RE: Changing

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: Changing

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> RE: Changing

Page: << < prev 1 [2]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: Changing - 3/2/2006 12:38:03 PM

Vancouver_cinful

Posts: 1911
Joined: 2/3/2004
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Littlepita
Do women that have never really worn heels in their life get used to it? And my goodness how icky is the thought of wearing stockings and garters all the time? I would go for the tan look but he likes how white my skin is so I don’t know if that will fly. Sigh!

Breathe!!!!!!!!!!!!

Honey, I went from 30 years of denim overalls, t-shirts, and sneakers to corsets, garters, and dresses, and I can't imagine why it took me so long. I love dressing up now. I love feeling sexy. I love turning heads, even though I'm no Barbie. I can't imagine going back now.

As long as your master will give you time to make the transformation I bet you will do just fine.

As for heels, no, personally I haven't been able to take to them, but unless you have a bad back or bad knees (like me) I'm sure you will adjust over time. Start with small chunky heels, and work up. Start with short periods. Remember to stretch and massage your calves a lot, rotate your ankles when you sit, to build the muscles.

And most importantly...

Breathe!!!!!!!!

I'm so excited for you!

Cin

_____________________________

Cin

quote:

My Karma Account is huge, but I just can't seem to make a withdrawal!!

http://cinful.wordpress.com

(in reply to Littlepita)

Profile

Post #: 21

RE: Changing - 3/2/2006 12:44:08 PM

Vancouver_cinful

Posts: 1911
Joined: 2/3/2004
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: slavejali
I want a definite time to that you are gonna come on this board and tell us how the meeting went...and if you dont turn up...you are in trouble.

I second this!!

We are going to be watching and waiting to hear...You have my yahoo address, as well. I'd love to IM sometime...I'm told I'm a great ear to rant to. LOL

Cin

_____________________________

Cin

quote:

My Karma Account is huge, but I just can't seem to make a withdrawal!!

http://cinful.wordpress.com

(in reply to slavejali)

Profile

Post #: 22

RE: Changing - 3/13/2006 9:33:29 PM

MojoRisin

Posts: 178
Joined: 9/27/2005
Status: offline

Curious for an update :)

MR

(in reply to Vancouver_cinful)

Profile

Post #: 23

RE: Changing - 3/13/2006 9:47:51 PM

Takethiswaltz

Posts: 199
Joined: 3/13/2006
Status: offline

Hi pita,
This may sound a bit silly, but when I buy a new pair of heels, first I go outside and rough up the soles on the driveway so I won't fall and and break my ankle when I'm wearing them. Next I plan a day of housework during which time I can only wear these new heels.
Sounds a bit like self-imposed masochism, doesn't it? But it works!
If you have clothing you aren't used to, try wearing them on a day that you will be doing physical work at home. It teaches you how to move naturally in them. Buy a cheap dress that you won't care if you ruin, don a pair of thigh highs and a garter, throw on an old set of heels and voila! Clean the house. It really does work. Good luck to you and your new dom.

Waltzy

(in reply to Littlepita)

Profile

Post #: 24

RE: Changing - 3/13/2006 11:51:00 PM

HentaiGamerKitty

Posts: 131
Joined: 8/7/2005
Status: offline

A word of caution...I worried about all the "little things" ahead of time and he assured me that they would eventually be "no big deal." Well 6 months later, they had REALLY added up to the point that I was unbelievably depressed and VERY much wanting my own life back. The day he released me, it was like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders and I was ecstatic over the simplest things (like wearing my favorite necklace, wearing my ugly pj's, etc.) I feel that if I had listened to my "inner voice" in the beginning I would have realized that being a 24/7 slave wasn't right for me. I'm not saying that will be the case for you, but it's how it worked for me. I ended up feeling like I couldn't be ME, like I was putting on a show for somebody all the time, and it became extremely tedious. I wish you the best....just make sure this is what you want. I was all caught up in the romance and fantasy of everything and reality was a really nasty suprise.

(in reply to tendergirl)

Profile

Post #: 25

RE: Changing - 3/14/2006 10:42:15 AM

TemptingNviceSub

Posts: 3054
Joined: 10/1/2005
Status: offline

I am with mojorisen on this I would love to hear further on this..be well...Tempting.

