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ORIGINAL: slavekal
The scarcity of dommes is not the big problem.
Laughable. I'm not saying that there aren't a bunch of fence-sitters, or unsocialized losers trying to get easy sex. However, the slightest investigation will reveal there are far, far more msubs than Dommes, and exponentially more single msubs than Dommes.
Don't believe me? Feel free to search CM. I do, almost every say. Within 200 miles of me, are the same 30 or so profiles, active within any week or so. One is a scammer, who I trolled until she asked for $200 to send me a photo. Half of the rest are professionals. Most of the remainder are not looking. Of the handful of profiles that actually appear to be dominant women looking for a submissive male, there are those who I've contacted and not received a response, and some that are just out of my demographic.
Better yet, check out the classified thread on Fetlife. There is about one posting a week, in the entire world-wide membership, from a dominant woman. Browse the profiles while you're there. Since you can only sort results by state, it will take several pages to find your first dominant woman.
To answer your original question, I became aware of such a thing as BDSM sometime in my late teens at the end of the 80's. There was really nothing I could do about it until I moved to the Boston area. By the mid-ninties, I would attend fetish events or fetish-themed nightclubs when I could find them, which was not often. An unattended man in a fetish club is viewed like a one-line email, I abandoned the practice eventually. When I started Internetting, I tried Alt, which is a scam. I tried local personals, which are not kink-friendly., but most importantly, I read up on the lifestyle. I joined OK Cupid, where my responses to the kink questions made me radioactive to vanilla women. I joined here a couple years ago, have carefully responded to perhaps ten or maybe twenty profiles that might have been a match. I think I've received about three or four responses, mostly "no thanks," one correspondence that never really went anywhere, and one occurance where the respondant asked what I was into. I never heard from her again. I have started attending the local munches and events as my schedule allows for the last year, I have seen a total of one dominant woman, as the munches run TNG and maledom, overwhelmingly.
Sorry to rant, but you're exhibiting the "fair world fallacy." The fact that you have found dominant woman is great. Just having had a relationship or two puts you inside a social network, and develops word of mouth, a reputation, and references. The fact is, the majority of men sincerely looking for a Domme will fail, turn to a professional, or lower their vanilla-land standards exponentially.
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