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RE: Sissy Men - 9/4/2009 8:14:14 AM   
VanIsleKnight


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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

Sissy boys are typically highly effeminate males who often dress in over the top frilly, lacey, poofy dresses, maids outfits, etc.

Some use the term "sissy" to describe all submissive males who identify as having a female side that they wish to express.


Oh, so that's what she meant.  That sounds like fun, no wonder she wanted me hairless.


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RE: Sissy Men - 9/4/2009 8:22:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: VanIsleKnight

quote:

ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

Sissy boys are typically highly effeminate males who often dress in over the top frilly, lacey, poofy dresses, maids outfits, etc.

Some use the term "sissy" to describe all submissive males who identify as having a female side that they wish to express.


Oh, so that's what she meant.  That sounds like fun, no wonder she wanted me hairless.



Lol Van...your such a worry

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RE: Sissy Men - 9/4/2009 12:08:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		I associate sissy with high-maintenance, so the lack of assertive, appropriate commnication thing strikes me as rather par for the course.  
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RE: Sissy Men - 9/4/2009 1:36:48 PM   
OttersSwim


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ORIGINAL: DavanKael

I associate sissy with high-maintenance, so the lack of assertive, appropriate commnication thing strikes me as rather par for the course.  
Davan


I guess I would say that this actually shouldn't be, and I would argue actually isn't "par for the course".  Without doubt, there is more involved with being with a girlie boy, but high maintenance is not a term that I ever want to be associated with myself and I am pretty sure that most of the other girlie boys will feel the same. 

It is hard to know exactly what happened with the OP and this person, if he just wasn't into her, from he was negatively affected by something in their interaction, to he was just a dork...and so I will encourage folks to not immediately pin it on the fact that he was girlie as the culprit for this behavior.


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RE: Sissy Men - 9/5/2009 7:39:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		i too have communication problems. i try my best, but have always had a hard time communicating and sharing feelings. i am intelligent, and not shy, but just have always had a hard time expressing myself. one of the reasons cross dressing, and being a good obedient sissy is so satisfying for me is when i am in this role, i am told/ or know exactly how to act and how to feel- at least in the beginning- the freedom from fear is so overwhelming- i have never gotten to this next stage, as my two longer relations with Dommes did not involve too many sissy things- but i assume that after the original energy has worn off, and i am comfortable in my sissy place, then i will again experience the fears about communication that i have always had.

the other great sensation that i feel is from humiliation- and i think that also connects to my fears- if i can give advice (besides of course practicing on me- we are near each other) would be to develop a plan to draw out Your sissy's feelings- start with early sexual history- make him write these things out- i am sure he so wants to talk- but has never learned how-

just some thoughts-

chris

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RE: Sissy Men - 9/5/2009 7:41:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		I can't believe that nobody has brought up the financial girly-men.

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RE: Sissy Men - 9/5/2009 7:49:21 AM   
OttersSwim


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I can't believe that nobody has brought up the financial girly-men.

Ahnohd


I wear a ladies size 10...

...ya'know, just in case any of you bitches want to send me some tribute...

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RE: Sissy Men - 9/5/2009 11:37:59 AM   
KYsissy


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Status: offline 		I have seen some valid reasons here such as the fantasy is better than reality. Which is a possibility.

Speaking from my own experiences, it may be he is struggling to accept this side of himself.  If I still had all the lingerie I have thrown away over the years . . . . and every time I would tell myself "I'm done with this."  The after a while, two weeks, 6 months I would get another pair of panties and the cycle would start again. 

Maybe he has not fully embraced his sissy side. Maybe he never will.  It could be that the experience was SOOOO delightful and he could see himself getting sucked in and NEVER being able to be man again. Kinda silly but your mind starts to rev out of control sometimes.  Its a bit contradictory being afraid of the one thing you desperately crave but I have been there.  The lack of communication sounds to me like he has pitched all his sissy garb and is in the "no more" phase.  "no more" would also include contact with you as you are part of his sissy persona now.

If this is what is going on, within 6 months he will be wishing he had not behaved this way.  If you are still interested maybe let him know you are there if he decides he wants to talk to you.  No promises if you will be available as his Dom but that communication will always be welcome.

Just my 2 bright pink cents.



