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Original: porcelaine
calling yourself a master while lacking the capacity to articulate what you've done.

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calling yourself a master while lacking the capacity to articulate what you've done

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What, you mean like a verbal resume?
I've run into submissive girls who appeared to desire that. I usually have no interest in them.
Much like I "talk" to a girl to learn about her, I expect the same.
If you want to share experiences and conversate, fine. But I'm not going to sit there and give a dissertation on all of my past experiences as though I'm up before some kind of D/s evaluation board.

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt
Seriously Loki, WTF?
You took one thing out of a list of 5, then read something into it that wasn't even there. Are you looking for something to be offended about?

As for what porcelaine said, I agree. If I'm talking to a dom, the time will come to discuss experience. If said dom IDs as "master", but can't or won't tell me what areas he is experienced in, or how he related to former partners, that's rather a big red flag. Same goes if I tell a Dom I'm a "painslut", but can't or won't say if I've ever been hit with anything other than a bunny flogger. I would expect that the Dom in question would red flag me into next week if I couldn't tell him in simple terms what I have experienced, and what I haven't. So how is it different on the other side of the kneel? Isn't this all part of the "getting to know you" dealio, after all?

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ORIGINAL: UKEvolutionary

Errrrr !! What's a "Ficticious" movie got to do with this post ?? Oh boy, How wierd it is that one post can diversify into another "walk of life" !! lolol

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ORIGINAL: UKEvolutionary


1) Assume that EVERY submissive has to "bow down" to you

2) Listening too much to other Doms instead of your inner self

3) NOT being clear and firm from the start in what you expect from your
submissive, and any rules you need them to adhere to

4) Trying to appear more impressive than is within your being

5) Trying to obtain a submissive too soon with too limited knowledge and ability

6) Not learning enough about the lifestyle by reading, talking to other
Dominants or submissives.

7) Being too "eager" to own a submissive

8) A mistake I have seen many make is as the emotions between the Dom
and submissive begin growing, the Dom has tended to not be as
strict or consistent as He was in the beginning. Maybe in fear of
losing her but forgetting that is the reason she craved Him in the
first place.

9) Not recognising a new subs inability to take responsibility for
their own safety. Through enthusiasm and an eagerness to please,
new subs can be their own worst enemy. A good Dom/me will recognise
the signals and take responsibility for them.