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RE: What do you want to be called? - 12/26/2004 3:39:52 PM

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Sir is always nice from a sub or slave. Master from one you own. And sometimes Daddy is fun. Just don't call me late for dinner! Lol

Leonidas and Estring have said it. I concur.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 12/26/2004 10:05:31 PM

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My sub addresses me as Master which is fine, in a family situation she will address me by my first name, but never when we are alone.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 12/28/2004 2:12:56 AM

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greetings.. As a new comer to these boards I tread carefully and read thoroughly before posting :) .For myself I happen to like Sir, Master or Boss. My partner when in Domme mode likes Ma'am.. however when out in vanilla land I allow my subs to use Skip (my military nickname which has stuck for 30 yrs) or for those who dont know me we my given name of Peter.. mind you it must be given with the correct amount of respect , with in given bounds I guess..

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 12/28/2004 4:12:50 PM

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Sir generally works...although there is something about a woman saying "yes, Master" that gets the juices flowing!

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 1/1/2005 11:22:32 AM

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Does it really matter as long as she calls?

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 1/1/2005 9:50:26 PM

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Sir works for me..........

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 1/2/2005 10:51:15 PM

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After I dressed my girl in a short skirt and bobby socks and put her hair up in pigtails to take her to a munch she decided "Grandpa" would be a fun way of pulling my chain without crossing the line (grin). As she's been "baby girl" from day one, I can hardly complain too loudly, lol. Actually, I got a kick out of the wicked gleam in her eye when she said it.
In general, she finds Sir to be appropriate but has started referring to me as "Master" in conversation with others. I'm not a stickler on honorifics beyond training for public protocol but I can't say I mind it either, so long as it's heart-felt. Still, Grandpa just doesn't quite hit the mark for me like Sir does.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 1/2/2005 10:59:49 PM

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From a submissive perspective...I certainly couldnt use grandpa without a bratty wit as well (smile)....That certainly is a new one...LOL...Always been uncomfortable with the term "daddy", does that mean it is a soft limit?......I love how the use of Sir, makes me feel my place. I long for the day to call the One, Master....... It's amazing how names can make you feel differently about the same person.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 1/3/2005 2:38:50 AM

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For starters I expect to always be called by my stage name, and I always call others by their stage name. The only exception to this is when I know the person as a friend and we are in private, or around people who only know us by our real names.

Sir and Ma'am is always nice. It isn't mandatory.

I look on Master as a rank more than a form of address. Having said that there is one I own who calls me Master. It is a privilege bestowed.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 1/3/2005 3:32:06 AM

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I am often confused over this, i wish to not ofend anyone. But some Dominants are ofended if somone that are not their submissive adress them whit titels, and some are ofended if they dont. I usualy wait and see if they ask me to adress them in a spesific way, and if what way is whitin reason i will.

Whit whitin reason i mean, i do not call pepole God such and such and Goddess such and suc, i am deply religious and that would not feel right.

Just one opinion from a sub girl here if that was okey.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 1/6/2005 1:51:50 AM

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Ah, I see....I misread the original post....I was not aware until after I posted here that there were seperate forums for Masters and Mistresses. Doh!

Carry on, Guys!

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Nobody here but us chickens, BlackGoddess. It's a mystery why we need gender segregtated forums. Reminds me of elementary school where we had boys and girls entrances.

I usually call other Dominants whatever title they want to be called until they give me reason to do otherwise, though it's hard to keep a straight face calling someone Lord. What I am called in return depends on how much respect I have earned and, I have found, how much respect the person has for themselves.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 1/6/2005 7:38:16 AM

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I will echo what has been said before.. somewhat.

Sir is what I prefer from slaves that do not know me. I believe that a modicum of respect should be there even if you are not collared to each other. slaves that insist on using "Sir" as a reserved term for their Master only just piss me off.

Master is reserved for those who wear my collar, as is Lord.

During play with multiple Doms we are all on a first name basis, the slaves are on first name basis with each other.

I was at a shoot recently where the other Dom was actually a switch. He was playing the role of Dom however, having his slave there, a play slave and my slave as well. He kept addressing me as "Sir" and it drove me nuts. Not because he was male but because he was in the role of Dom and I felt it was out of character for him to be calling me "Sir"

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 1/6/2005 4:38:07 PM

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oh yes I like this topic.

See I'm also envolved with mideval reenactment organizations where you have to earn the title Sir by being Knighted. I haven't been knighted. When someone calls me Sir at a BDSM event I get a little confused and don't at first may not repsond to it.

