RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex?

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Do you seperate BDSM from sex?

If you're gonna spank my ass; You damn well better be tapping it

26% (17)

All that effort in planning this scene, damn straight I'm getting some

15% (10)

torture for hours and sending me home with no gratification is great

4% (3)

I dont need to get off, play time is plenty fun with out sex

52% (33)

Total Votes : 63

(last vote on : 4/8/2011 3:56:12 PM)
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trappedinamuseum -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 8:40:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: myself1168 Can you have BDSM with out sex? Yes. Do I want to? No.

fluffypet61 -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 9:00:59 AM)
For me, a relationship would not separate of BDSM and SEX. Casual BDSM play might or might not include SEX...And SEX might or might not include BDSM.

MysticFireTopaz -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 9:39:35 AM)
For me personally, when in a long-term, committed relationship with a sub, BDSM can include sex. Sometimes there will be BDSM scenes with no sex. However, if sex occurs, it is almost always within a D/s context. I find vanilla sex boring. My casual play never includes sex. Personally, I just don't go there unless in a committed relationship with someone. Over the last 16 years, I have had hundreds of very fun casual play sessions that did not include sex.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Do you separate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 11:55:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact I'm sorry to inform the male tops out there. We female tops can be sexually stimulated and even orgasm right in the middle of a scene, without anyone ever knowing it. Well, until it's time for after care and the boy has his head laid in My lap. HA! Dagnabbit!! Another secret out!! [:D][:D][:D][:D][:D]

hizgeorgiapeach -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 12:23:02 PM)
I am a non-power exchange switch/masosado. I play for MY gratification, and if you (generic) happen to enjoy it - well, good for you, but honestly I could care less whether you get yours or not. It's my decision, what you want in that area means less than nothing to me, and crossing whatever lines I set prior to the start of the play session is a quick means of assisted suicide when I go completely psychotic on your ass. It starts when I want it to start, it ends when I want it to end, it does not go past the intensity that I want it to have, there is sex or not based strictly on whether I want it. Anyone who can't deal with it being that way (like the various people who are into this for Control & consider that the most important aspect of things) I simply don't bother to play with.

littlewonder -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 12:31:39 PM)
quote: Can you have BDSM with out sex? Yes..happens quite often..probably more often than not actually. It may be sexual in nature but the physical act of sex doesn't have to be involved. He can torment and make me wet just from looking at me.

Aileen1968 -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 4:05:31 PM)
Ya could.....but why the fuck would you?

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 4:09:17 PM)
Yes. In fact most of my bdsm play has been with out sex, and it certainly was when I had a vanilla bf who agreed I could do bdsm with out him as long as no sex was involved. quote: ORIGINAL: myself1168 Ok so here's the basics of the poll.....NO... I said poll not my pole! There are going to be answers relevant to Dom, or sub....no I didn not leave out Owners and slaves I've simply lumped them together. For switches or alpha subs you can select all relevant answers. Can you have BDSM with out sex?

Daddysredhead -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 6:44:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: trappedinamuseum quote: ORIGINAL: myself1168 Can you have BDSM with out sex? Yes. Do I want to? No. I'm with trapped here. Daddy and I have BDSM components in all our sexcapades. When we play at the club, we don't have sex there, though we could. We usually wait until we get home, or He does something to me on the way home. hehehe If we are playing privately, damn skippy we will be gettin' busy after. I love power exchange everything with Daddy, even the sex part. When I have had sub girls of my own, most of our playtime included some time of "shangrila" time at the end of it all. So, I may be jaded here, or just oversexed, or a hussy. I'm ok with any of those options. [8D]

MsFlutter -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 7:03:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Absolutely I can. I don't have sex with My casual play partners in a top/bottom scenario quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse For me it all depends on the energy with the particular person. I am VERY picky about who touches me. Especially in a sexual way. I am much less picky about whom I torture. In fact, the less attracted to them I am, the more sadistic I can be. exactly what they said !

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 8:49:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Ya could.....but why the fuck would you? Because the deeply awesome masochist you are playing with is a fat old guy that does not appeal to you sexually! (not dissing old fat guys, just using an example)

LinnaeaBorealis -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 9:49:36 PM)
I can & have had BDSM without sex & it was perfectly fine. Within my relationship with His Evilness it is always both. I may or may not be allowed to orgasm & he may or may not orgasm. With his lovely wife, it is always about sex, never any other aspect of BDSM, except watching what he does to me.

girlygurl -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/5/2009 11:25:12 PM)
I'm always submissive to Him when we're having sex so I guess the answer is no, I don't separate it.

WyldHrt -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/6/2009 1:25:19 AM)
For casual play? Yes, they are separate. While all play is sexual for me, physical sex will not happen if I am bottoming to a Top that I don't have both an emotional connection and mutual physical chemistry with, and most often not even then. Within a relationship, it is a different story. I don't separate BDSM from sex with my chosen partner, but the choice of activities is completely up to him.

MadameMarque -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/6/2009 3:44:16 AM)
BDSM is very sexually charged, for me. I don't have sex every time I do something BDSM-oriented. But I guess if it's working for me in BDSM, it's working for me sexually. "...it's something like abandoning a past self, or like another person inside you has died... From the death of the other one within myself, I obtain freedom." - HYDE From R & R Newsmaker magazine, Nov 2004 Translation by Lady Chris

Aileen1968 -> RE: Do you seperate BDSM from sex? (9/6/2009 4:57:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Ya could.....but why the fuck would you? Because the deeply awesome masochist you are playing with is a fat old guy that does not appeal to you sexually! (not dissing old fat guys, just using an example) Thus the reason why I could never do casual play with someone I wasn't sexually attracted to. Actually, I could never do casual play at all.

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