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Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/23/2006 9:44:09 PM

Littlepita

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Next week I will be moving in with my Dom whom I have had an online relationship for the last 10 months. Yayyyy, I’m so freaking excited and nervous I can hardly stand myself.

Anyway, he has everything all planned out for our 10 days alone together before the unmentionable moves in. One of those days is called “The Challenge” Here are the rules:

We go shopping the day before and I pick out anything I want (within reason of course). Then the next day it is my job to seduce him. I have 24 hours to get him to cave to my feminine charms and ravish me. I can’t touch him! I can however touch myself and do anything else I can think of. If I win, I get my prize and a night of passion. If I lose, he gets to do anything he wants to me and I won’t be allowed my safe word. *Don’t worry, he won’t go too far, that I am certain of.*

So, I need some ideas here. I think I am pretty good at the seduction game. But, this is our first week alone together and I fear I will be too shy and nervous to perform at my best. I need some suggestion of what I can do that will blow his mind so that his control crumbles and he throws me to the floor in a desperate need to have me at that very moment.

Submissives and dominates of Collar Me, I implore you to help me win my prize *Whatever that may be since I haven’t decided yet* and make my Sir lose big time!

Thank you!

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/23/2006 10:03:26 PM

slavejali

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Hate to say this....but

Master and I kinda had the same thing going, cept it wasnt so formal....but I was telling him that we wouldnt get outa the airport carpark before He had to fuck me...He was sayng "oh yeah?"....that went on and on back and forth..

He arrived.....We had a five hour drive back to my place, He would hardly touch me, no matter what I did...we get home...He tells me to make him dinner..it was like 3am. ..guess what i did..made him dinner...

Those Doms sure have some willpower when they want to use it *grin*

Im not being much help here hey...hehe

Well good luck, much much luck..i think anyways it goes..you both will win *grin*

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/23/2006 10:06:05 PM

MTslave

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the game of seduction is so not my forte' but I do have one smidge of advice to give....

remember that we crave most what we can't see, can't touch, and can't have...

MTs slave

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/23/2006 10:10:27 PM

Littlepita

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Yeah, yeah jali! That is my fear! He has more willpower then anyone I have ever met.

Thanks MTslave. That is something to think about. I might not want to be so blatant then with my approach?

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/23/2006 10:11:55 PM

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I love the no touching game.

LOL

But I don't know, maybe masterbate, guys really love seeing the expressions for the most part, and will at the very least get him steamed and primed.

Do a striptease. Suck on phallic objects in a sexy slutty way. Write a REALLY erotic hot story. either read it to him in a low sexy voice while having fun, or record it (music in the background can really build a mood) - might take practice to get the thing done right, but it's do-able. Ever done a blowjob without physically touching their dick? Depending on size (of him as well as you as well as skill) it will vary on how far you can go with that. Breathing those deep breaths from the chest like you do when trying to create fog on a window will make most guys quiver pretty good. Guys are also, I've found, highly attuned to sounds/noises. Especially those that sound sexual in nature.

Find his triggers. Exploit each and every one of them. After ten months you doubtless know what floats his gizzard.

That being said - are you comfy going to that spot with someone you haven't yet laid eyes on?

I know that I could never feel 100 percent comfy with someone that was a physical stranger for me, I'd be spending a lot of time putting the online personality onto the live human and learning how the two mesh into the real person, and before I could do that - I'd not be able to really get to that level of creativity that would make a male buckle.

That's just me though. Good luck!

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/23/2006 10:12:48 PM

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Based on those stakes, I think I'd rather "lose", it sounds like more fun.

But if you really want to "win", use reverse psychology. They always want what they can't have. Put on the sexiest outfit you can find, then spend the day ignoring him. Talk on the phone with your girlfriends, do your nails, watch the soaps while you eat chocolates and don't offer him any. The fact that you're ignoring him will drive him out of his mind. Trust me, he'll be bending you over the couch by noon.

I'm dead serious about this. He wants you to knock yourself out by overtly "seducing" him with things like strip tease, dancing, touching him, touching yourself. He's prepared for all of this and will greatly enjoy holding himself back from all your attentions, so you keep trying harder and harder..... What he's NOT expecting is you walking around the house in lingerie and ignoring him! It will make him crazy, which will soon turn to lust. And you WILL be the winner.

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/23/2006 10:18:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: windchymes
What he's NOT expecting is you walking around the house in lingerie and ignoring him! It will make him crazy, which will soon turn to lust. And you WILL be the winner.

That's a good point.

OR .... it could backfire.

He could interprete it as non-interest or worse (maybe) - of willful disobedience.

If it was me and I'd told them to do something - and they did the opposite? I'd consider it as them not following a direct order and of them trying to top from the bottom most likely.

Unless that was what I thought they'd do and I set them up to do it so that I'd have created a "reason" (I know we don't *have* to - but sometimes it's *fun* to do LOL!) to do something else that they had NO clue about.