Maybe I just want to be called FangsNfeet untill I give you a session or two so that you know I am a Sadistic Vampiric Dom.

So call me Count, Master, Lord, or Noble. Oh hell I haven't earned any titles in my other organiaztions either.

As long as my name is pronounce right and the gester of getting my attention catches my attention in a way that I like, I really don't give a damn.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 1/6/2005 10:49:10 PM

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I prefer M'lord BAAL-Suleiman, Lord of Shortpants and Knight of Knikkerbokkers. I count myself lucky if I can get "sir".

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 1/7/2005 1:40:09 AM

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Titles are for the most part meaningless to me. Being addressed respectfully is more about attitude and actions than words. My slave will often respond with "Sir" attached in certain situations, but it isn't something I generally require.

More or less my user name is in jest in this regard.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 1/8/2005 11:03:41 PM

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I don't "require" honorifics from those I don't own, but if someone desires to refer to me with some title, I am content with "Sir.".

From my slave, she may refer to me as either Master, or Daddy...although.."You Evil Rat Bastard....er...Sir." is also acceptable.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 1/9/2005 3:31:37 AM

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I will echo what has been said before.. somewhat.

Sir is what I prefer from slaves that do not know me. I believe that a modicum of respect should be there even if you are not collared to each other. slaves that insist on using "Sir" as a reserved term for their Master only just piss me off.

I was at a shoot recently where the other Dom was actually a switch. He was playing the role of Dom however, having his slave there, a play slave and my slave as well. He kept addressing me as "Sir" and it drove me nuts. Not because he was male but because he was in the role of Dom and I felt it was out of character for him to be calling me "Sir"

So....you seem to be saying that using "Sir" is an indication of respect. Ok, I can buy that. However, you also seem to be saying that only people who self-identify as dominant are deserving of respect, and ANYONE who self-identifies as dominant should be automatically entitled to this show of respect. This respect should only come from people who are submissive and never from those who are dominant. Am I reading that right?

I gotta say, that would never work in my reality. I know at least as many people who identify as submissive who have earned my respect as those who call themselves dominant, and plenty of people who say they are dominant but don't deserve my respect at all.

I don't understand why only one role should be entitled to respect, especially without doing anything to have earned that respect. I also can't say that I understand why such respect should only come from one role and not others. Why wouldn't you want to be respected by others who identify as dominant? It seems to me that the respect of one's peers would be at least as important, if not more so.

Finally, I can't say that I see simply calling someone Sir as respectful. Afterall, I could say "You're full of shit and couldn't dominante a your way through a piece of tissue, Sir" and adding in the honourific doesn't make the statement any more respectful. If using "sir" is simply a show of politeness, all the above apply for me as well, except that I"m generally polite to everyone until they've proven themselves not to be entitled to even that.

Respect, to me, is something that is earned over time and given to those who deserve it, regardless of role, gender, or self-identification.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 1/9/2005 5:11:40 AM

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I prefer to be called by my name.

If I were playing with someone for whom calling me 'Sir' was helpful for them in entering a desired headspace, that would be acceptible. Otherwise, I have no need for the honorific.

Anyone who calls me 'Master' will probably get laughed at.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 5/13/2007 5:35:50 AM

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My girl refers to Me as "my Master" because that is what I am, some girls of My aquaintence who wish to particularly mark the respect they hold for Me call Me "Sir", I never ask them to but if they do then I accept it for what it is.

I EXPECT a Gorean girl to refer to Me as Master Raven, as that is THEIR protocol toward the Free. If they do not then it doesn't bother Me much as it is a matter for their Master to address with them, it is their protocol that is not being adhered to after all, not Mine.

One young lady has a habit of calling Me "Lord Raven" which whilst overly pretentious, I know and accept the manner and very high regard in which it is ment (Very few girls could do so and Me be comfortable with it but I have known her for quite some time and it IS natural for her to do so)

Unless they are Mine, I don't much mind what I am called so long as there is at least a reasonable level of politeness behind it.

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RE: What do you want to be called? - 5/13/2007 3:09:04 PM

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Like some of the others on this board, I have a near-rabid dislike of titles. I've got a name for a reason, and I get about an hour's worth of laughing per year when people address me (my name is one of those that's particularly easy to mispronounce). I introduce myself by my first name, and honestly that's what I prefer to be called. "Mr. <insert surname here>", when used in an informal setting, makes me feel like someone that I'm not, and I get tired of "Sir" after the first fifteen seconds. For me, it's not so much about what I'm called as it is how I'm spoken to.

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