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LillyoftheVally -> What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 2:59:03 PM)
The 'is spanking a fetish' thread has bought up some issues. My vanilla friend likes spanking, yeah I know vanilla folks involved in kink etc. If those sentences make sense then what the heck is vanilla? See I thought vanilla meant those who didn't engage in anything thought to be BDSM (which in turn kinda means that there are no vanilla people therefore maybe the term is used for those who don't recognise the kink) Yeah ok it is another define this thread but I thought it was quite interesting.

ResidentSadist -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 3:13:41 PM)
106 Paraphilias . . . everything else is vanilla. LOL Abasiophilia: love of (or sexual attraction to) people who are lame or crippled and/or who use leg braces or other orthopaedic appliances Acarophilia: sexual pleasure from being tickled Acomophilia: sexual attraction to baldness (also hairless genitalia) Acousticophilia: sexual arousal from certain sounds Acrotomophilia: love of (or sexual attraction to) amputation or amputees Adolescentilism: sexual pleasure from acting or dressing like an adolescent Aelurophilia: a form of zoophilia—sexual attraction to cats Agalmatophilia: sexual attraction to statues or mannequins or immobility Algolagnia: sexual pleasure from pain Amaurophilia: sexual arousal by a partner whom one is unable to see due to artificial means, such as being blindfolded or having sex in total darkness. (See: sensory deprivation) Andromimetophilia: love of women dressed as men or have had a sex change; see also gynemimetophilia Apodysophilia: desire to undress, see also nudism Apotemnophilia: desire to have (or sexual arousal from having) a healthy appendage (limb, digit, or male genitals) amputated Aquaphilia: arousal from water and/or in watery environments, including bathtubs or swimming pools Aretifism: sexual attraction to people who are without footwear, in contrast to retifism Asphyxiophilia: sexual attraction to asphyxia; also called breath control play (or being strangled); including autoerotic asphyxiation; see medical warnings Autoabasiophilia: sexual attraction to oneself being lame or crippled Autagonistophilia: sexual arousal from being observed or creating conditions for faciliating observation; see also exhibitionism Autogynephilia: love of oneself as a woman (also see Blanchard, Bailey, and Lawrence theory for discussion on controversy) Autonephioplia: (a.k.a diaper fetishism) sexual arousal from diapers Autossassinophilia: sexual arousal from fantasizing about or staging one's own murder Biastophilia: sexual pleasure from committing rape or being raped; see also raptophilia Celebriphilia: pathological desire to have sex with a celebrity Chrematistophilia: sexual arousal from paying for sex or being robbed by one’s sexual partner; see also harpaxophilia Coprophilia: sexual attraction to (or pleasure from) feces Crush fetish: sexual arousal from seeing small creatures being crushed by members of the opposite sex, or being crushed oneself Dacryphilia: sexual pleasure in eliciting tears from others or oneself Dendrophilia: sexual attraction to trees and other large plants, popularized by the movie Superstar with Molly Shannon Dwarf or 'midget' fetishism: sexual attraction to little people Emetophilia (a.k.a. vomerophilia): sexual attraction to vomit Endytophilia: prefering to have sexual activity while fully clothed Ephebophilia (a.k.a. hebephilia): sexual attraction towards adolescents Eproctophilia: sexual attraction to flatulence Erotophonophilia: sexual arousal from trying to commit murder Exhibitionism: (a.k.a peodeiktophilia) sexual arousal through sexual behavior in view of third parties (also includes the recurrent urge or behavior to expose one's genitals to an unsuspecting person) Faunoiphilia: sexual arousal from watching animals mate Fecophile: sexual arousal from defacation or watching a partner defecate, paticularly on oneself. Sexual fetishism: is the use of non-sexual or nonliving objects or part of a person's body to gain sexual excitement. Examples include: Balloon fetishism -- breast fetishism -- bike fetish -- foot fetishism (podophilia) -- fur fetishism -- leather fetishism -- lipstick fetishism -- medical fetishism -- panty fetishism -- robot fetishism -- rubber fetishism -- shoe fetishism -- smoking fetishism -- spandex fetishism -- dental braces fetishism -- transvestic fetishism (see below) Formicophilia: sexual attraction to smaller animals, insects, etc. crawling on parts of the body Forniphilia: sexual objectification in which a person's body is incorporated into a piece of furniture Frotteurism: sexual arousal from the recurrent urge or behavior of touching or rubbing against a nonconsenting person Galactophilia: (a.k.a lactophilia) sexual attraction to human milk or lactating women Gerontophilia: sexual attraction towards the elderly Gynemimetophilia: love of men dressed as women or have had a sex change; see also andromimetophilia Gynophagia: sexual attraction toward eating woman Haematophilia: sexual attraction involving blood (either on another person or the liquid itself; not to be confused with haemophilia, a genetic disorder of the blood) Harpaxophilia: sexual arousal from being the victim