirsholly


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quote:

This isn't McDonald's, it's life.
Damnit...no wonder i never got my fries.

<---heads to Burger King


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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 7:00:10 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Ray, three days ago you posted asking if your age could be an issue.  You got some critiques on your profile in that thread.

You ignored all the advice in that thread, and are getting the exact same suggestions in this one. 

If you want to impress us with your maturity, ignoring suggested possible solutions to your problem while complaining that it's still there won't help.




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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 7:37:44 AM   
KnightofMists


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Status: offline 		maybe you should try walmart.... after only a few short weeks of looking at your already whinning about it... you should go to walmart.... they have everything at a reduced price!..... but I will avoid talking about quality !

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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 8:29:48 AM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		someone who blatantly announces that they are a master/dom because no one would accept them as a slave/sub, is someone who is not sure of who they are or where they fit in, in my opinion, for whatever that's worth.

in order to obtain a sub/slave, one should first know themselves and be a master of themselves and their own life before looking for someone to master...

age is irrelavant in this type of scenario.

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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 8:32:55 AM   
OrionTheWolf


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Status: offline 		So if you were looking for any other type of inter-personal relationship would you believe that a few weeks is too long? What exactly are your expectations anyway? I actually recommend taking more time to find a slave than just a few weeks. Develop communication and check for compatability, likes and dislikes, whether the personality is something you enjoy.

I found my slave in the offline world, and not at any type of BDSM or related event. We knew each other for a couple of months when she realized first why she was so drawn to me and came out and asked if I knew anything about alternative lifestyles. Even before that she was very submissive, defering and ready to please (though we had not had sex and were good aquaintences at the time).

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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 9:17:56 AM   
sweetgirlserves


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Status: offline 		Orion makes a good point above... his slave was 'drawn to him'... my question to the OP... even if you stumble upon an actual slave,  what about you would draw her to you?   

~sgs

< Message edited by sweetgirlserves -- 8/16/2009 9:47:09 AM >

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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 9:34:56 AM   
thishereboi


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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi


quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsholly

quote:

It's not like going shopping for a new sweater or something.
*smacks BK a good one*

Sweaters are from Sears.

The op needs to go to SlavesRUs...

or...give it a hell of a longer than a few weeks. Try to look at this is a vanilla realm.....would you expect a vanilla male to find a relationship in just a few weeks? Of course not. A relationship is a relationship. Just because you call yourself a master/dom does not mean you will  have them dropping at your feet.




Wait a minute now, wasn't that other thread about a girl who has also been on cm about 3 weeks and can't find her true dom? Maybe we should hook the two of them up.
oh Lord...what a pair


Ya just never know.

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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 9:35:21 AM   
tied4urpleasure


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Status: offline 		I am a Slave and if I was looking for a Master/Dom, I would not chose you cause you have little or nothing to say about yourself. You have a list of what your looking for, but not a thing about yourself, your interests, your training, notah, I agree with others on here go to WAL-MART, better yet go to K-MART. You might find one in the blue light special section.
your video does no justice for you either.

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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 9:51:08 AM   
kinkypuppy2


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Status: offline 		Yes age as some to do with it. You need to grow up a few years (or so) I know you probably will read that and say you already know everything, sorry you will realise in about 10 yrs how  little you do know.
Anyway.. two weeks ?? give it two years.
you are not even sure who you are, start with learning and asking questions
Change your ad, tell others about who YOU are. get rid of the symbols in your updates.
Get in touch with your local community, join or start a "whipper-snappers" group if there is not one there.
There is a great "wp" group in Portland Oregon, the group does a lot of non-kinky things and is a great group of under 30 kids who hang out together.

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RE: Obtaining a slave... - 8/16/2009 11:23:01 AM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		It's interesting that you seem to be concentrating on your age because the posts you have received in both of your threads have brought up other concerns.

You asked for suggestions on what you may be doing wrong but don't seem to be taking any of them. I looked at your profile when you posted your first thread and it's the same now even after receiving several good suggestions on how to improve it. In essence you keep asking for advice and then ignoring it. Why would a slave choose someone who lacks dedication and common sense? You seem to want this to fall into your lap, no one here will be able to tell you the 'easy' way to get yourself a slave. You get one by proving yourself to be worthy....

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