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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/20/2009 5:04:13 PM

littlesarbonn

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Am I trying? No.

Is my profile complete? No. As a matter of fact, it's kind of empty.

I came to the conclusion that trying to meet someone on collarme.com is like fishing for trout in a neighborhood swimming pool. It's just not going to happen.

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/20/2009 5:09:19 PM

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I do not hunt for the most part. I have in the past in a sense... but it was more seeing what I wanted and going for it rather than going foward with a certain goal in mind. I have looked at profiles from time to time, but that could be many months apart or when I was seeing how many were in which area when I was deciding where to move. I wasn't going to stick myself somewhere where there were very few lifestyle events or people involved. Yet, just because there are events or numbers of people, doesn't mean the right person for me is there! lol

If I see someone that looks interesting in any way... says something that impresses me, has humor or something I have something I'd like to respond to, I will email them or talk to them, but there isn't that goal of finding my submissive. I relate to people and see the person first... if I like that, I might consider a bit more.

Most who have captured any of my attention online... have emailed me first. Simply because they were looking and I wasn't. I wasn't that interested or in a hurry or really seeking, but I have reasons for that. If a man reads my profile they will see two reasons, maybe three, that I now for sure will not persue someone. If they read my profile they can decide whether they wish to know more or not. I won't put a man who could have a rough time with saying he isn't interested, in that postion because of what I have going on in my life. If he reads and emails me... he is aware and I take it from there.

Whether it is my situation in life or this online stuff or men aren't trying, I can't honestly say because of my situation, but I do believe that there are few actually trying to impress for decent reasons. If they are really trying... it is a sad, sad world out there because they most often take a site like this to mean... free for all... come and get it... just present yourself and you can have hot, kinky sex on cam or anywhere else with no requirements whatsoever. In person I do not have a hard time finding sincere men.

But... there are those who are sincere and who will see that just because it is the type of site it is, doesn't mean that one can lose all social grace and brain cells and all it is about is hot, kinky online. Those contacts are amazing and don't have to be a certain way... just not that hi baby, got tired of myspace and thought you might like to do some kinky things to me... here is how to reach me.

The good one's... shy or not... who actually make an effort are men I enjoy hearing from and talking to for lots of reasons. But will I track them and hunt them down? No. So they do need to put some effort into it. I don't see them as hunting me... just introducing themselves. I can take it from there if I am interested.

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/20/2009 6:04:54 PM

slavekal

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Not so, sarbonn. There are legit dommes on collarme. I know some of them. And there are several other ways to meet dommes as well.

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/20/2009 9:50:56 PM

epepincanada

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i feel bad for anyone desperatly seeking a domme on this website, once youve sifted through the half trying to drain your wallet without even knowing let alone meeting you, then you have the job of trying to be confident and aggresive (dominant traits) and pursue someone who is being pursued by many others (inadequacy issues come in, if your not good enough why bother type of thoughts).

In the end the internet is sometimes the only place someone has, and even if your looking to go to events and such, im sure many subs have bad experiences here (note i said many not all) and then apply those experiences to the rest of the scene and dont bother.

Anyways one persons perspective, not trying to offend anyone just the way i see things, except the drain your wallet part, you group i fully intend to offend

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/20/2009 9:59:25 PM

ThreeM

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Perhaps, you are not meeting the right ones. I usually encourage a non monetary, not in person relationship first. I don't need anyone to support Me. I just want someone who truly wants to serve and too many are "do me" subs.

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/20/2009 10:22:15 PM

epepincanada

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true, i dont claim to be an expert, my age alone shows that. Still, the mere thought of paying someone to speak to me is an moronic. If a domme wants me to pay them so they dont waste there time with someone who may not be serious, thats fine, just pay me back the same amount since im risking wasting my time just as much as any domme is after all.

anyways / rant

back to the topic at hand :-P

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/20/2009 11:23:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ThreeM

Perhaps, you are not meeting the right ones. I usually encourage a non monetary, not in person relationship first. I don't need anyone to support Me. I just want someone who truly wants to serve and too many are "do me" subs.

Welcome to the forums!

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/21/2009 7:45:15 AM

LaTigresse

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quote:

ORIGINAL: epepincanada

true, i dont claim to be an expert, my age alone shows that. Still, the mere thought of paying someone to speak to me is an moronic. If a domme wants me to pay them so they dont waste there time with someone who may not be serious, thats fine, just pay me back the same amount since im risking wasting my time just as much as any domme is after all.

anyways / rant

back to the topic at hand :-P

Quite emailing all the twenty something hot thangs with professional looking photos. If it looks too good to be true, it probably is.

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/21/2009 12:25:19 PM

littlesarbonn

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavekal

Not so, sarbonn. There are legit dommes on collarme. I know some of them. And there are several other ways to meet dommes as well.

There are probably real needles in real haystacks as well. Honestly, I'm not some brand new sub looking for a dominant who has no experience. I really don't need someone to tell me that my experiences are "wrong" just because he has had better experiences than I have, thank you.