of a robbery or burglary; see also chrematistophilia Homeovestism: sexual attraction towards the clothing of one's own gender Hybristophilia: sexual arousal to people who have committed crimes, in particular cruel or outrageous crimes Hypephilia: sexual attraction to fabrics Incestophilia: sexual attraction to one's own family Infantilism: sexual pleasure from dressing, acting, or being treated as a baby Katoptronophilia: sexual arousal from having sex in front of mirrors Kleptophilia: sexual arousal from stealing things Klismaphilia: sexual pleasure from enemas Lust murder: sexual arousal through committing murder Macrophilia: sexual attraction to larger people and large things (including larger body organs such as breasts and genitalia) Maiesiophilia: sexual attraction to childbirth or pregnant women Masochism: the recurrent urge or behavior of wanting to be humiliated, beaten, bound, or otherwise made to suffer Mechaphilia: sexual attraction to machines, especially robots or androids Microphilia: sexual attraction to smaller people and things of smaller size Mysophilia: sexual attraction to soiled, dirty, foul or decaying material Narratophilia: sexual arousal in the use of dirty or obscene words to a partner Nasophilia: sexual attraction to the sight, touch of human noses Necrophilia: sexual attraction to corpses Necrozoophilia: (a.k.a necrobestiality) sexual attraction to the corpses or killings of animals Nepiophilia: (a.k.a. infantophilia) sexual attraction to children three years old or younger Olafactophilia: sexual stimulus with smells or odors Parthenophilia: sexual attraction to virgins Pecattiphilia: sexual arousal from sinning or guilt Pediophilia: sexual attraction to dolls Pedophilia: sexual attraction to prepubescent children (British spelling: paedophilia) Phalloorchoalgolagnia: sexual arousal by the experiencing of painful stimuli being administered to the male genitals Pictophilia: sexual attraction to pictorial pornography or erotic art Plushophilia: sexual attraction to stuffed toys or people in animal costume, such as theme park characters Pyrophilia: sexual arousal through watching, setting, hearing, talking or fantasizing about fire Raptophilia: sexually attracted to the idea of being raped; see also biastophilia Retifism: sexual arousal from shoes Sadism: sexual arousal from giving pain Saliromania: sexual arousal or satisfaction of soiling or damaging a partner’s clothing Schediaphilia (a.k.a. toonophilia): love of (or sexual arousal from) cartoon characters or situations; see moe Scoptophilia: sexual pleasure from watching other people have sex; not to be confused with voyeurism Sitophilia: sexual arousal from food Somnophilia: sexual arousal from sleeping or unconscious people Spectrophilia: sexual attraction to ghosts Stigmatophilia: sexual focus on a partner who is tatooed or scarred Stygiophilia: sexual pleasure from the thought of going to hell Symphorophilia: sexual attraction with stage-managing a disaster, such as a traffic accident Telephone scatologia: being sexually aroused by making obscene telephone calls to strangers Telephonicophilia: sexual arousal in explicit phone conversations Teratophilia: sexual attraction to deformed or monstrous people Toonophilia: (a.k.a. schediaphilia) sexual attraction to cartoons or anime characters Transformation fetish: sexual arousal from depictions of transformations of people into objects or other beings Transvestic fetishism: (a.k.a transvestitism) sexual attraction towards the clothing of the opposite gender Trichophilia: sexual arousal from hair Troilism: sharing a sexual partner with another person while looking on Urolagnia: sexual attraction to urine Vincilagnia: sexual arousal by bondage Vomerophilia: (a.k.a. emetophilia) sexual attraction to the act of vomiting Vorarephilia: sexual attraction to being eaten by, and/or eating, another person or creature Voyeurism: sexual arousal through secretly watching others having sex (also includes the recurrent urge or behavior to observe an unsuspecting person who is naked, disrobing or engaging in sexual activities, see peeping tom) Xenophilia: sexual attraction to foreigners (in science fiction, can also mean sexual attraction to aliens) Xylophilia: sexual attraction to wood Zelophilia: sexual arousal from jealousy Zoophilia: emotional or sexual attraction to animals Zoosadism: the sexual enjoyment of causing pain and suffering to animals

rideemwet -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 3:15:42 PM)
So does the definition have to be exclusive? If you label somebody as participating in bdsm does that exclude vanilla activities? If you label someone as vanilla it therefore excludes them participating in bdsm activities? My feeling is that there's overlap and its a matter of degree, and where you identify.

rideemwet -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 3:28:14 PM)
Just for fun, if we take these as absolute definitions, look at it this way - Parthenophilia: sexual attraction to virgins Ok, so that probably covers a fair percentage of the male population at least at some point in their life? Olafactophilia: sexual stimulus with smells or odors So anyone who wears perfume to be sexy? So you've now said that better than 50% of the population (to pick a number out of the air) is non-vanilla, and therefore kinky?

