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RE: What is growth to you? - 8/21/2009 3:33:12 PM

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Being me, does not mean trying to be something I am not.

Perfect answer, LaT!!!!

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RE: What is growth to you? - 8/21/2009 3:33:51 PM

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Yes that was my thought as well. I did get the impression though that in not trying, I was seen as limiting myself.
It offended me somewhat because I have spent a lot of years getting to know who I am, and what brought me here.

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For me, growth is constant learning and always striving to be the best ME I can be.

Being me, does not mean trying to be something I am not.

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RE: What is growth to you? - 8/21/2009 5:36:32 PM

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Growth to me means a movement towards the light...botanically, spiritually and as a metaphore for personal chnge. Growth means not denying that growth in oneself and others.
So it also mean the willingness to allow others to grow, to offer them the conditions to do so and not to deny that they have changed.
Ir's frustrating being pushed back into the same shape. It's frustrating when others won't see I have moved on.
It's worse still being controlled so that growth is not encouahed r allowed.
I've realeased myself from that kind of control more than once.
It simply means that I have outgrown the so-called Master.

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RE: What is growth to you? - 8/21/2009 5:46:46 PM

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Growth, to me, means progressing along the path one has chosen for oneself, without apology, and with dedication. It means recognizing what is 'self' and what is 'beyond self', and embracing awareness, wherever it shows itself and from whomever it comes. It means continually evaluating one's beliefs in light of evidence both complementary and contrasting, and being able to evaluate that information for its truth, and determine whether one might need to adjust one's belief accordingly. To me, growth also encompasses developing the capacity to maintain responsibility for one's decisions or lack thereof, and recognizing that failure to make a decision is often a decision in itself and also requires one accepting responsibility for one's abdication. It embraces both the need and the desire to develop an ethical framework, and the process of developing the strength to stand up for that ethical framework and stand -within- that framework even when it is easier to let it go.

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RE: What is growth to you? - 8/21/2009 5:48:12 PM

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Growth to me is that passage from inexperience and naivety towards experience, knowledge and wisdom through living and interacting with others and remaining true to yourself whilst accepting that life changes you.

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RE: What is growth to you? - 8/21/2009 5:53:53 PM

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Growth to me (for me) means learning from my mistakes and from the good decisions that I make. It means being me on the path of life that I'm taking. It is being able to hold my head up high and stand tall for the things that I am and that I've accomplished without an explanation as to why. It means wanting to and taking the iniatitive to better myself whether that be through book learning, listening to a new kind of music, or taking a class, or doing something that I've not done, but that I want to do. Not because someone is telling me I should but because I can gain knowledge or experience or better myself (because it's for my benefit .. my "growth"), whether that is to be a better sub, a better woman, a better mom, a better business-minded personal).

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RE: What is growth to you? - 8/21/2009 9:26:09 PM

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I had an opportunity to chat with someone last night that was somewhat "counselling" me (unasked btw) about not limiting my sexuality. I am pretty content as is. I am monogamous, not prone to random acts of drive by sex, straight, but other-wise sensually adventurous. There hasn't been a lot I haven't tried at least once within my relationships. Sex keeps me calm, I am not prone to illnesses unless I haven't engaged in sex or maso play for a while, and then I do tend to get stress related hives, or other oddities come up.

Anyway, she stressed her own personal growth. Like me, she handles her agorophobia by forcing herself outside the box. Like me, she has also had some issues with abuse at a young age.
She is more accepting of her aggressive nature, more than ok with her sado-masochism, her bi-sexuality, but not particularly into men unless they have other attributes. She has a high sex drive that requires more than one partner to have it be met.

I am pretty comfy as I am, very sexual, very open to things on the spur of the moment without any thought it might be bad. But I have no desire to explore bi-sexuality, poly amorous, or other avenues of sexuality that might be open to me. I don't particularly see this as growth. For me, growth was learning to speak without an accent, educating myself on my countries politics and the world, taking classes to improve my skills in art, history, religion, sociology, and dance.

I see a lot of profiles that state they "wish to grow", or that "you will grow" or there is much to learn, ect. What is growth? I don't plan to suddenly become bi or poly but is there another thing I might be missing here?

Growth is about the willingness to explore new things. Some of those experiences may change you while others will not

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RE: What is growth to you? - 8/21/2009 10:14:47 PM

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I have tried many new things in my life. :) most of them willingly. I don't think I grew from it, just got more notches on my belt of things I have done over the years.
I do think there are some things that are just not appealing. I will never be bi for instance. In my head someone will end up on the floor, lifeless or not is irrelevant to me, that is how much I feel about my not engaging in bisexuality.
I am not willing to try or test that theory, one broken nose is enough testament to that.
I did spend my prime adult years in the wonderous 70's where everyone got laid with ease until AIDS came into awareness. Even then I was not into casual sex, but I did dabble in it for a bit, it made me ... unhappy is the best word for it, so I quickly stopped. I disliked the empty feeling that came along with not having a connection to my partner beyond his dick.

I have made mistakes and learned from them. I believe in always accepting responsibility for the choices I actively make. If growth brings knowlege then I think we all grow. I grew to understand what I find acceptable and what I would do anything to avoid.
I grew to understand me, even why I do what I do and what paths led me down this road.
Kink.. sex, exploring sex was a very small part in my exploration comparitively speaking. Maybe because I have engaged in some form of sex since well before most have.. I don't know. Sex has never been an issue.

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RE: What is growth to you? - 8/21/2009 11:08:48 PM

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growth is death, death is growth

iv been playing with that idea for a little while now, basically the end of one thing makes room for the next, i have had a long year that has disproved a lot of my core philosophies and well kicked the shit out of my ego, as such i am abandoning a lot of who i am as it no longer fits with the world i want, death in a way, doing so makes a blank canvas to grow and relearn how to live,
i see it as you must give up somethings in order to grow, make room for growth, thus growth is death
donno if that makes any sense but w/e

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