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Need some advice - 8/20/2009 9:20:42 PM

Wereshark

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Hey everyone,

I'm 23, male, been into crossdressing from a really early age. I did it because it felt good, and was a really exciting experience, and that feeling hasn't changed. Although my taste in what I like to wear has changed. I'm really into anything that's just plain slutty, metal or punky. (Metal/Punk girls drive me absolutely nuts). I don't dress up very often, maybe an article of clothing once a week tops. I've only ever gone all out a handful of times in my life, and never in public (I could prolly pass with a wig and a pair of shades).

However, I'm worried about my mental well-being at this point. I've never told anyone that knew me face to face, and I'm deeply paranoid about them finding out it's what I'm into. To top it off, I came from a small town where stuff like this would get you ousted pretty quickly, maybe even beaten or at least threatened (Canada isn't as culturally sensitive as most people think). That doesn't bother me so much, it's the fact that I'm afraid I'll have a hard time developing connections with people. I've had one girlfriend in my life who I tried to ease into it by telling her about some of my lighter fetishes (stuff like bondage), but that didn't take and ended up driving us apart.

I would absolutely love to have a relationship with someone that encouraged or at least accepted it, and I'm looking and hopeful for that kind of connection. However, I'm worried that I'm obsessing about this (it's hard to spend a day without thinking about it) and I have absolutely no perspective on just how acceptable this sort of thing is to the majority public. I'm worried that keeping it hidden and suppressed is just going to make the obsession stronger and make it harder and harder to connect with people.

I suppose this was really more of a rant to get it off my chest. But if anyone has any anecdotes to share or reassurance, I would appreciate it.

Thanks!

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RE: Need some advice - 8/20/2009 9:32:51 PM

PyrotheClown

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Time ta pop in an old copy of ed wood in your vcr a few times and take a much needed vacation to the nearest Liberaly minded city and find your self some freaky folks to connect to befor you even attempt to pop this sort of thing on your fellow rural folks.

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RE: Need some advice - 8/20/2009 10:53:03 PM

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Welcome! Try searching the fora for cross-dressing stories and I'm sure you'll find plenty to chew on. I've had very little experience myself, other than being told once to go into a lingerie store to try on and buy some. That turned out to be more fun than I expected. Anyways, here is a small sample of threads based upon a search of "crossdressing" in the subs' forum. Have fun.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2246560/mpage_1/tm.htm
http://www.collarchat.com/m_131530/mpage_1/key_crossdressing/tm.htm#131530
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1197099/mpage_1/key_crossdressing/tm.htm#1197122

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RE: Need some advice - 8/21/2009 1:31:19 AM

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RE: Need some advice - 8/21/2009 3:29:19 AM

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Fella, you're a young, good looking guy, and (it matters here a lot), you can spell and are able to express yourself. You should have no problem attracting girls.

Would it make life easier if the next time you're dating, you could break the ice by asking her if she's into crossdressing herself? "Mable, have you ever thought about wearing any of my clothes?"

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RE: Need some advice - 8/22/2009 9:19:30 PM

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Well, you are in the right place and that is a good start. Be honest and upfront with what you are seeking and quit obsessing so much about it. That will get you no where at all. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders there young fellow. Take your time and learn about yourself and the lifestyle, don't jump fully in too quickly. You will do just fine I'm sure! Good luck to you.

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