SteelofUtah -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 3:30:49 PM)
It's a Flavor innit? Steel

mnottertail -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 3:33:24 PM)
'ere's da fing; guv? ....... gots some choices as the bleedin hoity toitys say, but underneaf, we is all criminals, like, ain't we?

LillyoftheVally -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 3:33:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah It's a Flavor innit? Steel To be honest, thats where I think the term ends

lally2 -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 3:35:11 PM)
jeeze RS how long did that take or do you know all these 'ilias' off by heart! - and could that be construed as some sort of fetish all its own - impressive anyway and fascinating, thanks. i thought vanillas were allowed to be mildly kinky, just its a sex thing with them rather than a power exchange thing

sexisubi -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 3:35:41 PM)
i always think as nilla as someone that would look down on me when they found out that i liked things that werent considered too bad in bdsm but to them was a terrifying act.

lally2 -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 3:42:31 PM)
is spectrophilia for real?? - that has to be one seriously frustrating fetish - i mean how many ghosts has anyone seen in a lifetime and of that number how many were up for a shag.

ResidentSadist -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 3:44:12 PM)
107th Paraphilia: Postaphilia or Forumism - Getting pleasure from posting paraphilia lists on BDSM friendly forums. [:)] quote: ORIGINAL: lally2 jeeze RS how long did that take or do you know all these 'ilias' off by heart! - and could that be construed as some sort of fetish all its own - impressive anyway and fascinating, thanks.

OhnoMasterBill -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 3:44:57 PM)
Some of these are Vanilla, you decide which ones 1. A nose ring and bifocals 2. Spiked hair and bald spots 3. A pierced tongue and dentures 4. Miniskirts and support hose 5. Ankle bracelets and corn pads 6. Speedos and cellulite 7. A belly button ring and a gall bladder surgery scar 8. Unbuttoned disco shirts and a heart monitor 9. Midriff shirts and a midriff bulge 10. Bikinis and liver spots 11. Short shorts and varicose veins 12. In-line skates and a walker 13. Thongs and Depends!

DavanKael -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 3:50:02 PM)
Great question Lillyofthevalley. I find that I consider vanialla more a frame of mind; a retrictive (And often judgmental) one. ResidentSadist: paraphilias are different than just kinks. Are you proposing that kink is vanilla? Ohnomasterbill: I think I'm scarred for life after reading that list. Davan

mnottertail -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 3:51:19 PM)
I choose number 11. The blowjob of your life while wearing a rubber. Bozo the Clown up close and personal....... Shaggy

lally2 -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 4:02:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DavanKael Ohnomasterbill: I think I'm scarred for life after reading that list. Davan i just wasted a minute of my life (that i will never get back) looking for Ohnomasterbill on RS's list of fetishes and trying to imagine what it could possibly be to leave you so scarred. ....... just saying is all. tsk! edited to add: yes i am that easily confused and i realise after writing this just how phucking confused i really am. time for bed i think.

Apocalypso -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 4:15:48 PM)
It's a term used to 'prove' that the speaker is cool and hip, not withstanding all the evidence to the contrary.

ResidentSadist -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 4:17:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DavanKael ResidentSadist: paraphilias are different than just kinks. Are you proposing that kink is vanilla? I am not proposing kink is vanilla. Please elaborate how a paraphilia is different than kink?

windchymes -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 4:33:28 PM)
You forgot "Arachibutyrophobia".....fear of peanut butter sticking to the roof of your mouth. [:D]

littlewonder -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 4:41:44 PM)
Imo there is no such thing as "vanilla"...that or I've never been "vanilla". I've always dated dominant personality men whether they've heard of bdsm or not. I've always been submissive to the men I've dated whether they ever heard of bdsm or not. I've always enjoyed all the stuff we associate with bdsm even with men who have never heard of bdsm and long before I ever heard of bdsm. The men I've been with have always been into something "kinky". I've yet to meet a man who wasn't into something of the sort. Imo people use the term "vanilla" to make it seem as if they are somehow different or special or set apart from everyone else when imo that just isn't the truth at all.

Arpig -> RE: What is vanilla? (8/30/2009 4:47:48 PM)
I'm pretty much with Apocalypso on this one

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