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LaTigresse -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 12:55:55 PM)

I love love LOVE being naked!!! The only time I am uncomfortable with it, is when others would be uncomfortable with it.

The thing is, just being naked isn't sexual to me, it's a big "ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.......... that is so much better!" moment.

The only thing that has changed is that, now that I am not a skinny little thing like I used to be, neither are my breasts, they are just too damned big and they get in my way. And I HATE having them unconfined when I am up and about. If I am not in bed, chances are, I will be wearing some type of bra. And yes, to save the furniture I usually wear undies. But otherwise, depending upon the time of year and what I am doing, it is as little as possible. Right now, I've got one of my favourite t-shirt dresses on because I was out with the dogs in the north yard (visible from the road).

I am not exactly fond of the bit of tummy I have now, but since no one has asked me if I am pregnant since I was, I'm not too worried about it. I've always had an ass, hips and thighs. The fact that they are not the same as they were 20 years ago is a given.

I see beauty in almost all female form. Not just the perfect little swimsuit model types. And actually, if the boobs look purchased, I prefer to not see them. I kinda like natural and curvy best.

Puella, you need some sort of desensitizing retreat type thing I think. Starting out clothed, then slowly less and less clothing as time goes on, yet making no big deal of it.......making it feel normal and natural.

Being naked was never a big deal in my home growing up. I remember my mother yelling at me for running past the front door on my way to my room to get dressed after bathing in the only bath downstairs. The bathroom door was never locked and it was nothing for people to come and go while you were taking a bath. Even now, I rarely shut the door, unless we have company that would be offended.



subtlebutterfly -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 1:37:13 PM)

FR
Am I the only one who gets ridiculously cold if I'm supposed to be naked for more than 5 mins or so????



Andalusite -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 1:53:17 PM)

I'm pretty much with SunnyFey on this. I'm fine with nudity with someone I love, in private. I've scened before at playparties while wearing just a thong and tape over my nipples, but being completely nude makes me dreadfully self-conscious. I tried once, and I could *not* relax and enjoy the play at all, and started crying. Once I had my panties back on, we took a break for some food and water, and then I was fine to get started again. I've been naked a couple of times in a hot tub where no clothes were allowed, and I kind of slid out of the towel into the water, so that my skin had minimal contact with the air! I'm generally pretty happy and self-confident with my body, sometimes more so than others, but it's mostly just that I don't want strangers/just anyone having even visual access to certain parts of me.



DesFIP -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 4:11:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly

FR
Am I the only one who gets ridiculously cold if I'm supposed to be naked for more than 5 mins or so????



Just my feet. Which led to me being naked with him except for my smartwool knee high socks. Not the most alluring picture around.



Lucienne -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 4:34:52 PM)

I'd recommend looking into rational emotive behavioral therapy to isolate the irrational thought process and correct it. I'd guess this is the kind of thing that will only get worse the more you indulge it. And it really is a shame that you're denied the pleasure of being comfortable with yourself naked.





AnimusRex -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 4:40:18 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Lucienne

I'd recommend looking into rational emotive behavioral therapy to isolate the irrational thought process and correct it.









p.s. I'm not a doctor, but I'm willing to take a look.



Sunnyfey -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 4:48:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly

FR
Am I the only one who gets ridiculously cold if I'm supposed to be naked for more than 5 mins or so????



Not at all. I get cold quite easily. That maybe due to me being anemic. *shrug*



LaTigresse -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 4:50:39 PM)

I am almost never cold. I have been known to run around barefoot in winter.



Lucienne -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 5:10:28 PM)

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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex


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ORIGINAL: Lucienne

I'd recommend looking into rational emotive behavioral therapy to isolate the irrational thought process and correct it.









p.s. I'm not a doctor, but I'm willing to take a look.



Your response made me laugh. But at the same time, I wonder if I was supposed to be offended.



mbes -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 5:28:11 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Andalusite
I'm generally pretty happy and self-confident with my body, sometimes more so than others, but it's mostly just that I don't want strangers/just anyone having even visual access to certain parts of me.

These are my thoughts, for the most part. It doesn't have much to do with how I feel I look for the most part, though when I feel unattractive, I'm less comfortable and when I feel attractive it's less difficut.
I particularly don't like being naked when others are dressed, due to the vulnerability factor.
My other half is a bit of an exhibitionist, and his favorite "exhibit" is me. So I'm uncomfortable often enough. I don't expect to get over it anymore.



AlexandraLynch -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 5:41:49 PM)

I don't mind being naked as long as I am physically comfortable with it (which is rare since I have big boobs and they're happier in a bra, and I tend to get cold readily and that's why we invented clothes) and as long as it is socially appropriate. I'm very casual about it, however, because I prefer to hot-tub and swim naked, and I keep the lights on when I have sex, I preferentially sleep naked, and I'll change clothes while talking a mile a minute to my husband or my sub. I have very definite privacy views around people who aren't my sub or my lover, and around those people I'll stay dressed to the knee and the elbow.

Our girl has issues being uncovered in public, and that is because she has a skin condition that has scarred badly on her back and upper legs. So when I pick out a sexy outfit for her, I do one in which the areas she has a problem with are covered, because she will feel better and relax more and believe more the truth about her beauty if she doesn't have her back showing. We'll get to that eventually. But small steps.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 8:15:08 PM)


That reminds me of the time I had this t shirt dress I really loved and it was a size to big and I liked it big and baggy, until one day I saw a home video of me climbing on the rocks at pismo beach in this dress and I looked HUGE, it was like I had put on another 200 pounds, and  then I realized how bad the over sized stuff was making me look, not to mention it wasn't cute or sexy or anything of the kind to have a dress so large it could  and did slide off one of my shoulders and I was horrified at how ugly I looked in the dress, once I finally realized how it looked on me. Specially since I had really liked the dressP


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ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly



Most women don't like being nude because they're unhappy with their body and most don't see their body the way it is in reality.
The aim is to dispel the illusions and show them that they're much more critical of their own body than of others.
A popular thing there is having women of different sizes line up and the woman in question is supposed to situate herself between the women where she thinks she fits. The result is that she usually thinks she's a couple of sizes bigger than she really is.

