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CandL -> Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 12:19:33 PM)

I have a long distance d/s relationship and we're relatively new to bdsm but I want to give my sub some assignments for him to complete.

Can anyone give me some ideas?



Aylee -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 12:21:30 PM)

Learn to cook 3 new recipes?




NihilusZero -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 12:26:17 PM)

To learn to tie his shoelaces with his teeth?



Wolf2Bear -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 12:40:37 PM)

Have your sub start journalling and send you copy to read,
have your sub write out what it means for him to submit to you
Have him write out his expectations of what it takes to be in a D/s relationshuip with you
Have him write out his hopes and fears and use that as a launching point for future discussions.

These are some examples and I'm sure you'll be able to expand on other ideas yourself.



CandL -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 12:50:42 PM)

Many thanks to you all..... I've already made him do little assignments as such I just wanted to get a little deeper into it

keep 'em coming please :)



ResidentSadist -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 1:08:35 PM)

Assignment # 1 – Have him write you a profile.

That way old school forum dogs like me that use etiquette will talk with you sincerely. We won’t just assume you are just some lazy newcomer without a clue or sense of imagination and you are just trying to get us to do your work for you so you can profit from charging for ProDom services online.



subonmission -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 1:17:13 PM)

have him get on a plane and get whooped in person....



CandL -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 1:41:22 PM)

ermm.... I wasnt expecting anyone to 'do my work for me'

I was generally interested in other peoples opinions, I've already given him some of my own to do over the last few months I have been in contact with him.

I'm a newly switched dom, who has been in and incredibly dysfunctional d/s relationship with my ex for 3 year who was brutally cruel mentally and physically and had no desire to factor in my needs only his.

I wanted to soundboard off others because after being in place I wanted my new sub to enjoy himself and myself for that matter

I am gobsmacked at your response to someone who has just come on here for help and guidance






CandL -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 1:44:08 PM)

lol.... already did that....we met a few weeks back and it was amazing!!!!!!!!




ResidentSadist -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 2:02:20 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CandL
I am gobsmacked at your response to someone who has just come on here for help and guidance . . .

My ass . . . you can take the time to write and maintain a thread, you can post a profile!



shadowowl -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 2:07:59 PM)

Nothing wrong with not having a profile in my opinion lol of course I don't have one right now though I have had one in the past my Owner asked me to delete it so other Dommes would stop trying to steal me  :P   She's rather possesive but I don't mind I like that :) So sorry to any trying to find my profile it's gone.
Though I can see the point of  ResidentSadist in that you just joined the site and don't have a profile it does look a little odd and possibly you are a pro domme and didn't want to use your original profile to post on the forum cause no one would answer you.  But I prefer to trust people and like to think people are generally honest specially when they ask for opinions :)



subonmission -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 2:08:34 PM)

ahh get off your self righteous soap box. what does it matter is she has a bloody profile or not. do you not have anything better to to than nit pick at someone you dont know.



CandL -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 2:10:15 PM)

I have no bloody idea what to even put on a profile..... and I really dont appreciate being told to do it!!

I'm so sorry that I am extremely guarded about my online identity but I have my reasons in which I will not go into to with you.



agirl -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 2:16:25 PM)

You'll have to sift through the cynical/jaded/rude responses Candl....

agirl





CandL -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 2:17:59 PM)

thank you to all those who took the time to respond.... I really do appreciate it... and i'm not a scammer..... just someone who wants to learn



Lockit -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 2:19:48 PM)

Maybe you should have thought about some of this before you became a long distance dominant. Knowing what you're walking into is pretty important unless you don't care what effect you will have. I think it takes a bit more to be in charge of someone's life unless it is just some kinky online fun. Handling long distance takes a lot of focus and imagination. One must be up to the task at hand.

You first ask for suggestions on what you can do and then later say you wanted other's opinions. You come up with something and we can give an opinion. If you can't imagine what to do, what makes you prepared to do long distance for long?



CandL -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 2:25:02 PM)

sorry, maybe I worded it incorrectly, its not long distance as such, we meet up... or will meet up I should say every month or so.... My sub is someone who I have known for over 10 years but we live 2 hours drive away.

Because I was in a d/s relationship as a sub who's dom didnt really care about my feelings I never got to play to an extent of making me happy.

I deeply care for my sub and so want to delve deeper into making things work



Lockit -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 2:30:28 PM)

Play off both your personalities... play off of what happens in person. Spend some time alone... thinking, imagining and the thoughts will come as to what you might be able to do. Knowing him you will know how to tease him or make him stop and think or a direction you wish to go in. Know yourself... it is best if these things come from you so that they can feel real and true. Not something done in automation.



shadowowl -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 2:30:42 PM)

actually think this was discussed on another threat "long distance relationship" generally is interpreted as knowing someone in person but not being able to be with them very often due to distance.   If you don't know them at all or dont even plan to in person it's considered a "cyber relationship"  and is much different as it's more based on fantasy.
that was one point of view I forget who said it but it made sense to me lol.    And ofcourse everyone has their own opinions so "long distance" some may think of as "cyber" and I don't think it's writen in stone the real difference so to each their own :)



CandL -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 2:35:23 PM)

Thank you Lockit and shadowowl,

Lockit, thats probably one of the best pieces of advice that I have been given, I have a fair idea of what is the best way to play with him and I do know him very well and I'm learning day by day in which ways he can be humiliated... which is what he deeply craves



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