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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

It feels weird to me to list wants.

Why? It shouldn't. You're human. You have them. There's no shame in that.

luci

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Ya know..I'm not sure I have any wants.

My enslavement is more a list of needs.

Needing to be dominated
Needing to be obedient
Needing to submit
Needing to be in a long term committed loving relationship

I guess if I had to list wants...
I want to be bound
I want to treated like an object at times
I want to be given consideration at times
I want to be tormented sometimes but also to be given sensuality at other times

There are probably others but that's some I thought of.
It feels weird to me to list wants.

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ORIGINAL: CaringandReal

Nice list, Lally. I especially liked the last item. :)

Ok, I'll try a stab at this.

* I want to be with someone who will, at times, both thrill me and frighten me.
* I want to feel as owned and controlled as I possibly can, no matter what the trade-off. There are a lot of difficult "trade-offs" in this world, but when you know where your priorities lie, it's easier not to let the trade-offs get in the way.
* I want always to miss my dominant when they are gone, and yearn for their presence. Yes, missing them sucks... but it also doesn't!
* I want a chance to be a servant to somebody again, to obediently contribute to their well-being, goals, and plans, and of course, be punished severely when I disobey. (Not a fantasy here, I hate punishment, but how else do you become a better servant?)
* I want to feel as if even my mind is not my own.
* I want hard, constant use, sex that feels like rape, worked hard at home after a long day at a job, forced to do things that I don't want to do or when I don't want to do them.
* I also want some assurance that I have a place and that it's not going to go away, but I'm not too picky about where that place is... as long as it's not on top.
* I want always to be out-maneuvered.
* I want to look around at my enviornment and experiences, whether they be in a hovel in a slum or in something a little better and think to myself, "This is what s/he's given me. And it is good."

Kind of a greedy list, I must admit, but it has been a while since I've been owned.

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ORIGINAL: lally2

slightly more experienced than i was a few years ago i think my wants have changed and id quite like to share them and see if you guys can come up with some that youve discovered or feel that youd like to discover.

identifying our 'wants' helps us to identify what and who we are looking for and the type of relationship we think we would flourish in.  so here goes mine:

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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: lally2

slightly more experienced than i was a few years ago i think my wants have changed and id quite like to share them and see if you guys can come up with some that youve discovered or feel that youd like to discover.

identifying our 'wants' helps us to identify what and who we are looking for and the type of relationship we think we would flourish in.  so here goes mine:

i find it difficult to wrap my mind around this. enslavement in my mind entails something simple. he leads and i follow. i can want until the sun comes down but that doesn't mean any of it will be granted. so rather than form a list of stuff that merely fills my head with ideas that may have to be purged later on i keep it simple.

i look at the person. i find that the characteristics he possesses as the man will be in tow as the master. when i consider what i want that is where i look. if it appears these things have been satisfied to some degree we move forward. if not, we don't.

i'm both a woman and slave. the two function in tandem but the mindsets don't always run parallel. in order to preserve the latter, i must temper the first. i cannot allow the woman's ideologies to damage what i've built.

porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: petmonkey

This thread caused me a lot of distress when i first saw it and it took me a couple of days to realized why.  While listing my wants is difficult for me in and of itself, there also is the problem that my greatest wants are to have Sir home safe, soon and permanently.  All other desires become moot next to these. It's been a continuous struggle going on a year now to accept that i might not get to have Him home safely, i will most certainly not get to have Him home soon and because of the nature of His employment and the state of the world, He ain't likely to be off assignment for very long either. 
What a bleeping bummer.
<end whining>
As for wants outside this specific circumstance, i find that listing them made me feel so raw that i think i should keep them to myself for the time-being. *stuffs scrawled on page in her back pocket*  Thank you for starting this thread and thank you to those who have already responded.  It's given me quite a lot to think about.

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ORIGINAL: littleone35

Wants and needs both very different. Master knows i need his love and that i need him to be with me and i need his dominance. I have to tell Master my wants because he told me to. I might not get them but he want to hear them. My main want is more time with him, he does give me that one when he can. I want him to kep track of time so he will be here when he says. I have other wants, but they are sexual wants and i wil not pot them here.

Matt's littleone

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ORIGINAL: Zechriel

Good evening!
I kinda agree with a couple of others here. Your first list of wants sounds exactly like my list of needs. Wants means that I may or may not get them, that "wants" are just a suggestive list to Daddy. My needs are what I will get or what will be given to me.  I need to feel loved, I need to be safe-rather than I want and then chance it that he will not love me or keep me safe in any circumstance. I want to be touched gently, I want to your adult children to know that I am of importance in your life. See? Things I may not get. but really both lists can be endless. Gosh, I hope you are able to type it or you could end up with a cramp! just being silly...but for me, I saw the list upside down. Good luck!
Love,
Zechriel

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ORIGINAL: lally2

part of why i put this up was because it was hard to get my head around too and i was interested to see how you guys would respond to it.  it isnt something i have ever been asked in do.  i have been asked my fantasies, i have been asked what i want out of a Ds or Ms relationship, but i have never been asked to list my wants.

i was told that once i had made my list to refer back to it from time to time to tick things off and follow my own progress as time goes on.

i agree that each relationship is different and with each Master we submit to there is always a huge variation on the theme of what, how and if ever.  but i also think that to list our wants isnt so far out of the box to be greedy or innapropriate.

in a way, if we read the TPE thread, all that a list like this does, is give the D an idea of where we are, where we would like to go and how we are doing.

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

You know you can shorted most of that list down to four words lally.... "someone I can trust" ..... Rather a prerequisit for what most folks are looking for.