Do you seperate BDSM from sex?

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If you're gonna spank my ass; You damn well better be tapping it

26% (17)

All that effort in planning this scene, damn straight I'm getting some

15% (10)

torture for hours and sending me home with no gratification is great

4% (3)

I dont need to get off, play time is plenty fun with out sex

52% (33)

Total Votes : 63

(last vote on : 4/8/2011 3:56:12 PM)
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myself1168 -> Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 3:40:19 AM)
Ok so here's the basics of the poll.....NO... I said poll not my pole! There are going to be answers relevant to Dom, or sub....no I didn not leave out Owners and slaves I've simply lumped them together. For switches or alpha subs you can select all relevant answers. Can you have BDSM with out sex?

daintydimples -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 4:35:10 AM)
Can you have BDSM with out sex? Yes. I have a male submissive I don't have sex with. Although the relationship has sexual components to it, it's about power, not sex.

RavenMuse -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 4:39:20 AM)
None of those answers is applicable. Play can be enjoyed with or without sex, they are seperate issues but are oft enjoyed together.

VanIsleKnight -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 4:46:45 AM)
I wouldn't be able to have a total BDSM relationship without sex or sexuality. I understand and anticipate that occasionally there will be no sexual gratification on my end, and that's completely fine. If all I wanted to do was experience an orgasm, I'd masturbate. BDSM to me is a variety of things. A sexual kink, a form of expressing my admiration, adoration, and affection, an interesting and entertaining spice to life. :)

TurboJugend -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 4:47:56 AM)
I like the question...but I can't find the answer I had in mind in the poll. I don't need sex in bdsm..but as the Dom..I always want to be able to decide if it happens or not.

gentlemanprince -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 4:58:16 AM)
Sure, I can separate them, but I wouldn't want to be in a D/s relationship in which I needed to do so.

myself1168 -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 5:02:55 AM)
yes I did awful with the answers lol suggestions and I can try to change them, but its a short box to be able to type in.

LadyPact -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 6:20:05 AM)
Absolutely I can. I don't have sex with My casual play partners in a top/bottom scenario. I even have that line included in My profile. If it's just going to be S/m play, it isn't going to include physical sex. My collared submissive may or may not get a sexual release during a scene. That depends on a few factors.

DesFIP -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 7:05:22 AM)
People can and will do anything you think of. Most public arenas don't allow penetrative sex. We however see little reason not to have it all unless I'm sitting in the car, hands and feet tied. If we're in private, sex is definitely part of it.

naughtysubK -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 7:21:49 AM)
None of the answers in the poll were applicable to me. As a submissive, I am not in a position to say "if you are spanking my ass, you better be tapping it.' But I do prefer after, during, or even before play. I love sex with my Dominant. But there are times when he denies me, and that's OK too. I know my frustration amuses him.

LaTigresse -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 7:36:21 AM)
For me it all depends on the energy with the particular person. I am VERY picky about who touches me. Especially in a sexual way. I am much less picky about whom I torture. In fact, the less attracted to them I am, the more sadistic I can be.

mnottertail -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 7:45:04 AM)
So I'm, a fuckin' shoe-in, huh? LOL LT, Ron

Mercnbeth -> RE: Do you separate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 7:45:12 AM)
quote: Can you have BDSM with out sex? I am 'having sex' when I engage in BDSM. BDSM, for me, IS sex. Now if you want to change it to amend the question to ask is orgasm required, then the answer would be not necessarily, but it's a likely outcome at some point.

DMFParadox -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 7:47:44 AM)
I'm the opposite of laTigress there. The more I like you, the more I want to fuck with you. Friends and lovers both. Politeness and civility are reserved for people I don't like, don't trust or don't want. Also, pity kills the sadistic streak in me. If I feel sorry for you, then no matter how much you want it I won't stomp you. Unless you're really irritating too. But for me, dealing with aggravation is not the same as sadism.

LadyPact -> RE: Do you separate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 7:47:57 AM)
I won't deny that S/m is sex for Me, but there is a difference between that and what many people understand as physical sex. I'm sorry to inform the male tops out there. We female tops can be sexually stimulated and even orgasm right in the middle of a scene, without anyone ever knowing it. Well, until it's time for after care and the boy has his head laid in My lap. HA!

kiwisub12 -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 7:52:35 AM)
cringes away from the tiger If i am in a scene where my Sir allows me to subspace, then i prefer no sex - i find it a distraction.(not that this has ever stopped my Sir from doing anything he wants [;)]) Otherwise penetration, hitachi wand and so on is great fun ... i mean ............ is tolerated because my Sir enjoys it. [8\|] Please don't give me sexual pleasure B'eur Fox - no, no - anything but that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MissGBsugar4u -> RE: Do you separate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 7:54:53 AM)
In public play with a sub,I do not engage in anything sexual. But in my private play thats another matter. I am a Sensual Domme, and a sub better expect to lic, suck and be fucked then or Im not the Domme for them. Miss Colleen.........Play Safe, Sane, and Consensually

Andalusite -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 7:57:36 AM)
I have a female submissive playpartner, and neither of us is interested in each other sexually or romantically, though we're friends and enjoy hanging out outside of scene time. My relationship with my Master is definitely sexual. [:D]

antipode -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 7:59:13 AM)
quote: Can you have BDSM with out sex? Your questions are curious..... for me, sex is an integral part of BDSM. That's not so much about "getting off" - sex is a biological function, and providing it is one of the sub/slave's involuntary functions.

porcelaine -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 8:18:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: myself1168 Can you have BDSM with out sex? i don't draw a distinction between the two. in my mind both are acts that are meant to bring about a pleasurable state for both participants. how we go about getting may involve penetration, pain, or something in between. i understand the separation you're speaking of, but i utilize it in a different manner. which doesn't apply to the topic at hand. porcelaine

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