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RE: Sissy Men - 9/5/2009 2:04:33 PM   
shadowowl


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Status: offline 		I actually read on a Domme's profile something interesting about sissys she said
No sissies please because you are all liars. 
and when I think about it that is mostly true a vast majority of "sissies" while not intentionally lieing do so because they don't know what they really want and a lot tend to try to top from the bottom.
To me sissy male slaves seem like an oxymoron in that they want to be female treated like  a slut / bitch / maid but then say taht all women are supiorior and should be treated like goddesses..   if they really think women are like goddesses then if they want to be treated like a female then wouldn't they want to be the Domme? lol it's one of those crazy mysteries that I never did quiet figure out.   A sissy is basicly pretending to be a female in how they view women on some level.    I'm not innocent by any means I have identified as such in the past till I really started to think about it.   if wearing womens clothes make you "more" submissive then pyschologicly you view women as weaker.
Something madonna said in a song was for a man to dress or act like a woman is considered degrading because they view being a woman as less then that of a man.  This is why it's ok for a woman to dress like a man because she is just trying to be more then she is.
Somewhere inside every sissy they view being a woman as less then a man.  weather or not they admit it it's how they act. 
I like to cross dress I have a fem side but I hate the term sissy and dressing up doesnt' make me more submissive it just makes me more horny lol.   I don't like the frilly stuff and for the most part find it to be more empowering then degrading but only when I'm accepted for that aspect of me. 
I'm a sub male i'm not a sissy I will cross dress to please my Domme not to please myself.   the most degrading thing for me is to be naked because then I see myself as a male,  if i am crossdressed then i am still sub because I am still male but I am also something more I am a step above other males because I an embrass that aspect of myself to make my Domme happy.   If I do housework I do so as a male because that is my place not because I am trying to be more "femme".    If I want to be more femme I do so in a positive light,  I will be cleaner, more understanding, and more emotionally involved in the needs of my Domme to be more femme.   I will strive to emulate the positive images of the female not the negitive.
My male side has enough negitives :P  hehe.
I think all "sissys" need to really take good look at why they do things and while there is nothing wrong with what they do or what they like I think it's importent they are at least honest with themselves as to the reasons.
I mean for me if I where to be female I would want to be the Domme.   but i'm not so I'm the sub and I'm happy with my place because that's just who I am.


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RE: Sissy Men - 9/5/2009 3:07:00 PM   
leadership527


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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim
I wear a ladies size 10...

...ya'know, just in case any of you bitches want to send me some tribute...

OK, rootbeer on my brand new $70 keyboard. Now I need some tribute too and I don't have a clue what size pump I wear... damnit!


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RE: Sissy Men - 9/5/2009 7:34:41 PM   
naughty2pls


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ORIGINAL: obedient23

i too have communication problems. i try my best, but have always had a hard time communicating and sharing feelings. i am intelligent, and not shy, but just have always had a hard time expressing myself. one of the reasons cross dressing, and being a good obedient sissy is so satisfying for me is when i am in this role, i am told/ or know exactly how to act and how to feel- at least in the beginning- the freedom from fear is so overwhelming- i have never gotten to this next stage, as my two longer relations with Dommes did not involve too many sissy things- but i assume that after the original energy has worn off, and i am comfortable in my sissy place, then i will again experience the fears about communication that i have always had.

the other great sensation that i feel is from humiliation- and i think that also connects to my fears- if i can give advice (besides of course practicing on me- we are near each other) would be to develop a plan to draw out Your sissy's feelings- start with early sexual history- make him write these things out- i am sure he so wants to talk- but has never learned how-

just some thoughts-

chris


thank you for sharing.
I will remember this should I encounter communication problems with my sub.
As much as I may come off harsh, I truly adored my sub (sissy boy) and would want him back but if we never do connect again I will keep this as a reminder of another alternative to communicating to him

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RE: Sissy Men - 9/6/2009 4:58:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		Just on the contradiction that's being mentioned.  I started a similar feminization thread a couple of days ago, and found that most people saw sissification/feminazation as an expression of repressed identity/mindset rather than a humilation thing.

Personally, I love the idea of regression/gender play to become that identity, it would have nothing to do with negative views on women or to become more submissive to them.

I can see how on some level though how it could be taken that way.

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RE: Sissy Men - 9/6/2009 5:02:34 AM   
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one of the reasons cross dressing, and being a good obedient sissy is so satisfying for me is when i am in this role, i am told/ or know exactly how to act and how to feel- at least in the beginning- the freedom from fear is so overwhelming


I relate to that, I think being able to escape insecurities by being able to assume a repressed part of yourself allows you a fresh start, with that part of yourself not being conditioned during life.

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RE: Sissy Men - 9/6/2009 2:50:48 PM   
MeaganBlake


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Status: offline 		OMG, you should check out the tirade on my profile! I have been going through exactly the same thing! I've met several boys on here who promise the world until I want to actually accept it from them. Then they disappear without a trace! It's so annoying!

I guess I have no advice or explanation to offer you, but I can at least share your pain. I think that the fantasy is often more appealing to them than the reality. I think a lot of them are only after wank fodder, and once they have it, they're done with you.

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RE: Sissy Men - 9/6/2009 3:03:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: curiousheart

Just on the contradiction that's being mentioned.  I started a similar feminization thread a couple of days ago, and found that most people saw sissification/feminazation as an expression of repressed identity/mindset rather than a humilation thing.




That is how it is for my slave Josephine. To him it is who he is, an extension of his identity. It is not humiliating in the least. He says that he feels most comfortable in a skirt and panties.

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