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/23/2006 10:55:17 PM

seaturtle50

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mmm .... ravishment ...

i swear sometimes i love seduction more even than sex! i can only speak to what would likely work on me, but if i truly wanted to win, there is likely not much you could do, since i could ravish all i want immediately after the time is up. if not for that fact, i would be too easy to seduce lol.

i am an avid legman. Stocking, garters are a major weakness. Especially if there is a "leg show" going on that seems largely accidental. i prefer seduction in reality. Like if you were <seemed> not to even be aware of the affect you were having on me. Just going about your business. i strongly prefer a professional look. <read business attire>. The straightening of stockings and tightening of garters throughout the day would go far to gain my attention.

As time goes on, you may want to up the ante if you are not winning yet. In the evening i would advise begging possibly with some waterworks <can you cry at will?>. i personally would be weakened greatly at least. A vixen beauty begging to give me head, with real tears of desire? Damn ... its working already

Maybe shed some cloths at that point and provide of demonstration of your need. I think the tears would get me, at lest to hold my beloved – which would then put me at great risk to lose.

if all else fails, just make certain that you save the masturbating for bedtime. Wait till He is "almost" asleep and gradually increase the momentum from under the covers. <let Him think your "sneaking it">. Gradually increase moaning and movement till what is happening is undeniable. Then, if He fails to take the bait - i suggest asking Him if He could help you cum, maybe by "just placing his hand on your thigh only" something like that. Or, see if you can get Him to at least hold your other hand while you bring yourself to orgasm, telling Him it will make your cum so much better. Pleading and begging in a "cute and sexy" way could work wonders. If He now takes any of the bait - i would suggest that you tell him if He wants to rub his cock on your thigh and cum with you ... that won't count towards Him losing the bet in any way. Getting Him physically involved and that intimate with you should increase the likelihood of early ravishment.

If all of this fails, i would suggest sleeping as close as you can to Him without actually touching Him. You always have the chance that He (or some part of his body) will touch you, or that He will automatically take you in the middle of the night, out of reflex desire. This has been some of the best sex i have ever experienced by the way. Half asleep and "finding myself" engaged as i come to reality!

If that all fails ... enjoy your treatment, and think twice before betting Him again. Either way you can’t really lose.

Have Fun!

st50

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/23/2006 11:06:40 PM

Veryleggyredhead

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Our brain is the center of our sexuality. While you won't be able to touch him physically, his mind isn't off limits. Eye contact, words, voice tone, & inflections and body language, subtle, and not so subtle will be the tools that will get you to the finish line here. You have it would seem, captivated him hencefar using some of these methods of communicating. Hope that things go as you would like them to, smiles.....

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/23/2006 11:12:49 PM

Petruchio

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Mmm_ If he loses, he wins. If he wins, you win.

Don't give up your safe word, though.

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/24/2006 4:20:19 AM

Cloudz

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I am so happy for you that your wait is almost over. It seems your Master has set a nearly impossible task...24 hours of teasing is only a build up for the next few days of pleasure and fulfillment for him. I HIGHLY recommend doing everything in your power...to ignore him would be to take HIS fun away...bad choice. Remember he will be having fun, hopefully you can disconnect from your nerves and become the carefree sexy slut you are inside. Good luck and have fun!

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/24/2006 5:14:27 AM

Littlepita

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Oh, my goodness you all gave such good advice!

ShadeDiva you made a very good point about me not knowing him physically. Being in the middle of us transitioning our online relationship to real life is going to be challenging. But, I do feel I know him very well, so hopefully I can get over the nerves and do my best to win.

SeaTurtle, your advice was terrific! I think I can really work with your ideas. He is a leg man too and I already know my crying gets to him. I love the masturbating in bed idea as I beg him to help me cum.

I didn’t even think that I could ignore him. I think I will use some of that, but not too much. I agree with Cloudz. He is really looking forward to this day and for me to not play and try to seduce him might annoy him or make him think that I don’t care enough to put my all into this challenge. But, a little ignoring might be fun to start out with.

You all got me excited to get going on this, where before I was really stressing over it. It’s not the winning that I care about, I want to please him and I know if I win he will be pleased. Thanks so much everyone. I knew I came to the right place for advice. Might have to do that more often.

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/24/2006 5:56:03 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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Be yourself, REALLY.

It's who he has already been seduced by.

To be frank, why set up games to play when the first meeting (and in this case first MOVING IN) is already stressed and exciting and weird enough? It's going to take a long time for you both to adjust to eachother and get comfortable, so no matter what you even attempt during this particular period, it won't be anywhere like what you will be attempting in 12 months.

I also don't get the idea of not safewording? Why would you be able to in some situations but not others? Is he basically saying he allows you to stop the scene in some situations but not others?

But if you're gonna play a game...again, just be yourself, since that is who he wants to ravish already. You might suggest at some point that youre going out to the bar to find a hot guy to fuck since he won't do it himself. Raising that competitive edge can do a lot for lust.

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/24/2006 6:02:42 AM

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I'm assuming that you have had some real time in there before now? If not, then IMHO, I think some things may be jumping the gun a bit--if so, then focus on the things you did when you were together that drove him wild and hone those.