It's a matter of helping the women feeling happy in their own skin, along with teaching them how to dress as to embrace their body, what makes them look fatter than they are what compliments their bust, ass whatever their best asset is etc.

If you feel comfortable in your own skin and are embrace your body you are usually able to deliver that feeling to the ones that see you, naked or otherwise.




Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 8:21:52 PM)

My feet get so cold in the winter they hurt so bad, and in bed the rest of me w/ill be or could be warm and comfy but the feet remain icey, so much so that when I touch daddy with them he helps and tells me to get them off of him, and so if socks keep your feeties warm and happy and keeps the Mister from getting goosed with ice cold feet I say go or it:) "alluring picture" or not 
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

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ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly

FR
Am I the only one who gets ridiculously cold if I'm supposed to be naked for more than 5 mins or so????



Just my feet. Which led to me being naked with him except for my smartwool knee high socks. Not the most alluring picture around.



AnimusRex -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/20/2009 9:08:48 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Lucienne

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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex


quote:

ORIGINAL: Lucienne

I'd recommend looking into rational emotive behavioral therapy to isolate the irrational thought process and correct it.









p.s. I'm not a doctor, but I'm willing to take a look.



Your response made me laugh. But at the same time, I wonder if I was supposed to be offended.



Actually, your recommendation echoed my own thoughts.

And yes, I really would be willing to take a look.
I am a giver that way.



petmonkey -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/21/2009 4:21:56 AM)

i very much doubt i could ever become totally comfortable being completely nude in public.  i'm more introvert/voyeur than extrovert/exhibitionist.
Around the home, around my partners and close friends; i'm comfortable based on their level of comfort.  If they couldn't care less, i probably wouldn't either.  If they do, then i try to politely & reasonably cover up. 
My parents wandered around the house in their birthday suits on occasion and rather than gaining an overdeveloped sense of decorum, i decided it was just . . .the human body--no big deal.
i do love pajamas and i do love natural lighting, however.  If i had a choice, i'd jump into some Nick & Nora flannels and open the blinds.  i'm not comfortable forcing my neighbors to see all 2000 parts--some of them might hate it, some might like it a lil' too much. When Sir is home and declares it a pants-free day, the shades get drawn.



littleone35 -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/21/2009 9:25:01 AM)

I was nervous about getting naked with Master for the first time. Now with him i don't mind it. Most of the time i like to wear clothes i am a litle oveweight and with clothes i can hide it somewhat. Come to think about it even when i was slim liked to wear clothes.

Matt's littleone




worthlesstrash -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/21/2009 9:34:26 AM)

I used to always be nervous about being naked, wondering if I look alright. I have over the past year or so with M lost that insecure me that existed. I can now just strip at the drop of a hat when he wants me to, because I know that he loves every inch of what he sees before him.

As for the public part, I am working my way up to that..but I suspect by this time next year I will be enjoying a bit of public play. [:)]



VampiresLair -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/21/2009 9:35:35 AM)

I dont like being naked because I am more comfortable having my clothes against my skin. I dont like the feel of moving air on most of my body, and we sleep with a fan on and so I am usually in a shirt and shorts to sleep and under a sheet or blanket. I am weird about sensation, and the feeling of most materials drive me to distractio so I prefer to have my clothes between me and them. I will be naked when it is appropriate, but if given the choice to lounge I will be loungewear. 



OrionAndi -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/21/2009 10:14:12 AM)

It depends on the person I am with and how comfortable i am with them. I have always genurally been able to walk around naked in the comfort of my own home, Previous relationships i have been in it was easy to be naked.. because my body was never really appriciated that much and in essense wasnt a big deal, so being naked wasnt a big deal.But the moment i start recieving compliments my confidence drops and i start feeling uncomfortable. basically im fine until its made aware to me that my body has been noticed. You would think that being given compliments that this would infact boost your confidence but for me it doesnt[&:]

So many times I have tried to "Strip" for Orion but everytime i have completely failed in doing so. Because I know full eyes are on me. Even though I know he loves every part of me and makes this clear on many occasions. I just cant do it.

Something i am still working on. What I have started doing is taking more care of myself in every day life to make myself feel good, even just having a nice bubble bath a good old shave session, get out try off and covering myself in lovely coconut moisturising cream. I smell beautiful and feel beautiful. I come out in confidence because I feel good! My daily routine now and it helping alot[:D] I let myself go terribly after i had my baby 3 years ago.

Looking at yourself in the mirror and focusing on what you do like about your body is a good start, Compliment yourself[:)]



oceanwyndsLoves -> RE: Hating Nudity (9/21/2009 11:13:06 AM)

In my early years no I didn't have a problem with it. I was even a nude life model for the University art courses.

Then at 21 I got hit by a car and have a scar from my hip down to my knee and nudity became a bit of problem. Back then i was vain, but over came it. Even have pictures of me nude and preg., which i cherish.

Today at 58 i am only about 15 lbs from what I weight in my 20's. Everything on my body moved south, just like me, since I moved to Florida. I don't hate being nude, but it is still a little challenging for me. There are times, when Sir visits, he will tell me to be nude when he comes, and that feels acwkward to me, but it is done.

oceanwynds



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