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/21/2009 12:29:49 PM

BalletBob

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No, I am not trying as hard as I should. But then again in my defense, I am married and there is only so much my wife will let me get away with.

I did have a Mistress at one times, and we had a few sesions at her home (with her husband), but noting since we parted. My wife isn't into this, but understands my needs, and since SEX ISN'T involved, she diesn't mind. And also, I am not actively seeking since there isn't much in south Jersey anyway, without being 24/7 or tribute.

I am just looking for some sessions locally, where the Mistress has as much fun as I am having. That how it was with MADAM. She was having ablast having me do things, or her Tyng and Gagging me.

Sincerly missing out, sub BalletBob

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/21/2009 12:55:00 PM

ShiftedJewel

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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Am I trying? No.

Is my profile complete? No. As a matter of fact, it's kind of empty.

I came to the conclusion that trying to meet someone on collarme.com is like fishing for trout in a neighborhood swimming pool. It's just not going to happen.

OUCH... just... OUCH

quote:

i feel bad for anyone desperatly seeking a domme on this website, once youve sifted through the half trying to drain your wallet without even knowing let alone meeting you, then you have the job of trying to be confident and aggresive (dominant traits) and pursue someone who is being pursued by many others (inadequacy issues come in, if your not good enough why bother type of thoughts).

I don't see confidence and the proper kind of aggression as strictly dominant traits. I see them as good human traits. If I want something bad enough I will work aggressively to get it, whether that "it" be a partner, a car, a steak dinner, doesn't matter. Anything worth having is worth working for.

You have to put things in perspective, well, you don't HAVE to, but it's a thought. If you met someone that you would really be interested in getting together with, or saw that person, whatever... do you honestly think just telling them that you would be interested in them is gonna do it? Or maybe they are going to expect that you also ACT like you are interested?

Picture our (dominant females) inbox... "hey, i wanna serve you!"

My first thought is I wanna win the lottery too but I don't see that happening (You gotta play to win) And if you do respond in any way one of two things happens. Either they jump on it and instantly you are their Mistress and can we cam now? Or poof... disappear.

I agree with Kal. I don't honestly believe that most s-type males put any serious effort in.

Jewel

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/21/2009 1:21:48 PM

LaTigresse

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From where I sit, most would rather piss and whine about it. But that is just my view point.

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/21/2009 1:29:01 PM

LadyPact

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quote:

ORIGINAL: epepincanada

i feel bad for anyone desperatly seeking a domme on this website, once youve sifted through the half trying to drain your wallet without even knowing let alone meeting you, then you have the job of trying to be confident and aggresive (dominant traits) and pursue someone who is being pursued by many others (inadequacy issues come in, if your not good enough why bother type of thoughts).

In the end the internet is sometimes the only place someone has, and even if your looking to go to events and such, im sure many subs have bad experiences here (note i said many not all) and then apply those experiences to the rest of the scene and dont bother.

Anyways one persons perspective, not trying to offend anyone just the way i see things, except the drain your wallet part, you group i fully intend to offend

I honestly don't understand why you think the above. Many subs go to events and have fantastic experiences, so I'm wondering why you think most of them are negative?

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/21/2009 2:27:14 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
From where I sit, most would rather piss and whine about it. But that is just my view point.

I still think that this pretty much applies to everyone... male & female, dom & sub. From my standpoint, the vast majority of people everywhere want to sit back and do little or nothing to attract a mate or, for that matter, retain said mate one they've been found.

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/21/2009 2:38:13 PM

slavekal

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Sarbonn, I am not trying to tell you that your experiences are wrong. But if one guy keeps striking out and another keeps getting solid hits and even home runs, maybe the first guy's methods are wrong.
I don't want to get into any personal arguments with anyone. Really just trying to get a bird's eye view. Over the past couple of decades, I have met so many dommes, some that were a good match for me, some not as good. And I have seen so many guys who seem to never be in, or even close to being in a relationship. My hypothesis is that it is really a matter of effort and attitude. So far, that hypothesis seems to be correct.

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/21/2009 2:47:45 PM

pyroaquatic

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I am so awesome that I am a natural Domme magnet.

Heya Baby.

I can just sit back and let the sweetness come to me.

YAY SARCASM.

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/21/2009 2:54:11 PM

Lockit

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LOL Oh... if you weren't so far away! I love a smart ass... more reason to love that ass even more! hehe

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/21/2009 3:40:13 PM

pyroaquatic

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If you think my ass is smart... just wait until you meet my brain!

HAR. Am I trying hard enough yet?

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/21/2009 4:16:36 PM

Lockit

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lol ummm yeah... anytime you can use the brain well enough to get a domina thinking about spanking you... I think you did well! But be careful now... some of us come equiped with gag balls and ace bandages! hehe

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RE: Sub males...Are you really trying? - 8/21/2009 4:20:15 PM

pyroaquatic

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I can see what the Gag is for but the bandages? I am not sure... Bondage? What? I am very confused.

In any case.

Communicate, Be truthful to yourself and others, and... um.... stop watching all of that trashy female dominant porn. All you Male Submarines! LISTEN UP.

;)

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