(in reply to HentaiGamerKitty)

Profile

Post #: 26

RE: Changing - 3/15/2006 5:04:07 PM

Sirandlittle1

Posts: 538
Joined: 12/22/2005
Status: offline

I adore jewelry, i have loads of necklaces, but i dont get to wear them often. But He knows of my love for some of my pieces. And providing i seek permission, its usually granted. But the necklace thing worried me initially.

Lots of little things worried the shit out of me intially. But hey, they all worked out. We adapted our 'fantasy' of a D/s 24/7 relationship to a liveable reality as we went along.
Wearing heels all the time- i had to laugh at that. I have a 6 stone rottweiller that needs walking daily, for a long distance. Would your Dom insist of me wearing heels? lol i doubt it. Its just a fantasy that he has. And good for him. But real life, tempers a new Dom's fantasies quickly to realities. Leaving the filthy fantasies for the bedroom hopefully

I wish you well, enjoy the new experience. The hard part of finding each other is over. learning to co-habit in a powerexchange relationship is the marvelous opportunity that awaits you both, good luck

little1

(in reply to TemptingNviceSub)

Profile

Post #: 27

RE: Changing - 3/16/2006 5:17:22 AM

submission22

Posts: 4
Joined: 2/27/2006
Status: offline

This is a hard one for me. I personally think its ridiculous for a Dom to expect someone..anyone to wear heels and skirts everyday all the time. I can't even begin to imagine what it would be like to clean house in heels and a skirt. My advice to you would be to negotiate..now it the time to negotiate. So while he is gone at work or whatever, and depending on whether you will be working or not, perhaps you could be in more comftorable wear and change into what he likes before he gets home. I have heard this sooo many times. Doms who have this fantasy about a girl being kept in skirts stockings and heels all the time..its just not realistic to dress that way 24/7. If it really bothers you..talk to him about it again. The time to negotiate these things is before they actually happen. Good luck.

(in reply to Vancouver_cinful)

Profile

Post #: 28

RE: Changing - 3/16/2006 8:57:36 AM

proudsub

Posts: 6142
Joined: 1/31/2004
From: Washington
Status: offline

Just wondering if anyone has heard from pita and how it's going.

_____________________________

proudsub

"Without goals you become what you were. With goals you become what you wish." .

"You are entitled to your own opinions but not your own facts"--Alan Greenspan

(in reply to submission22)

Profile

Post #: 29

RE: Changing - 3/16/2006 2:46:13 PM

Vancouver_cinful

Posts: 1911
Joined: 2/3/2004
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: proudsub

Just wondering if anyone has heard from pita and how it's going.

Yes, she has posted in the casual banter forum under Good Luck, Pita. She is having a wonderful time!! Her email to me was glowing!!

Cin

_____________________________

Cin

quote:

My Karma Account is huge, but I just can't seem to make a withdrawal!!

http://cinful.wordpress.com

(in reply to proudsub)

Profile

Post #: 30

RE: Changing - 3/16/2006 8:15:44 PM

TemptingNviceSub

Posts: 3054
Joined: 10/1/2005
Status: offline

Thank you for the update Vancouver_cinful.......I love the happy beginning she is experiencing..:0)......be well...Tempting

(in reply to Vancouver_cinful)

Profile

Post #: 31

RE: Changing - 3/17/2006 10:10:24 AM

liltess

Posts: 38
Joined: 11/9/2005
Status: offline

I can so simpathize with the anxiety Pita was feeling as I am at that transition now myself , whilst my Dom has informed me the door is open, he is giving me that time to step slowly towards it. The heels are a bit of a challenge but one I have seem to over come, I wear tennies, flats and flip flops alot but lately I have changed to heels, and in the long run they do put a sense of femanizm back in my stride making me feel quiet pretty and sexy, I really believe that is the ultimate goal for all Dom's demanding that not to mention how it makes a subs ass wiggle..*G* Anyways good luck pita and happy belated birthday.

(in reply to TemptingNviceSub)

Profile

Post #: 32