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Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 8:15:19 AM   
MMagic


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Status: offline 		First let me say Sir I know you're reading and you're gonna cut me :D  and second no one panic it's only verbal cutting. 

Anyway...so I got into trouble last night for of course not doing what I was told (not on purpose so no, you're a bad girl replies..I am a bad girl but this time it was unintended).  So my is it normal question (and I think this should be a running thread for new subs here) is:

Is it normal to get a "excited" when you're being reprimanded?  Don't get me wrong, I felt horrible for not doing as I was told to do, but I swear...his voice...This happen to other subs? You're trying to appear all somber because you're being reprimanded but you're thinking man I wanna....;)


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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 8:48:42 AM   
olena


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Status: offline 		I think it is more normal then many of us let on. For those that have this in our relationships we are after all usually attracted to power and the power actually used on us. I think it is natural, and happens with me certainly, that any taste of our dominant using his power on us will have certain effects that contradict what is actually happening or our main feeling of being sad and disappointed we let our other down.

Face it the power of what he is exercising over us and the fact he cares about us and the dynamic to be reprimanding us will overflow toward our heart and brain that will trigger affectionate thoughts. Look at some domestic discipline sites as often what they communicate what happens when they are punished is what I think you were feeling.

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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 8:51:44 AM   
VirginPotty


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Most definitely! I get excited but sad at the same time. Excited because I know I'm IN FOR A WHIPPING but bad because I know I disappointed him so I do APPEAR somber
but inside..................

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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 8:53:05 AM   
LillyoftheVally


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Status: offline 		I don't, I hate being reprimanded, loathe it the only time I crave it is when I feel the dynamic is absent

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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 9:03:59 AM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		nothing about being reprimanded gets this slave excited.

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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 10:14:04 AM   
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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 12:05:45 PM   
slaveluci


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

nothing about being reprimanded gets this slave excited.

DITTO!!!!!

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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 12:11:44 PM   
sexisubi


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Status: offline 		im not gonna say its exciting all the time, most of the time its just frustrating when i had been doing so well or i am working on something and i mess up it frustrates me a ton!

only sometimes, and thats only if they make it that way... best way to discribe it without giving details.



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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 1:08:56 PM   
DesFIP


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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 1:18:58 PM   
Chastenedslave


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Status: offline 		If I have not been bad  and the bad thing just happend when  I am being told off I do get excited. If I did something bad then I just set upset and sad. 

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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 1:36:10 PM   
BoundDragon


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Status: offline 		He can whip my ass for fun or for punishment and believe me they feel completely different...
The way he speaks to me is different when I'm in trouble and just knowing he is disappointed in me makes it sting really sharply... ouchie!

When it is done for fun the sting is warm and exciting and melts away

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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 2:07:34 PM   
Eivarden


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Status: offline 		I perfectly understand where you are coming from.

But to be honest, "Actual" anger towards me is something that I don't want.

One of many things I try to look for in someone, is to make sure they are not quick to anger.
Then again, maybe it's because I don't want to be in a position, where I am unable to move, and then they go from to .
Could be dangerous.

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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 2:22:30 PM   
leadership527


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Status: offline 		Not for Carol... although she's not a sexual submissive so that's probably predictable. But for Carol, if I'm displeased with her, that's pretty much the only thing on her mind and there are no good connections to it.

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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 2:52:30 PM   
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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 11:11:50 PM   
JoeVanilla


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Status: offline 		I get a little love/hate about punishment.  I feel bad about my transgression, and also reassured that she asserts her dominance.  Punishment usually involves eating a particular unfavorite green vegetable.  

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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 11:15:52 PM   
kallisto


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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 11:26:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		when i disappoint my mistress, i feel terrible. most times i'm harsher on myself than she is =/

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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 11:34:25 PM   
bluefireeyez


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Status: offline 		It truly depends on the type of mess up and punishment as to whether or not i will get excited. When i forget some thing i was told, or break one of the rules i genuinly feel bad. This feeling intensifies as He usually sends me to a corner (a punishment i detest, but usually a time for him to think of a suitable punishment). During this time, i am much harsher on myself than He intends to be.

However, if i were to mess up on the positions i've been taught...His way of handling it usually draws a combination of excitement, sadness, and pain.

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RE: Is It Normal - 8/21/2009 11:54:04 PM   
fadedshadow


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quote:

ORIGINAL: bluefireeyez

It truly depends on the type of mess up and punishment as to whether or not i will get excited. When i forget some thing i was told, or break one of the rules i genuinly feel bad. This feeling intensifies as He usually sends me to a corner (a punishment i detest, but usually a time for him to think of a suitable punishment). During this time, i am much harsher on myself than He intends to be.

However, if i were to mess up on the positions i've been taught...His way of handling it usually draws a combination of excitement, sadness, and pain.


i get corner time too...


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RE: Is It Normal - 8/24/2009 9:09:04 AM   
MMagic


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Status: offline 		Nice to know that I'm not alone, lol.  Now how to break the news to Sir...oh wait he'll probably read this at some point. This doesn't bode well for me, lol!

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