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Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 7:46:47 AM   
Sunnyfey


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Status: offline 		Ok, knocking this idea around the dungeon with Master (yes I have permission to post this) about public manners he wishes me to adhere to (I have a hard time being quiet sometimes, or to put it better, I'm a freakin loud mouth). This is the rough draft of printed off for me, and I wanted to get others opinions (again I am ALLOWED  to do so) on it, besides my own.

" It should go with out saying that when we are out in public I expect you to display respectful etiquette. I don't necessarily want you to change your normal social style (if extroverted or otherwise), but I want the focus to be on making yourself a proper reflection of me. I will instill a following set of code words so that yu can know if I expect you to adjust your social mannerisms at all:

X (number) Do not engage a certain someone in any conversation. You can determine the person I'm refferring to by counting the people clockwise from my left if we're at an enclosed table etc. If for some reason I need to count from your right for simplicity I will use XB(number)

V(number)(number) I want you to adjut your volume of your voice. The first number is what I rate your volume to be, (1-10) and the seond number is where I want your volume to be. This will give you a basic idea on how much adjustment I want

Y(number)(number) I want you to yeild in conversation to others talking, and or reduce how much you are engageing in conversation, How much I think your are doing it and how much I want you to do it will be the same style as V."

So what do you all think?




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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 7:49:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think it's way too complicated. I'd never remember all of those things.
He would just whisper in my ear "quiet"

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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 7:53:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well if you were in a situation where he could not say something to you, then I guess it would work. But I am not sure when that situation would come up. If he can whisper Y95 to you, then why can't he just say "tone it down a bit"? Seems like your trying to make the simple art of communication very difficult.

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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 7:54:10 AM   
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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 7:55:14 AM   
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Well if you were in a situation where he could not say something to you, then I guess it would work. But I am not sure when that situation would come up. If he can whisper Y95 to you, then why can't he just say "tone it down a bit"? Seems like your trying to make the simple art of communication very difficult.

But it's cool!

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You're all just lazy. Yup. that's it.

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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 7:56:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm in the 'use plain English' camp on this one. Frankly I have little time for pointless complexity I just tell her straight what I require of her, either with a quick whispered command in her ear or pulling her to one side if I need to explain something in slightly more detail.

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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 7:57:30 AM   
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If he can whisper Y95 to you, then why can't he just say "tone it down a bit"? Seems like your trying to make the simple art of communication very difficult.

Oh yeah...well...how is it "more difficult" if I've reduced the amount of syllables necessary to make that point by two, eh smarty pants!




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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 7:58:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		Your "master" sounds like a real ding-dong to me.

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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 8:00:21 AM   
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Your "master" sounds like a real ding-dong to me.

I'll take that as a compliment.

Or you just enjoying the chance to use "dong" in a sentence.




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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 8:01:12 AM   
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Your "master" sounds like a real ding-dong to me.


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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 8:04:55 AM   
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Perhaps NZ needs to come up with a system to tell you who not to engage in with on the message boards.
Don't talk to poster #8 in the General BDSM section, Thread #3.
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edited to add....
Seriously though, if it works for you then enjoy it.
It wouldn't work for me as I tend to not think effectively when near him. He has that effect on my brain.

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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 8:06:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		NZ.. you're so cute :) 

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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 8:08:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Sunnyfey

Ok, knocking this idea around the dungeon with Master (yes I have permission to post this) about public manners he wishes me to adhere to (I have a hard time being quiet sometimes, or to put it better, I'm a freakin loud mouth). This is the rough draft of printed off for me, and I wanted to get others opinions (again I am ALLOWED  to do so) on it, besides my own.

" It should go with out saying that when we are out in public I expect you to display respectful etiquette. I don't necessarily want you to change your normal social style (if extroverted or otherwise), but I want the focus to be on making yourself a proper reflection of me. I will instill a following set of code words so that yu can know if I expect you to adjust your social mannerisms at all:

X (number) Do not engage a certain someone in any conversation. You can determine the person I'm refferring to by counting the people clockwise from my left if we're at an enclosed table etc. If for some reason I need to count from your right for simplicity I will use XB(number)
If we were out and encountered a person I did not want her to speak with, I would pull her aside and say "I do not wish you to speak to this person."  If she needs a reason, she would be told that she will get one at home.  This should do it as I make it fairly clear when I first start communicating with a submissive my disdain for public disagreements.

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V(number)(number) I want you to adjut your volume of your voice. The first number is what I rate your volume to be, (1-10) and the seond number is where I want your volume to be. This will give you a basic idea on how much adjustment I want
My way?  "turn your voice up/down a little...more...less"

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Y(number)(number) I want you to yeild in conversation to others talking, and or reduce how much you are engageing in conversation, How much I think your are doing it and how much I want you to do it will be the same style as V."
"I expect you to remember that conversation requires two or more.  Do not try to dominate to the point of rudeness any conversation you are involved in with others.  When you have been listening and begin to speak, show others that you have given them the courtesy of listening by not just launching into your next talking point.  Address what they have said."

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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 8:09:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

NZ.. you're so cute :) 


I thought it was adorable too. I'm lucky to have someone who gets so excited about things, he thinks too hard about them :)


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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 8:11:05 AM   
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If he can whisper Y95 to you, then why can't he just say "tone it down a bit"? Seems like your trying to make the simple art of communication very difficult.

Oh yeah...well...how is it "more difficult" if I've reduced the amount of syllables necessary to make that point by two, eh smarty pants!





Yea, but then I have to figure out which number is the one to indicate the volume I am using now and then which is the one he wants me to use. Then I have to remember how loud I was talking when he said Y95, so I can calculate the appropriate decrease needed to make him happy. Then I have to remember what I was saying in the first place and listen to the current conversation to see if they are still talking about that. Then I have to count to the left and see if I was supposed to be replying to that person in the first place......and on and on.

Sorry, but that just seems like to much work to be worth it. Maybe I will just sit here with my mouth shut and wonder what X3 did that was so terrible that my master does not even want me to initiate conversation with him and why is he sitting at our table?

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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 8:13:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with every one else, what's wrong with quietly saying hush or tone it done,  because if he has time to implement a code make you and him both memorize the code, , and whisper that then there's certainly time to whisper hush or calm yourself.

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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 8:16:26 AM   
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Your "master" sounds like a real ding-dong to me.


And this is bad WHY?


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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 8:17:47 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

quote:

ORIGINAL: hellfireNskill

Your "master" sounds like a real ding-dong to me.


And this is bad WHY?




LMAO!!! He is JUST as tasty as one that's for sure!


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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 8:18:10 AM   
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RE: Speech protocol - 9/14/2009 8:30:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Sunnyfey

Do not engage a certain someone in any conversation.
Sir would just  quietly tell me "Do not talk to that person."
I want you to adjut your volume of your voice.
He would just whisper "Quiet."
I want you to yeild in conversation to others talking, and or reduce how much you are engageing in conversation,
I normally listen a lot more than I talk but, if I were to talk too much, I'm thinking He would quietly tell me not to.
So what do you all think?
All that is way to complicated for me, but I think whatever works for the two of you is great.  After all, it's your relationship. 


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