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/24/2006 6:18:33 AM

fastlane

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quote:

Master and I kinda had the same thing going, cept it wasnt so formal....but I was telling him that we wouldnt get outa the airport carpark before He had to fuck me...He was sayng "oh yeah?"....that went on and on back and forth..

Now, that I can relate too slavejali. When one spends so much time talking on the phone in a LDR, getting to know one another, it's like WTF girl....We aren't going to make it home before we ravage each other!

M.H. It's my impression that this will be their first real time together? Still, from 10 months of talking, planning, photos, chatting, I'm sure everything will feel quite comfortable and natural for you.

My guess is that you undress infront of him and tell him how much you need him here....as you touch yourself in a certain spot....and you win! (I give him about 5 minutes, before he caves!)

Best of luck to you and congratulations Pita...that's awesome!

Kevin

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/24/2006 6:27:49 AM

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First i don't mean to dump water on your excitement pita; however, you are 'moving in' with One you've never met? That worries me (i'm a worrier by nature). Please be careful.

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/24/2006 6:51:19 AM

Littlepita

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Angelic, your concerns are fine and I thank you for them. It’s not like I haven’t heard it before. It’s very hard to convey on a message board all the details and nuances of my relationship with my Dom. There are reasons for why we haven’t met that really have no place in this thread. I will just say that I have never been more sure that he is the right one for me.

LA, it’s just a game we thought of one night in chat and he loved the idea so much we decided to go with it. As for the safewords, I am not worried about that at all. We are both brand new to this lifestyle and my Sir is the most cautious of men. He already plans on taking things very slowly and saying there will be no safe words is more for fun then anything else. Believe me if there is a problem he will stop immediately. I will be myself. That is the one advice he has given me over and over about everything we are doing.

Fastlane I am hoping he caves too. I certainly plan to do my best to achieve that goal. Plus if I can do it early in the day we can go get my present.

What do I want??? Maybe a violet wand, maybe thigh high black leather boots. Oh the choices!

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/24/2006 6:59:57 AM

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pita, i understand that your relationship is just that *smiles*... again just be careful... moving in with One you've never met and then no 'safe' words... ok enough

on the seduction side? i suck at it... no help from me there

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/24/2006 7:03:07 AM

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quote:

i suck at it

LOL...Angelic, that's not seduction...that's going for the main vein...and I don't mean juggler!

tee hee hee

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RE: Help with seducing my Dom! - 2/24/2006 7:17:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: seaturtle50

mmm .... ravishment ...

i swear sometimes i love seduction more even than sex! i can only speak to what would likely work on me, but if i truly wanted to win, there is likely not much you could do, since i could ravish all i want immediately after the time is up. if not for that fact, i would be too easy to seduce lol.

i am an avid legman. Stocking, garters are a major weakness. Especially if there is a "leg show" going on that seems largely accidental. i prefer seduction in reality. Like if you were <seemed> not to even be aware of the affect you were having on me. Just going about your business. i strongly prefer a professional look. <read business attire>. The straightening of stockings and tightening of garters throughout the day would go far to gain my attention.

As time goes on, you may want to up the ante if you are not winning yet. In the evening i would advise begging possibly with some waterworks <can you cry at will?>. i personally would be weakened greatly at least. A vixen beauty begging to give me head, with real tears of desire? Damn ... its working already Maybe shed some cloths at that point and provide of demonstration of your need. I think the tears would get me, at lest to hold my beloved – which would then put me at great risk to lose.

if all else fails, just make certain that you save the masturbating for bedtime. Wait till He is "almost" asleep and gradually increase the momentum from under the covers. <let Him think your "sneaking it">. Gradually increase moaning and movement till what is happening is undeniable. Then, if He fails to take the bait - i suggest asking Him if He could help you cum, maybe by "just placing his hand on your thigh only" something like that. Or, see if you can get Him to at least hold your other hand while you bring yourself to orgasm, telling Him it will make your cum so much better. Pleading and begging in a "cute and sexy" way could work wonders. If He now takes any of the bait - i would suggest that you tell him if He wants to rub his cock on your thigh and cum with you ... that won't count towards Him losing the bet in any way. Getting Him physically involved and that intimate with you should increase the likelihood of early ravishment.

If all of this fails, i would suggest sleeping as close as you can to Him without actually touching Him. You always have the chance that He (or some part of his body) will touch you, or that He will automatically take you in the middle of the night, out of reflex desire. This has been some of the best sex i have ever experienced by the way. Half asleep and "finding myself" engaged as i come to reality!

If that all fails ... enjoy your treatment, and think twice before betting Him again. Either way you can’t really lose.

Have Fun!

st50

LOTS OF NOTE TAKING!!!!..... giggles...

I'm not even involved with this and taking all the notes I can on this... because I know Master... and this could be a great game to play from time to time ........ see i knew you could learn new ways of just simply having fun together.... BDSM doesn't have to be so serious all the time.. sooooo kewl!... thanks all..

pita.... win or lose... HAVE A BLAST!

this is a win win situation here... so have fun with it...

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