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Rainfire -> RE: my apologies and punishment (9/15/2009 7:47:44 PM)
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~~FAST RESPONSE~~
I was really hoping that after my last response, this thread would die and be allowed to rot in peace. [sm=goodnight.gif]
As has been stated in private messages, I've asked for respect in regards to decisions made, and choices made. I agree with Lumus that He did what He felt is right for us and not necessarily other people. I agree with Him that this thread wasn't done for attention but simply to publicly apologize (hence the title) and acknowledge certain circumstances. I am thankful and appreciative of the support and caring shown but feel a line has been crossed. At what point do we as a community here support a person but then take it too far and in trying to show love and support, start to cause damage? Feelings have been hurt and insults taken when that didn't need to happen. I must also admit to feeling distressed over accusations of bullying on Lumus' part because while He has answered private cmails strongly and passionately, for the most it's only been submissive women who have addressed this issue with Him. He answered as person to person, not Dominant Male to submissive woman. He expects submission from me only, not anyone else. (And to clarify that point, He gets it from me out of love and respect, not fear and beatings.) Should a male Dominant choose to cmail Him regarding this matter, they would have gotten the same type of responses had the matter been addressed and expressed in similar fashion. Lumus doesn't give a rat's ass about whether someone is male or female, dominant or submissive, but replies based on the tone of the message received, reason with reason, sarcasm with sarcasm, etc., etc., etc. Jim, having been sitting here with Lumus this whole thread, I know that He has never made the "attempt to bully and lure into cybersex".
On this path we call "life", each of us has to make decisions for ourselves. While at time those decisions include other people, such as spouses and children, we also have to learn to step aside and let those around us make their own decisions for themselves. Y'all know what? Sometimes, those decisions suck big donkey balls. Sometimes, they are life-altering and change us forever, whether we like it or not. That's life. It's how we deal with these things and what we learn that's important. As Lumus stated, we are back on track, where we want to be. Yes, you read that right - "we". Not just Him, not just me, but we as a couple. Life ain't a fairy tale to be painted in pretty pastels, some times, the damn road has massive potholes and bumps. That's what fixing and repairing them is about - to address and smooth things. This thread was a first step in that process. And with good grace, it will continue and strengthen the path we follow.
Now, can we all move on and get back to life? Can we let this thread die? Moderators, feel free to pull it, at this point it's doing more harm than the lesson it was intended for.
I'm moving on myself, feel free to move on as well. [sm=car.gif]
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